Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Spotsylvania, VA
Well, I spend my time "trolling" the forum usually while at work...a minute here and a minute there. I have my 2 horses that I do board at another place because I don't have the room. BUT...I'm the one who takes care of them. I feed and change water twice a day (before I come into work, and when I get off from work); clean stalls, when my guys are actually inside...twice a day when needed though; I'm RESPONSIBLE (both monetarily and physically)for ALL repairs that are needed on the barn or fencing...including buying new gates, posts, boards, and the web horse fencing to go on the OUTSIDE of the three 1X6 boards that are on the fence to hold the BO's 2 miniature donkeys in; AND I'm responsible for keeping both the barn and the tack room clean. My husband pays for NOTHING even though he's primarily the one who rides my little mare. No vet bills, feed, hay, farrier, repairs...nothing. I know that at times I struggle, have NEVER been rich...or had a sugar daddy, have never been considered by anyone to be snotty or spoiled...and believe me when I say that I have pulled myself up by my thin and frayed shoe strings more than a few times.
I have ridden since I was 7 or 8. I worked at a show barn for 5 years working the horses, showing for others, giving lessons, mucking stalls, feeding, and anything else he needed me to do just to semi-prepare myself to have my own horse. Not to mention owning off and on for the past 30 some odd years, having to sell or give horses away when I could no longer afford all the expenses. I've had many "accidents" myself...scrapes, bruises, losing teeth, breaking bones, injuring internal organs, and having to make trips to the ER and actually staying in the hospital for up to 10 days (at least one of those being in intensive care) because of my love and passion for horses. I will say that I learn lots from the horses themselves, and more from other people who have been involved horses longer and sometimes shorter amounts of time than I have. The people on THIS FORUM alone have helped me out more times than I can count. I'm learning more every day by being a "forum *****", and I'm LOVING every minute of it.
You're 18 and still have a lot to learn...as do I being much older than you. You're about the same age as my daughter (who I raised by myself), and loving her as much as I do, I can't shelter her or keep her from making mistakes. She's at the point that she's learning from life and her own mistakes. I don't think anybody's intention on here was to attack you...I know that wasn't mine. My first experience owning a "seasoned" horse was a nightmare...even though I had been around and working with horses for most of my life. I was offering my advice from my own experiences. If you took offense to it, I'm sorry. But I have to agree with the person who posted "Don't burn any bridges" in a previous post in this thread. There is a wealth of information on here. It's up to you whether you want to utilize it or not.
BTW...it's taken me over 2 hours to make this post due to my being at work. And I know nobody has noticed, but I normally don't get on here very much after work due to having other responsibilities that have to be taken care of along with the horses during the evenings.
Saying all of this, I wish you the best of luck in your first horse owning experience.
Honary "HFA" member...That's right, I'm admitting it!
BTW....That's NOT rain on your windshield!!!!