That is all a matter of perspective. If you called me fat and I got upset, you could say "Well Shayna, you have no reason to get upset, looks arent everything"
You don't have to have respect for the person, but you can have respect for their feelings or at the very least be courteous.
Not the same. My looks are important to me, and although I can accept that I'm unattractive, I'm hurt by being reminded of it. However, the horses I have had and love I did so because of their personalities. Their looks had nothing
to do with it. They were of no concern to me whatsoever
. They could have been the freaking ugliest things on the face of the planet. Hell, my favourite horse of the barn I often say he's got a fugly head - right to his face - because he does. But I still will walk into his stall and just rub and kiss him and hold his head as he nuzzles me. I don't care how he looks, I care about his personality. So if someone wanted to say, "Hey, that horse is freaking ugly," I'd just be like, "I don't care, he's a total sweetheart."
If I don't respect the person, I won't respect their feelings. Can't have it both ways.
Either I've not understood your beliefs wholly...
Yes. End of.