I'm baaack! and need some confidence advice... - The Horse Forum
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post #1 of 2 Old 09-24-2013, 10:45 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy I'm baaack! and need some confidence advice...

Hey people who may remember me haha. I haven't been on in a long while. I ended up having an emergency C-section and then a baby girl in the NICU for 5 weeks then brought her home and have no time! As you other parents can about imagine.
Anyways, I got back on for the first time 2 weeks after my c-section and everything went great. I got on a few weeks later after doing some ground work for a week or two, and thigns went ok. My mare was very skittish which I attribute to multiple factors- she is naturally very hyperactive, it was windy, and it was our first time riding out of an enclosed space since the previous November. I rode her in July again this year. Well, I did more ground work with her and things seemed to be going well. We did a lot of communication work and went on walks to work on some personal bonding time.
And then here is what happened. I took her out for a ride and we were about 50 yards out of the yard and she just stopped. She was nervous from being away from her buddies, I know this for sure. But I couldn't get her to even walk back to the barn! She wouldn't budge except for trying to do some mini rears. She was coiled like a spring and since this was only my third time on a horse after surgery, I took the safe path and got off of her. When I got off I tried to lead her away from the house to see if she and i could walk away fine and she started to rear. She then ripped the reins out of my hands and took off like a bat out of hell.
When I found her about 20 mins later I was scared she had been injured (she went through a fence), and angry for what had happened. I tried to take her in and work with her in the arena. i hopped back on her and again she just coiled up like a spring. I got off again.
She NEVER used to be barnsour. i used to be the only one she needed. now it is like she is almost scared of me sometimes. I honestly don't know what to do.
I need a bit of a confidence boost. Anyone else out there lose a lot of confidence after being off for a while? I don''t know what happened. I used to be so close with her and now she and i are on such different levels that I don't know what to do. It makes me sad, and i am disappointed and frustrated at myself. What can i do to get us back close again like we used to be?
(we are moving her closer to us for starters so she won't be by her buddies)

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post #2 of 2 Old 09-24-2013, 11:10 PM
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Moving her away from the horses she is buddy sour with is probably a good start. If you can possibly afford it, I would send her for a couple of weeks to a trainer. I put my horse out in the pasture for several months a couple of years ago. She went psycho while vacationing. It was well worth the money it cost to get some professional help. Getting a professional is much cheaper than paying hospital bills.
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