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post #1 of 29 Old 09-02-2013, 07:10 PM Thread Starter
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I hope I'm not the only one...

Who is greatly annoyed by people who seem to be sour about anything and everything in the horse industry and it seems like their way is the ONLY right way to doing things?

I have the joy of being so bored I join random Facebook groups and I have to leave most of them. The people are SO narrow minded.
As an example. Anyone who uses a gag bit of any kind is abusive. Anyone who uses a curb bit is a abusive. Some even go as far to say BITS are abusive.

We all know that abuse is in the hands of the rider.

Even training methods. If you give advice to someone that isnt the way one of these narrow-minded do-gooders wants you to do, its a sin!

It just annoys me to no end that people are so narrow minded.

Anyone else encounter this stuff?

BTW, i'm glad this forum is a bit more open minded and has many members that can accept each-others methods and disciplines.

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post #2 of 29 Old 09-02-2013, 07:12 PM
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What works best for one, is not always best for all.
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post #3 of 29 Old 09-02-2013, 08:14 PM Thread Starter
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The best part is when you post/say something that proves them wrong and they delete it because they are admins lol

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post #4 of 29 Old 09-02-2013, 08:32 PM
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I don't encounter that attitude much anymore. Mainly because I only hang around other horsemen. I have gotten pretty selective about who I'll spend time with.

Are their ways the same as mine? No. But, we all respect each other and enjoy seeing how things work for someone else.

Today I was grooming for a game when another groom came by. The player she works for wasn't in today's game. She jumped in and started helping and we compared notes on everything that came up. From wrapping legs to warming a horse up. Pretty soon the guys from the next trailer joined in. Then that chukker was over and it was half time. The players came back and we all had a good time discussing how and why we groom and ride differently.

Very different from what I hear many describe. I would pull my hair out, or better yet, pull the hair out from some of the "my way is the only way" folks I hear about on here!

And it does not matter to me what the breed or discipline is. It's all interesting.

Hope you find a tolerant horse community, too.
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post #5 of 29 Old 09-02-2013, 08:38 PM Thread Starter
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I've lived in a narrow-minded world my whole life, starting with my parents. I was the one to do all the reading and teach myself different ways of doing things and finding what worked for my horse (as there are SO many different ideas out there), I got funny looks, and into a lot of disputes with my parents over it.

And I cannot tolerate it in all these groups. And it seems to be the same people over and over again. And when I ask where they get their vast knowledge from, or their training and showing expertise, I get a bunch of vague answers.

I love "horsemen/women" that are just "virtual" horse experts.
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post #6 of 29 Old 09-02-2013, 08:38 PM
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I am not in a good horse community either...
I have a friend who I was trying to teach her more about horses - exactly what you have described is true.
Only her way works, everything I am teaching her is wrong, I am hurting the horses, etc.

None of my friends are TRULY interested in horses. They do it because I am in horse and one of my "friends" is only in it to try and prove me wrong in everything.
Just stay away from people like that and completely ignore them. It may be hard - but we will all live much happier lives.

That girl who is "proving" me wrong with everything, has also randomly become an expert on how to train horses. All of a sudden she "knows everything."
Everything that is "correct" with her is actually wrong and doesn't help the horse at all. It is very funny when she copies me in my riding and handling, but for some reason her horse isn't listening because she doesn't realise how important her body language actually is.
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post #7 of 29 Old 09-02-2013, 08:53 PM Thread Starter
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I determined some of these ladies are do-gooders that have watched "The Horse Whisperer", "Black Beauty" and "Spirit" too many times and own a few pasture puffs because everything and anything you do to a horse besides that is abusive XD
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post #8 of 29 Old 09-03-2013, 12:20 AM
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If it works for you and your horse then it's the right way. However, I was out trail riding once when we ran into a guy who worked with my hubby and I made him get off his horse while I took the bridle off so that I could turn it right side out. LOL
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post #9 of 29 Old 09-03-2013, 12:32 AM
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Facebook groups are horrible. I finally left my favorite group "Bit Swap" because there were people advocating the bike chain and barbwire mouthpieces...I couldn't bite my tongue so I left it. It sucked because that was a killer group for finding good bits at cheap prices, but I couldn't take it.

I am a member of a couple forums who are just a nightmare too, but at least not advocating abuse like that.
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Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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post #10 of 29 Old 09-03-2013, 01:20 AM
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Thank goodness I'm not the only one! haha I've actually gotten to the point where I'm terrified to board anywhere else because I'll be unhappy with the people there (or they'll dislike my methods and kick me out and I'll be riding home). I'm very selective of the horse people I communicate with and cannot stand know it alls or ignorant folk. Experiment with different methods there's no harm in it the worst that happens is you find out it doesn't work. Heck in my book if you want to ride in your PJ's on Tuesday with a baling twine bridle and cardboard box for a saddle because that's what gives you the best/most enjoyable ride go for it, your method, your preference, not mine.
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