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post #11 of 25 Old 12-13-2009, 07:50 PM Thread Starter
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Well, I do appreciate that she actually TOLD us that has been feeding grain...despite the fact that we expressly said not to...but eh.

It's just...Lilly has been on cubes and grass hay for the past nine years of her life. She is healthy. According to her vet records, she has always been healthy. Why does this BO suddenly think she needs to change stuff.

I am protective over my horse, I admit. Hearing that someone is just doing what they wish with her despite our instructions, while I have not been able to see her for nearly a week...irks me. Am I overreacting? ach.
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post #12 of 25 Old 12-13-2009, 08:04 PM
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You are not over-reacting. She is YOUR horse and YOU pay the BO. Unless there is some kind of odd contract that would give the BO complete care and control of your horse you are definitely in the right and the BO is out of line.

So, the difficulty becomes in maintaining a good relationship with your BO. Maybe you could even ask her if she would appreciate a flag (instead of a blatant sign) of some kind on your horse's stall as a reminder without her having to worry about what other people might or might not think. She may have done this completely by accident; doesn't make it right, but it means that there may be a solution to the problem.
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post #13 of 25 Old 12-13-2009, 08:37 PM Thread Starter
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Oh, it's not an accident. She just refuses to think that there just might be other ways of feeding a horse other than her own system. We told her early on, around when I posted the other thread, that we wanted no grain. She said yeah, ok. So we thought everything was hunky-dory. But now it is known that she has begun giving grain despite this because "the horses are cold." I guess the weather gives her an excuse to not keep her word.

It's a normal contract, nothing strange that would allow this. Just a battle of wills. In any event I am relieved Lilly is going to be moved, but in the meantime I trust our BO just a little bit less and want her out of there just a little bit quicker.

But like I said...if my mother gets her way and the vet turns out to be not as reliable as I thought, nothing's going to change. Lilly will still be moved...but in the meantime the BO will be allowed to give her grain, which I just think is wrong imo. I thought m'mam was smarter than this.
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post #14 of 25 Old 12-13-2009, 08:50 PM
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I have worked with people at a stable who were like this. I even quit working there, and moved my horse because it got so bad. They don't respect the boarders wishes, along with other things.
It's either their way or the highway. We also had horses/ponies who didn't need grain, at all. Perfectly healthy without it. But she will completely ignore everyone else, and do it anyway. It got to the point where this lady would feed the ponies a FULL SCOOP of grain because she felt sorry for them when they watched her feed the other horses their grain. *slaps forehead*

If you have no way of moving your horse to a more trusted stable. The only thing you can do is complain, and a LOT of it. There's nothing that scares barn managers more than b!tchy boarders. A happy boarder = A happy barn manager. I'm not saying you have to be evil about it, but she needs to respect your wishes.
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post #15 of 25 Old 12-13-2009, 09:18 PM
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Pure and simple, this is YOUR horse - YOU are the one who makes the decisions.
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post #16 of 25 Old 12-13-2009, 09:39 PM
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I hope your vet is a good one. Have you shown your mom the Heat Index of hay/fiber over that of protein/grain? Or even your barn owner? I know it's pretty pointless to try and change her mind, but maybe some actual literature would make her think a little bit.

Or I could be living in a dream world...
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post #17 of 25 Old 12-14-2009, 01:57 AM
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Just to play devil's advocate, I'm sure the BO means well. She has probably been frustrated in the past by boarders who really don't know what is in their horse's best interests.

I am not saying you are wrong about the hay or are one of those ignorant boarders, however, in her mind you are wrong and she is doing right by your horse.

I'm glad you are moving Lilly, because this does seem like one of those differences in philosophy that probably can't be resolved. You believe your way is best for the horse, and she believes her way is best for the horse. It's not like she is being cheap or lazy or trying to rip you off.

You are better off at a barn where your feeding philosophies and the BO's feeding philosophies mesh better.
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post #18 of 25 Old 12-14-2009, 02:27 AM Thread Starter
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AlmostThere - yeah. She is not a bad person at all, heart of gold really. Just set in her ways. I guess I flew off the handle a bit. I've been stressing out about things and now it turns out I can't even count on our BO to do as we ask in regards to feeding? She has three other horses to look after and feed how she likes, why can't she just let it be with Lilly and let us...the owners...decide what to feed her, instead of continuing to go against our wishes.

In any event, we are are looking at two other places to move her. I am not particularly looking forward to having to tell our BO that we are moving out...honestly I like her a lot, but...I am, personally, not 100% comfortable with the situation as it is now. It can't be like that. After a small discussion this evening the parental unit seems to feel the same.
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post #19 of 25 Old 12-14-2009, 09:53 AM
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Its good you are looking for another stable. I brought my horse to college with me, because I would be to worried about her at home. My mom always listened to me when I came to horses, because she knew I did alot of research. By the time I was 16 I made most of the decisions about my horse, of course we always talked to our vet.

My mom trusted me about alot of things, because I went throught alot with my first horse. He had injuries all the time, some serious. He had a very hard time keeping weight. Your mom just needs some time to learn to trust you, that you know what you're doing with regards to your mare.

I give grain in small amounts once a day, to supplement hay, because its fortified. (12% Pellets only) You may want to look into a ration balancer supplement, since your mare is only getting hay.
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post #20 of 25 Old 12-14-2009, 12:10 PM Thread Starter
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She's getting hay and a ration of alfalfa cubes in the morning. She's been on this mixture for years and isn't suffering, lol. I assume we will need to start her on some sort of grain when she begins conditioning for endurance in the spring...more research is needed on that front. But at the present time she simply doesn't require it.

Man oh man, I wish I could take her to college with me!!
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