Originally Posted by eventerwannabe View Post
Very interesting views Judecca! I do see your point, but like a lot of others, I dont see the point in saying something rude about ones horse if its not asked of (a.i. when someone just posts some pictures of their horse saying how proud they are of the for jumping 3' for the first time, then someone replying saying that their horse is ugly and that it shouldnt be jumping 3' because it sucks at it). Sure, someone is going to say something rude, there is no way to avoid that, but does that mean that we who done believe in that have to just sit there and take it? No.
You don't have to "just sit there and take it," but there's a point where it should just be let go. If a person can say something about another's horse, then someone else can say what they wish about what person number one has said. That only goes without saying. However
, people should realise that things like that will happen, and there's no need to take it to heart. Also, there's no need to make it into a huge drama worthy of becoming its own soap opera. I've been in many arguments where I've said things others thought were rude and unnecessary (not horse-related, but whatever), and they've just become crazy! Usually I'll then just be like, "Okay, y'all are taking this too far. I think it's time we be done. Bye." 'Cause there's no point in making it into such a big thing.
Plenty of times I've had people say horrible things about horses I love. My riding instructor, actually, used to totally hate my favourite horse of the barn. She was always insulting him. And I just accepted that she didn't like his personality, and that's okay. The horse I ride now a friend of mine says how much she hates, and I just laugh it off. She's entitled to that, right? And I wouldn't ask her to not say that just because I can't handle the reality of her feelings.