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post #61 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 05:11 AM
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This situation, actually, should really be sorted out by the instructor, and his decisions would show the quality of his work. Lesson horses should not just be switched by the liking of the students, but be assigned according to the specific needs of each horse and student. A good instructor should also prevent such personal misunderstandings that sometimes come up between students regarding who rides which horse - it should all be handled by a knowing supervisor.

Not caring about who rides which horse... "Dead broke" horses, who give their riders such hard times that they don't even want to ride them (regarding Jelly)... Inadequte assistance and tutoring - regarding always having the same problems with one horse (Kelly) and not showing any progress - and letting to get away with that by simply changing horses!.. All of that doesn't look good.

Girl, I've riden tons of hard lesson horses in my time - the stubborn ones, the flighty ones, the uncooperative ones, young ones, old ones, all kinds of them. Sometimes I felt like giving up, like when I was given a particularly hard mare - and when I asked for a different horse I was told that I will keep riding this mare until I sort out at least one of my problems. And I did. All of that gave me extremely valuable experience in dealing with different horses - riding only an easy and likeable horse would have brought me nowhere! So appreciate what you're getting and stop acting like a spoiled child. At times like these...we just have to grow up.

And I understand the fun side of getting to be at the same lesson with your best friend, but you will get mutch further riding-quality-wise, if you just concentrate on yourself and the horse. Otherwise, you'll always be too busy to learn how to cooperate with Kelly.

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post #62 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 06:16 AM
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OP, I'm sorry, but it seems to me you don't really like horses and are only taking lessons because your mother and friend are doing it. I get no feeling of passion from you about riding or the animals themselves, just that it's 'fun' to hang out with your friend.

I also wonder at your instructor. Where was he when all this was going down? A GOOD instructor doesn't let his students decide which horses they want to ride, they're assigned ahead of time. That's like a teacher in a classroom letting her pupils decide on which lesson program she'll be teaching.

You're a very well spoken and obviously intelligent young lady, but this whole thing doesn't give me confidence that you really like horses or that your instructor seems to have any authority over his students.

You really need to ask yourself WHY you're taking lessons. If it's just for the camaraderie and not because you want to be a decent rider, then maybe it's time to find another activity in which you truly have an interest.

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post #63 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 10:06 AM Thread Starter
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Wow. Lots of replies.

Speed-Why would I drive thirty five miles out to the middle of no where and ride until dark and get my toes frozen off if I didn't like horses? I love horses! I honestly have no idea where your coming from with that. It was my idea in the first place, and Cassidy just decided she wanted to come. The only thing was that it was extremely difficult for me to enjoy lessons on a horse that I disliked.

I'm getting tired of the comments on my teacher. I've explained it before; I think he knows what he's doing. I could add more but I've done it before and no one listened, so I won't.

Also, if you're going to post, please stop with the spoiled comments. You don't know me, and I was said before, it's hurtful. Thank you~

I think that covered all of it.

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post #64 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 10:10 AM
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That's not how public forums work, dear. If you set up a thread, anyone gets to reply, no matter what opinions they are going to share, unless they are rude or harrassing. Which cannot be said about any posts in this thread - everyone's been blunt and honest to the bone, but helpful. Besides, I know that several of the people who have replied here, are very experienced horsemen - you should drop your pride and try to be more open. It helps with horses, too.

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post #65 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 10:13 AM Thread Starter
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I still don't feel judging my personality based on a website would help my riding at all. If they knew me personally, then that might help with my riding. But since it's all based on what they read in a website, they don't truly know me and shouldn't be calling me "spoiled" or a "brat". Just my two cents.

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post #66 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 10:20 AM
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By your own posts I got no feel that you actually love horses. If that's not the case, then good. I'd hate to think someone was taking lessons 'just because'.

As far as driving 35 miles one way to ride, so what? I drive 70 miles round trip every day to work, and when I get home in the middle of nowhere I have to feed and water after dark and get my toes, nose, and ears frozen off. So if you're trying to lay it on thick about how difficult and time consuming it is for you to ride, I don't think anyone is impressed.

You may not be spoiled, but you're certainly coming off as holier-than-thou with just a touch of entitlement. If that's not how you really are, then you need to stop posting that way.

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post #67 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 10:24 AM
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I still don't feel judging my personality based on a website would help my riding at all. If they knew me personally, then that might help with my riding. But since it's all based on what they read in a website, they don't truly know me and shouldn't be calling me "spoiled" or a "brat". Just my two cents.
Unfortunately we can only go on what you say and it does appear from what you say that you are spoiled and totally uncaring about your friend.
Also appears that you certainly are not a person whose word is worth anything. Remember you told your friend that if she didn't like your horse you would "totally" swap back? Then you didn't.

I also do not understand when your friend was crying why your Mom didn't instruct you to swap back. Or why she would tell you to tell your unhappy friend that NOW you need the horse for a while.

Appears spoiled rotten to the core to me.
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post #68 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 10:25 AM Thread Starter
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Well, I'm trying to act like that. I guess it just came off that way. Over the Internet, you know, it's hard to tell.

I was just saying that I wouldn't go through with it if I didn't like horses. I truly do like horses, and I really haven't said anything to make anyone think otherwise. Why would I be on this website if I dodn't like horses?

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post #69 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 10:28 AM
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Ok, if you truly care for horses, then why don't you just take the challenge and try becoming a better horsegirl by riding a difficult horse that takes you directly to your weak spots? These horses can teach us the best lessons and you will be very grateful to Kelly one day.

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post #70 of 143 Old 01-31-2013, 10:35 AM Thread Starter
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It's really difficult to learn on Kelly. She just frustrates me and yes, I cried on her too. I just feel that it would help me become a better horse rider if I could stick with the easier horse, even if just for a little while.

I can understand how I may have come off as conceded on previous posts. I'm not self-centered, and I don't know how many people noticed, but I'm trying to change my posts to appear less selfish. I don't know how well it's working, but I am trying and I'd appreciate it if people would disregard some of the snobiness in early posts.

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