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post #1 of 5 Old 11-29-2010, 10:10 PM Thread Starter
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Inappropriate Instructor Conduct?

Hey guys. I'm having some serious issues at the barn I ride at and its starting to take its toll on me and my mom. I started at this barn just over 2 years ago. I was so happy because I thought I'd finally found a barn that can get me where I want. I had been to quite a few mediocre barns that just wanted fun and entertainment. The barn I ride at now is a serious show barn, the coach/owner was short listed for the 2000 olympics so I was excited. I noticed at first she was very strict and that was so we could get way way better. I started working for her as well. Recently though its gotten bad. I showed on my gelding this past summer and about 2 month's ago my mom was approached by a Warmblood breeder. They saw me at one show and was wondering if I'd take on one of their mares to ride, train and show next year.

Of course we said yes. The breeders sent a gelding to my coach for training as well. It went good for about a month. We were happy, lessons on this mare were going amazing. About 2 weeks ago she came up lame with splints. Okay not a huge deal, I've been icing her and hosing her these past 2 weeks. A month ago my coach was sent a mare by this breeder for training. A week ago my mom, coach and the breeder discussed it and decided until my mare got better I'd be riding this other mare as at the end of the month my coach stops training the mare. Last Friday I rode the mare. Saturday I came in to work for her and I got yelled at for riding the mare. According to my coach I needed her permission when the OWNER and specifically told my mom I could ride the mare whenever. I also got lectured because I "didn't sweep up or clean the wash rack". When I entered the barn Friday night the wash rack was disgusting, dirty and had a bunch of hay in it. The Learn to Ride group did not clean up after themselves and I got blamed.

So I was treated very badly on Saturday and rode in the clinic we had without talking to my coach. Sunday she treated me about the same, ignored me for most of the day. I went to ice my lame mare today and she ignored me completely. I got home with my mom to find out that my coach had told the owners if they wanted me to ride this non-lame mare they needed to find a different barn. I am thoroughly ****ed. This mare is apparently leaving tomarrow and she wasn't planning on telling me this when I infact have a lesson tomarrow.

I have reached my limit. I don't know what to do. I can't leave because the only other barns within travelling distance are mediocre fun barns. I have no indoor facilities at my house and no where near me to train. I'm at a loss. I can't take this anymore.
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post #2 of 5 Old 11-29-2010, 10:24 PM
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Your BO sounds like quite the drama queen, although this seems to be something that will blow over if you just give it time.
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post #3 of 5 Old 11-29-2010, 10:28 PM Thread Starter
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I'm hoping it will but what really bothers me is the fact that she knows I want to make a career out of horses and as my coach she should be helping me. Not telling people that if they want me on their horse they can find a differant barn.
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post #4 of 5 Old 11-29-2010, 10:39 PM
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I would give it a bit of time. Sounds like the owner's ego got bruised and she lashed out in "pain". She may come to her own senses in time, if you let her. Or, things may just simmer down and you go on. You may have to just stuff it in this time. Always keep the owner at a distance and as an employer and don't ever think she is a friend. That way you will not be disappointed by her bad behavior. Bosses can be bad. That, you know.
Let your lame mare get better, ride her well, get a good reputation with the owners and another door will open.
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post #5 of 5 Old 11-29-2010, 10:53 PM
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I agree with Tinyliny. While I miss lessons and the general atmosphere of barns I really don't miss the drama.

Hang in there! She's only damaging herself. Keep your nose clean. Smile nice, work hard and just do your thing.

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