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post #1 of 32 Old 06-25-2020, 10:49 PM Thread Starter
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I need help, big time, I am hurting.

This morning when my granddaughter was loping my 26 year old horse, he went down on her. His shoulder buckled but he made sure he stayed down, until she got up. He wrecked his shoulder big time. She was okay, but Scotty wrecked his shoulder. The vet came and did the kind thing. A vet that I had never met before, from a local clinic that I rarely use, but very kind and caring man, he bawled with me when he put the horse down.

My granddaughter is fine, a bruised ankle but more upset about having to say goodbye to her horse. Children are resilient and she went off to see her cousins. I am fine too, I miss the horse terribly but I am very worried about his son that I own, also my husband that buried the horse.

His son, indy, is going absolutely nuts. I let him and another horse that I own out into the forbidden lawn after Scotty was buried. Indy will graze a bit but then he runs back to the grave site and stands there with his head down and screams. My husband is sitting in the car port, crying. What deep hoof prints this horse has left.

My question is, on average how long does a horse grieve? My husband I can help, my horse I cannot.

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post #2 of 32 Old 06-25-2020, 11:13 PM
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@waresbear , so sorry for your loss. Thank goodness your granddaughter wasn't hurt any worse than she was. And poor hubby and Indy with you trying to have to hold it all together.

Mine have always seemed to accept the loss of a herdmate pretty well but I had one mare that went nuts if you so much as moved one of her buddies into the next pasture. Worse than weaning a foal from a mare which was why I never bred her, I can't imagine what her reaction to taking her own baby away would have been. I'm thinking it would take her about 3 days to calm down with occasional bouts of hollering happening longer but not running the fence line anymore.

Is there any way you can put him in a pasture away from the grave? He's probably still able to smell Scotty.

Cyber hugs and hang in there!

R.I.P. JC 5/19/85 - 12/9/14. You made my life better.
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post #3 of 32 Old 06-25-2020, 11:26 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you JC, I will put them in the lower pasture which now has water access in the form of a little lake. I am sitting in the carport reminiscing about Scotty to my husband to make him feel better. I did not own Scotty when he was young handsome breeding stallion, but I worked for the ranch and I got to show him and train him. Those are the stories I am telling hubby while we watch the horses screw up our lawn, it don't matter, we need to see them. How Scotty was always the gentleman, when he was a stallion and I would ride him down the gravel road in a halter and lead rope, mares screaming at the fence but nope, just look straight ahead. ****! He was a great horse!

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post #4 of 32 Old 06-25-2020, 11:54 PM
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Scotty sounds like an ambassador of horses. One of those that get us hooked on horses in general and that are so special we'll never find another that even comes close no matter how hard we look. The grief you all are sharing is a testimony to how great he was.

I think sharing stories of him is the best way to honor him. I hope it's helping your husband.

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post #5 of 32 Old 06-25-2020, 11:56 PM
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@waresbear so sorry for your loss of Scotty. Very glad your granddaughter is ok.

When I had to have my old boy put down now 2 years ago. Ice who was big buddies with him, also did a lot of calling for his buddy. He looked and called for days even though he had cinder with him.

They do move on in a few days the calling out gets less. Time it just takes time. Sounds like you have some great memories to treasure for years to come.

Hang in there it does get better the hurt lessens. Cyber hugs
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post #6 of 32 Old 06-26-2020, 05:35 AM
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Sorry to hear Wares. I've found that horses who see their mate dead will grieve, but get over it relatively quickly esp if they have other mates.
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post #7 of 32 Old 06-26-2020, 06:31 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss...


No matter animal or human, we grieve when we lose one we loved...
Animals grieve too...
Time will help as will the memories you shall always have.
hugs.


hlg.
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post #8 of 32 Old 06-26-2020, 08:53 AM
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I am sorry to hear about Scotty. In 2016 I lost 3 horses in a span of 6 months. Our Appy mare was the only original left after that loss and she mourned for a few weeks. The calling subsided after a couple of days but she was just "off" for a few weeks and really got excited when she saw a horse trailer. it broke my heart. She did eventually move on and accept the new horses we eventually got.

Hang in there.
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post #9 of 32 Old 06-26-2020, 09:14 AM
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Very sorry to you and your whole family about the loss of Scotty.
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post #10 of 32 Old 06-26-2020, 09:15 AM
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@waresbear - I'm soooo sorry to hear about your loss.... I don't really have any input as I haven't lost my best friend yet but I'm sure I will be in the same boat as the 2 I've had have been best buds for 18 yrs... since they were both young. Sorry I'm no help which is why I didn't post sooner but wanted to say my condolences.
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