I think I may have a problem, help.
Long story short, I used to board somewhere else and though the BO is a sweet woman, she really rubbed me the wrong way, was constantly telling me what to do with my horse, and sticking strange horses she "rescues" from auctions in his pasture with him resulting in him being exposed to lice and actually contracting fungus. She also had an outdoor only arena with cement like footing.
I moved to a nice Equestrian Center that focuses mostly on Dressage and Hunter/Jumper. She trailered Cinny there for me and immediately bagged on the place and showed a lot of contempt. Our original agreement however was that Cinny would only be at her place as long as I leased her mare, who turned out to be chronically lame. She eventually cooled down and we kept in touch as I don't like to burn bridges. She said one day we should get together and trailer out for trail rides. I agreed but told her Cinny wouldn't be ready for that for quite a while. This was about 2 months ago.
So last weekend she called me 3 times within an hour on my cell. I was busy with my baby who was sick so called her back later. She said she had gone to the equestrian center to find me, which kind of angered me but I didn't say anything. I asked what was wrong thinking maybe something happened to her husband or she needed help with something (she's in her 80's). She said she just wanted to know if I wanted to trailer out for a trail ride. I told her no, Cinny isn't ready, we don't have a proper fitting saddle let alone a trail saddle, he was sore in the shoulders, and I think we should at least wait until next spring as he needs work in his training.
So, I go down to the stable and my trainer says "someone named S was looking for you, do you know her?" So I said yes and told her it was someone I used to board with that wants me to go on trail with her, and my trainer laughed because we both know Cinny isn't ready. So she told me she was nosing around and harassing people about how they were doing their horses and saying she was a trainer and all that and really rubbed my trainer the wrong way. I apologized to my trainer and agreed that my old BO is somewhat rough around the edges and doesn't really have much social manners.
And I blew it off as I spoke to my old BO. But then yesterday she called again while I was getting ready to leave the stable. I decided to call her when I got home, packed up and left. I ended up running errands for my mom and forgot all about it. Today I went down and another boarder, we'll call her M, told me that last night about 5 minutes after I left some rude woman shows up demanding people to tell her if I was there, where my horse is, etc etc which of course irritated M. It was as if she went down immediately after she called my cell and I didn't answer...and all she wants, according to her message, is she wants me to let her friend train Cinny....to barrel race.
So, the deal is, I don't want to burn any bridges, but this MUST stop. I have an uncanny way of sounding like a real B when it comes to communicating to other people that I can not tolerate something they are doing. I just don't know how to word it...but I can't let this become a habit with her. She is bugging other people at the stable and I know it would irritate me beyond my limits if she just showed up while I was there. I have seen her do this with other people when I used to board with her...she just shows up at peoples houses and then doesn't understand why they are irritated with her.
How do I word it, what do I say? I do occasionally like to spend some time riding with her but she can't just keep showing up and bugging the other boarders.