Issues at the track, sort of - The Horse Forum
 4Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #1 of 11 Old 05-26-2013, 02:58 PM Thread Starter
Started
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Lethbridge, Alberta, Canada
Posts: 1,635
• Horses: 2
Issues at the track, sort of

"Yesterday I lost it at the race track because our jockey condescendingly told me I need to learn how to hand off a horse in the paddock after the race. I got our horse back to the barn and when my mom spoke to me and I just broke down in to tears. I was incredibly humiliated and felt like I couldn't do anything because of how he spoke to me. I don't know if I want to return to paddock at the racetrack for my great-great uncle anymore because I would prefer to not paddock if this particular jockey is riding, but we don't have control over when he rides. So the question is, should I return and continue working or should I not?"

I posted this on another forum and received some, er, blunt responses. It made me think and I decided that I will continue to paddock at the track. I'm still not sure why I reacted the way I did, but oh well, nothing I can really do about it now. I now feel bad for acting that way. Life is interesting to say the least.
jumanji321 is offline  
post #2 of 11 Old 05-26-2013, 03:20 PM
Banned
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Southeastern PA
Posts: 9,470
• Horses: 1
What was the situation that led to the jockey talking to you that way?
AlexS is offline  
post #3 of 11 Old 05-26-2013, 03:26 PM Thread Starter
Started
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Lethbridge, Alberta, Canada
Posts: 1,635
• Horses: 2
What I think happened, was that I went to hand the horse off to the pony rider and the pony strap separated further up where she went to grab it. I think she ended up only grabbing one of the straps instead of both before she managed to grab both. My mother however spoke to the jockey later as I had to leave early from the track and apparently it was something I did with my arms. I'm going to speak with our head groom and see how he does it and compare to what I can remember and see if I can figure out what went wrong.

I'm positive that since he had a really bad race, he was upset as it was. He said to my mom that he did not mean to come off in the way that he did, but words don't always come out right when we are upset.
jumanji321 is offline  
post #4 of 11 Old 05-26-2013, 03:51 PM
Banned
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mountian back woods
Posts: 1,603
• Horses: 0
Sounds like the pony riders problem not yours- the jocky has no place humiliating you like that either- i could slap those kinda people silly!! How rude! If alls he said was 'somethin with your arms' makes me think he had no idea because you did nothin wrong at all. Dont let his ignorance keep you from doin what you love.
toto is offline  
post #5 of 11 Old 05-26-2013, 03:55 PM Thread Starter
Started
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Lethbridge, Alberta, Canada
Posts: 1,635
• Horses: 2
I'm sure he was more specific than something with my arms, but my mother confused me when she tried to explain it. I also think the horse might have gotten too far ahead of me. Thankfully nothing bad happened. If I did make a huge mistake then someone could have gotten hurt and that would have been really bad. It's strange how different your response is to the ones I received on the other forum. They gave me a good smack.
jumanji321 is offline  
post #6 of 11 Old 05-26-2013, 04:47 PM
Banned
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mountian back woods
Posts: 1,603
• Horses: 0
Quote:
Originally Posted by jumanji321 View Post
I'm sure he was more specific than something with my arms, but my mother confused me when she tried to explain it. I also think the horse might have gotten too far ahead of me. Thankfully nothing bad happened. If I did make a huge mistake then someone could have gotten hurt and that would have been really bad. It's strange how different your response is to the ones I received on the other forum. They gave me a good smack.
I just feel that- if hes gonna be so quick to jump down your throat- he shoulda payed enough attention to been able to tell you before it went horribly wrong anyway.. i wouldnt have let you make that mistake is all even if it was your fault.. yeah- i think im pretty fair about things, lol.
toto is offline  
post #7 of 11 Old 05-26-2013, 05:20 PM
Weanling
 
Join Date: Apr 2013
Posts: 635
• Horses: 0
The jockey didn't need to attack you like that. Next time you see him, I would let him know that you were offended by how he spoke to you. Let him know that you're open to advice or suggestions on how to do something better, but you'd appreciate it if he could be nicer about the way he gives you advice. Hopefully he'll be friendlier in the future.

Strength is not defined by physical ability. It is determined by your actions and the compassion of your soul.
Bagheera is offline  
post #8 of 11 Old 05-27-2013, 05:54 AM
Super Moderator
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: SW UK
Posts: 15,437
• Horses: 0
We all can get upset about little things when tensions are high. On this occasion you happened to take the brunt of it.

You are correct in asking about the passing over - the jockey regrets his words, forget it.

If this is the worse thing that happens to you then you are going to be jolly lucky in life!
boots and FaydesMom like this.
Foxhunter is offline  
post #9 of 11 Old 05-27-2013, 06:36 AM
Trained
 
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 6,345
• Horses: 0
I am not sure I am correct in the fact, that you are referring to handing the horse from yourself to another person while the jockey is riding said horse. But if you in any way endangered the jockey, then he has every right to tell you to learn how to do it properly. Maybe he did it condicendingly, but it is his livelihood and his life you are dealing with.
Clayton Taffy is offline  
post #10 of 11 Old 05-27-2013, 12:07 PM
Started
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Kentucky
Posts: 2,493
• Horses: 0
Sounds to me like you are just learning the job. Sounds to me like you simply lack experience. Sounds to me that you need to keep doing and learning regardless of what someone else says.

Who owns this horse? Your parents? Either way, that jockey was not the one who put you at the end of that rope. Don't let his hurtful comments get to you and KEEP DOING YOUR JOB. People with that kind of attitude do not last long in jobs. The person who put you at the end of the rope is what matters. He or she thought enough of you to put you there.

DO NOT stop leading. If you lack the finesse of an old hand who has been doing that job 5/10/40 years, then so what. In 5/10/40 years you will have that finesse too.
Posted via Mobile Device
FaydesMom likes this.
LadyDreamer is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.



User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Rate issues and 2nd barrel issues! HorseLife97 Barrel Racing 9 01-15-2013 08:35 PM
Knee issues = balance issues... need some help! Britt Rider Wellness 12 04-14-2012 10:44 AM
Health Issues Before Training Issues. ChingazMyBoy Horse Training 9 09-12-2011 10:46 PM
On the track Marlea Warlea Famous Horses 2 06-24-2011 01:50 AM
X track horse with jumping issues...what to do next? SallyBaby Jumping 16 06-03-2009 09:09 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome