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post #1 of 14 Old 10-14-2010, 08:56 PM Thread Starter
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I need some help.

Ok I'm not even sure what category this topic belongs in but I have a snag. I need some advice.

So as most of you know, I just bought a new mare. That makes my herd count to...2! My 13 yr old gelding, Cherokee and my new 4 yr old mare, Smokey. She is supposed to be my boyfriends horse. A horse that once her training is finished, he will come out and ride with me. But now I'm starting to think having any horses is a mistake. My boyfriend's mom and step-dad don't like me having horses. I don't get why his step-dad doesn't, because he used to have a horse. Well they nag and nag and nag about me having horses and how they are a waste of time and money and how they are nothing but hay burning nags. Well it makes me mad because no one likes the horses but me. My boyfriend is even starting to make me wonder. So what I'm wondering, is should I sell them just to ease the tension? I love my horses more than anything and I would hate to get rid of them, but everyone is always saying how they're a waste of time and money and I don't know what to do. Ugh.

So should I sell them to make those guys happy? Or keep them because its what makes me happy? I know I should keep them but its just makes so much drama at home. I don't get how they don't understand how these horses make me so happy and I'm happiest when I am with them. Ugh..help.
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post #2 of 14 Old 10-14-2010, 09:16 PM
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post #3 of 14 Old 10-14-2010, 09:18 PM
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dont give up on what you love to make others happy. If they are going to complain. let them because its not like you are asking them for money or using their money so don't let them bother you. Now if you don't think your bf is going to do anything with the horse you got him maybe sell her but keep yours dont give up because they are nagging you about it

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post #4 of 14 Old 10-14-2010, 09:34 PM Thread Starter
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Yeah I know that is what I'm thinking. I don't want to sell her because he gets soooo lonely and skinny when he is alone. He is a total different horse. He doesn't want to do anything, he doesn't eat his oats...and for him...that is VERY odd. I think I'll probably keep her, train her and ride her myself. Cherokee won't want to do much when he is older so I'll need a younger horse. I just needed some support because no one at home is giving me any....
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post #5 of 14 Old 10-14-2010, 09:49 PM
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Don't give up what you love just because of other peoples' ignorance.

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post #6 of 14 Old 10-14-2010, 09:58 PM
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yeah just do what you want if they are going to be bums about it let them. this is what you love and it shouldnt matter what they think.

just a small town girl with a big town dream :]
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post #7 of 14 Old 10-14-2010, 09:59 PM
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Keep the horse-lose the BF and his family. If they are like this now, it will only get more annoying.

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post #8 of 14 Old 10-14-2010, 11:55 PM
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I agree with FranknBeans. This will tell you something about the future with your bf if you two ever went into marriage. YOU have to be #1 to him, so if he is being easily influenced by his mom and step dad, then he is not going to put you and your life with him first.
Just out of curiousity, was it his or your idea to get him a horse?
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post #9 of 14 Old 10-15-2010, 12:20 AM Thread Starter
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It was both our ideas actually. I asked him if he would ever get a horse and he said yeah probably because he wanted to ride to. So when we went to look at this mare, he absolutely fell in love with her and wanted to bring her home right away. Well now that we have had her home, he has been to the barn two times in the two weeks she's been home.
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post #10 of 14 Old 10-15-2010, 08:45 AM
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I don't understand why what your BF's parents say have anything to do with you.

You do your thing, you are willing to include him. Screw them and what they think. If he wants to be with your then he won't care either.
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