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post #31 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 01:46 AM
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Sandy-I've never ridden him before. She's ridden him from day one up until a month or so ago. It was just an idea, and I don't even like it. I doubt anyone else will either. Maybe I'll ride Gray Guy unless she asks for him back---which she didn't. Maybe she would like Fooler better than Gray anyway. Maybe Gabriel wants to try Kelly. I dunno.
I think sobbing during her lesson would indicate that she would like to ride the other horse.

The bottom line is realizing that you can't just take Gray Guy away from Cassidy. You switched horses for a day and realized that there is a communication issue going on between you and Kelly. Now it's time to finish what you started. Take what you just learned about yourself (that you are a capable rider and that you are lacking control over Kelly) and use it to become a better rider.

Ask your instructor to show you how to take control. Go into it knowing that you are capable -- because if these horses are as broke as you say, then you ARE capable of getting her under control. You just need to ask the right questions.
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post #32 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 01:46 AM
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You asked to switch horses for one lesson, and then decided you liked her horse better and now you don't want to switch back?
No offence, hon, but I'd be dropping you as a friend very, very quickly. It DOES sound as if you're quite used to 'getting your own way' and you don't seem at all concerned about your friend and what horse she wants to ride so long as it benefits you. Very nice.
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post #33 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 01:47 AM
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Hmm, dear, I think you may be a wee bit caught up in whose fault it is. :)

When you say "I don't take control very easily," what do you mean? Is you lower leg secure, and in the right place? Are you using your seat? Are you giving clear, correct aids?

More likely than not, she's fine. Riding horses is about communication, to put it pretty simply. That's why it's so important to take lessons, and ride correctly. You're just learning to communicate, if we take it to a very basic level. It's complicated, but more likely than not, you're having trouble communicating with her. Maybe you're not using enough leg. Maybe you're not secure enough in your seat yet for her to respect you.

It's where we all start; every single one of us has had trouble "controlling" a horse countless times, without exception. And more often than not, that trouble is entirely our fault. ;)

There's nothing wrong with that, but just remember not to get too frustrated. Focus on your own riding, and make sure that you're doing everything right before you immediately resort to being exasperated with your horse, no matter which it may be. I know that it can be difficult, but life is.

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You asked to switch horses for one lesson, and then decided you liked her horse better and now you don't want to switch back?
No offence, hon, but I'd be dropping you as a friend very, very quickly. It DOES sound as if you're quite used to 'getting your own way' and you don't seem at all concerned about your friend and what horse she wants to ride so long as it benefits you. Very nice.
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post #35 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 01:48 AM
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Are you serious? She was crying over riding your horse. How much clearer of a message can she send that she wants her horse back.

I think it benefits people to ride different horses. What bothers me is the way you are trying to just take your friends horse. If you can't handle the horse you are riding, then talk to your trainer. Maybe you can get a different horse and won't even need to stab your friend in the back.

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post #36 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 01:51 AM
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Hazels, I owned a horse for almost 4yrs that sounds like your stubborn mount. She had been a broodmare all her life, I bought her sent her for 60days training and quickly realized I had no clue what I was doing. After the 4yrs I have so much more confidence because I mastered most of her faults, I would only ride her bareback. She threw me after owning her a month, and I let her set fr 5 months. Needless to say she did not want to get back to work. She was stubborn, she was barnsour, and she was very foward if we were heading anywhere toward home. I learned to handle her bratty spells, I never truly enjoyed many of our trail rides it was always a battle. Not saying some of those battles weren't me she could probably read that I was dreading the ride. I had to rehome my mare over the summer, and I miss her dearly we bonded but she just did not like to work. My confidence was broken she broke it, but then rebuilt it by allowing me to conquer many of her downsides. She taught me so much, and I learned I have a better seat then I thought. a 380 degree turn while she is trying to trott(her conformation allowed for a very bumpy ride) while bareback and I staying on yep much better then I thought. I will be getting another horse this summer, a smoother horse this summer and a better behaved horse. I want to enjoy those rides, but now I know I can handle more then I thought and will be less likely to go for the dead head horse. Good luck but I say stick with the mare, talk to your trainer who may have some advice to get you on the right track with the ol' girl.
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post #37 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 01:52 AM Thread Starter
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//Sigh

I didn't think I could really enjoy my lessons until Gray Guy. It's just hard to explain. If she wants him, we'll figure it out. I realize now it was a terrible mistake to ask here, because obviously no one would understand or take anything the right way. To anyone actually trying to help; thank you. {Leah, Lace, Benny}

I've done so many things for her as she's done many for me. Cassidy would never drop me as a friend, and I wouldn't either. I've asked nicely before and I'll do it again---do not make assumptions about me or my friendship with her. It is extremely hurtful and none of your concern anyway, so just...stop. Please.

I appreciate most of the advice posted here and will take a majority of it under consideration.

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post #38 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 01:55 AM
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I guess I'm not sure what kind of advice you wanted. :\

Lots of suggestions have been made about what you can do to remedy the situation, which is what you asked for, I thought.
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post #39 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 01:57 AM
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Whatever, here's a potato.


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