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post #1 of 10 Old 11-07-2010, 10:04 AM Thread Starter
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Lightbulb I just had an epiphany!!

So after writing one of my recent threads, I got to thinking: Didn't I start riding for fun? To enjoy being around horses? I know, as a little third grader,I did not start riding horses to win ribbons, or to be the best. I thought they were the coolest, most beautiful creature around, and thought it would be the best thing ever to be around one.

These days, I over-think EVERYTHING about horses. Whether I'm worrying if we're doing everything correctly, or if something I'm doing is hurting my horse, etc. I'm always concerned about SOMETHING! I often forget to just let go, stop thinking, and have fun!

Do you guys ever feel this way? This is like the biggest thing that bothers me, and it usually prevents me from enjoying riding/horses. I'm really trying to work through it so I can be that excited little third grader again I love my horse SO much, and think that if I could just stop thinking and worrying about everything and anything under the sun then we would both enjoy ourselves so much more.

I have to keep reminding myself that in horseback riding, SO many things can go wrong, but the odds of those things happening are slim. If I always focus on those things, then what's the fun of that? Heck, in life, so many things can go wrong, too, but those aren't worth worrying over either. I just need to let go of my worries, and enjoy my beautiful horse! We'll both know if something is wrong, so there is nothing to worry about.

Well anyway, cookies if you got through that. I just wanted to vent and share my epiphany! Comments are welcome, especially encouraging ones! And have ya'll ever gone through this btw, or am I the only one? Thanks!
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post #2 of 10 Old 11-07-2010, 11:00 AM
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Ya, I had a similar one a couple years ago! I would always worry about what other people think of my riding. Do they think I look too mean or too nice? Do they think my horse is out of control? Then I realized, it doesn't matter, they haven't been through what I have with this horse, so they can judge me all they want but I am the one who can truly judge my own riding. After that riding got a lot more fun!
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Dreamrideredc; you need to just get into the spirit and inspiration of riding. That is what you did as a child. Now as an adult...with the knowledge and knowhow that you have...you need to let it be a part of that spirit, with confidence and joy.

Your horse wants to enjoy the ride and feel free, and if we are tense and worried it hinders the whole expression.

There is a difference between technique and feel. Golfers get their techniques, the fundementals...down pat, and then it must become all FEEL, attitude and inspiration, timing and rythm.

We wanna get to the place where we don't have to think too much about the fundementals; they become first nature...our seat, balance, posture. And then BE who we are on our horse...and let our horse BE who he is...with freedom and spirit, or else it is not worth it. We are on the wrong horse, and the horse has the wrong rider. We must FIT together.

People in sports, like figuer skating...are not really good until they can put "attitude" and personality into their routine. Do not forsake character, attitude, joy or personality for techniques. They must become one.

Inspiration and spirit is the best "zone" for spontaneous right timing and rythm, AND safety. Like a dancer...the music has got to be IN you. You get into the song and become the song. Become one with your horse, your surroundings...everything...and really FEEL the moment!

You will become a "dreamrider"!

-Only my horse gets away with touching my hat or stepping on my boots!!

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Thanks guys!
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post #5 of 10 Old 11-07-2010, 05:37 PM
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I think that slapleather really hit the nail on the head. I too had gotten to the point where all I ever thought about was the next lesson, the next show, how well were we doing, is my horse actually going to behave ect. It all became work for both me and my horse. She finally started acting up, rushing fences, taking off, running out of fences, running through the bit, and generally being a pain to ride. After 6 months of stall rest and rehabilitation for a torn tendon, I didn't take up lessons again, and instead just took some time off, rode a lot on the trails, just let her be a horse. Gave her her head, let her decide when she was ready to go back into the arena. She was doing pretty good, and had definitely settled down, though I unfortunately had to sell her, and I took 6 months off from horses completely, and really rediscovered the joy of just riding. I worked for a trainer, not so I could do more shows, but just so I could expand my knowledge, and have fun riding a variety of horses. In the last 3 or so years, I've only done 1 show, and I had a blast, and now I'm just having fun with my new Arabian, and keeping the joy in my life working with her. Good luck to you, and hopefully you can take a step back, and realize how joyful it is to have horses in your life.
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I had a touch of that mentality at one time and the thing that I use as a compass to guide me back to the correct fram of mind is to remember how incredibly lucky I am to even be able to ride a horse any ol' day. I remind myself to think with gratitude of all the blessings that come with horses. Gratitued, that is the key. If we can recall with gratitude all that God has given us and how amazing just BEING with horses is, then we can be more certain that we will not be blind to blessings that may come our way in the future.
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So true ^
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I got into the whole "riding because I have to" mindset. I figured that it was all I had ever enjoyed and so I had to still enjoy it. Instead of just chilling a bit, I avoided doing horsey stuff. I ended up selling my horse and although I miss her and kinda wish I'd kept it up, I also think the break is for the best.

I have a horse now, I bought him about a month ago. I was a bit "funny" about getting him because he is not going to be "brilliant". He's not going to be a great jumper, or dressage horse or eventer or anything. But he is calm and friendly, he learns well and he is smaller and just easier. He is going to be my fun allrounder. I've decided that I am only going to do what I enjoy with horses now.

Its hard, you get lost in the way things should be and forget that it is a hobby and you do it for fun. Take a step back for a while and really think about what you want.
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