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post #1 of 9 Old 08-30-2009, 11:58 PM Thread Starter
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I miss horses.

Its only lately I have realised that I miss horses.

Today I went for a horse ride (just with a trail place) and I haven't ridden for about 6 months, and not regularly for about 2 years. I miss them, I miss it. The owner was nice and let me ride a lovely Irish Hunter that he does hunting with. Every horse I seem to have ever is untrained or argumentitive and it was just nice riding a horse that listened, was responsive and didn't jog, or bolt, or pull or be lazy.

I want to get back into horses. I am too competitive though, I know that if I start riding I will start aiming for something. But I want to. I don't know. I want to get back into horses, I want my life to be about horses, and I am sick of people telling me that its not feasible. Now I am doing this stupid university degree and I want more.

Its so nice just to ride though, after not riding for a while.
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post #2 of 9 Old 08-31-2009, 08:19 AM
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Here's something you could aim for: keeping your horse experience casual and easy-going until you've got your degree. You could keep horses in your life in a recreational, soul-feeding way instead of a competitive way until you were in a better position to show or whatever. Why put yourself in an all-or-nothing position?
Your degree, presumably, will (eventually) allow you to have more freedom of choice with your life, even if you choose horses full-time. A good education under your belt is never a liability.
Never mind people who tell you your connection with horses isn't feasible. Just smile politely, thank them for their concern, and find your own way to make it happen. You can make that competitive energy and drive work for you here.
I missed horses for the first 30 years of my life, and now I'm making up for lost time.

don't worry, spiders, I keep house casually.
~ Kobayashi Issa

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post #3 of 9 Old 08-31-2009, 10:06 PM
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Yeah I know what it feels like, I miss horses too.
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post #4 of 9 Old 08-31-2009, 10:29 PM
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I know how you feel. I gave up riding for 4 years and just recently found how much I missed it. I'm getting back into riding by helping out at a barn that retrains OTTBs. I'm still going to school, working on getting a degree in something, but still learning and gaining horse experience.
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post #5 of 9 Old 09-01-2009, 08:59 AM
 
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Here's something you could aim for: keeping your horse experience casual and easy-going until you've got your degree. You could keep horses in your life in a recreational, soul-feeding way instead of a competitive way until you were in a better position to show or whatever. Why put yourself in an all-or-nothing position?
Your degree, presumably, will (eventually) allow you to have more freedom of choice with your life, even if you choose horses full-time. A good education under your belt is never a liability.
Never mind people who tell you your connection with horses isn't feasible. Just smile politely, thank them for their concern, and find your own way to make it happen. You can make that competitive energy and drive work for you here.
I missed horses for the first 30 years of my life, and now I'm making up for lost time.
^great advice.
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post #6 of 9 Old 09-01-2009, 09:13 AM
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Several years ago (OK, more then several years ago!) I took a 2 year vacation from horses. I sold my horses and trailer but kept my tack. During that time I gained weight and I developed high blood pressure. Since I got back into horses, my weight has come down and my blood pressure is more under control.

My wife and daughter (the one child who is still at home ... but that's a different story) both tell me how much calmer I am again. When things go wrong I find myself at the barn just cleaning tack or grooming my horses - that relaxes me.

If it's in your blood, it will always be. Find a way to be around them and it can be your escape when you need time alone.

I'm not arguing with you, I'm just explaining why I'm right.

Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.


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post #7 of 9 Old 09-02-2009, 04:34 AM
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I can't live without my horses....... when my mare (i only had her at the time) was away at stud for less than 2 weeks.. i was completely lost. My days felt weird because they are supposed to begin and end with feeding and looking after my baby... i felt so lost..!! i know how u must feel.
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post #8 of 9 Old 09-02-2009, 07:37 AM Thread Starter
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I think I have gained about 15kgs since I stopped riding, which is heaps. I feel horrible about myself everyday, but I am doing better.

I had a horse kind of for a bit since I gave it up. But it was the wrong horse for me, an unhandled/practically untouched 3ish year old. I had hardly any facilities, money or time. It was my only hobby and I wanted to have fun, which that horse was not. It also turned out to have a long term injury, a fact the PO had hidden from me, which, until I found out, made all my training not work ie. lunging, saddling, even picking up feet. It was so frustrating, and I felt horrible later on, but I just kept trying and it kept not working. My fault for not getting a vet check etc. So that kind of burnt me. I gave the horse away to someone who had the time and money to rehabilitate it and train it. I didn't like working with that horse, as she was difficult, somewhat unkind and there were heaps of underlying problems, she wasn't vicious but when I pushed her to do things (round yard) she got kicky (would try and back into me) and that made me nervous. I'm fine with horses generally, and I deal well with horses that need training, or general misbehaviour, but horses that can be almost dangerous make me really uncomfortable. I'm experienced with young horses, but don't have others to help me or facilities to rely on, which I find can be invaluable.

I'm afraid that if I get another horse I won't like it either. I love riding them, and seeing them, and being with them. More importantly its the bond that I feel with the animal. I've ridden many horses belonging to others, and its not the same as owning your own. Knowing you are responsible for them, and trusting them not to hurt you, even though they could. Being aware of another, fully, trying to see what they see, hear what they hear, so you can discover how they will respond. I ride horses now sometimes, but I want my own to learn about.

I just don't want to get my own, and then find out that I don't want it. Or something. If that makes sense. That my life doesn't work with it, even though I don't have a life right now. Things weren't great with my last one, and I don't feel good about it. If I get a horse again I know i'll fork out some more cash and get one I like, and that suits me. Maybe a 5 or 6 year old who is regularly handled and has a couple of years under its belt. Even if its just in stockwork. Training doesn't bother me, but I want to have fun.

I'm sick of not being anywhere, and not really having or wanting anything. I'm sick of not having goals and dreams. Horses make me have goals and dreams (however far fetched - Badminton here I come!), but I'm afraid if I find horses don't work I'll have nothing. But I can't understand how they couldn't work, because they make me happy.

Sorry. Rambling.
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post #9 of 9 Old 09-02-2009, 01:39 PM
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ah, life's about risk though, isn't it?
What counts is doing something, being proactive and not just sitting and waiting for life to happen to you if you know what I mean. If you grab horses with both hands and discover in a month or a year it's not what you want, there will be other things, but they might take a little searching for. The world is your oyster so to speak but it won't open itself for you. Don't worry about doing everything right and perfect the first time--you'll have a gazillion opportunities to succeed and to fail in your life; most of us do a lot of both.
It's always wise to be careful choosing a horse if you get one, but even if you don't find a soul-mate, you're bound to learn from the experience if you let yourself. It doesn't mean you blew your one-and-only chance to get the Perfect Horse,or the Perfect Life.
I think anyway the odds are in your favor that if you search carefully you will find a horse you can bond with and enjoy. Otherwise your soul may be telling you it's not the right time, and you need to continue learning about and experiencing horses through horses that belong to other people--not a bad plan at all. There will always be a horse to buy, at whatever point in your life you go looking.

don't worry, spiders, I keep house casually.
~ Kobayashi Issa

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