Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Wide Open North Dakota, USA
I'm baaack! and need some confidence advice...
Hey people who may remember me haha. I haven't been on in a long while. I ended up having an emergency C-section and then a baby girl in the NICU for 5 weeks then brought her home and have no time! As you other parents can about imagine.
Anyways, I got back on for the first time 2 weeks after my c-section and everything went great. I got on a few weeks later after doing some ground work for a week or two, and thigns went ok. My mare was very skittish which I attribute to multiple factors- she is naturally very hyperactive, it was windy, and it was our first time riding out of an enclosed space since the previous November. I rode her in July again this year. Well, I did more ground work with her and things seemed to be going well. We did a lot of communication work and went on walks to work on some personal bonding time.
And then here is what happened. I took her out for a ride and we were about 50 yards out of the yard and she just stopped. She was nervous from being away from her buddies, I know this for sure. But I couldn't get her to even walk back to the barn! She wouldn't budge except for trying to do some mini rears. She was coiled like a spring and since this was only my third time on a horse after surgery, I took the safe path and got off of her. When I got off I tried to lead her away from the house to see if she and i could walk away fine and she started to rear. She then ripped the reins out of my hands and took off like a bat out of hell.
When I found her about 20 mins later I was scared she had been injured (she went through a fence), and angry for what had happened. I tried to take her in and work with her in the arena. i hopped back on her and again she just coiled up like a spring. I got off again.
She NEVER used to be barnsour. i used to be the only one she needed. now it is like she is almost scared of me sometimes. I honestly don't know what to do.
I need a bit of a confidence boost. Anyone else out there lose a lot of confidence after being off for a while? I don''t know what happened. I used to be so close with her and now she and i are on such different levels that I don't know what to do. It makes me sad, and i am disappointed and frustrated at myself. What can i do to get us back close again like we used to be?
(we are moving her closer to us for starters so she won't be by her buddies)
You have to learn how to fall before you can learn how to ride~