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post #21 of 33 Old 01-02-2010, 10:23 AM
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What i dont understand, is if you think a person is being rude...why dont you just stop posting and leave the thread? Or if you are really mad,just kill them with kindness?

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post #22 of 33 Old 01-02-2010, 10:42 AM
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I have stopped posting in some threads because the argument or the emotional content just got out of hand.

I don't think everyone should agree with everyone for the sake of "niceness" or that it should all be kitttens and rainbows.

However, there does appear to me, a very new member, to be *a lack of respect* for other people's viewpoints or a lack of understanding that posters from different disciplines may have different but equally valid ways of doing things.

Things turn into slanging matches or get personal way too quickly. Posters often lack the ability to *respectfully* disagree, or have a constructive dialogue about where their opinions differ.

I also agree with the poster above that there seems to be a lot of "provocatative posting" going on - posting just to get a reaction or provoke an argument.

Yes, this forum is *much* better than one other horse forum I've visited but that's an awfully low standard.

I'm here because I like to read the ideas and opinions for other educated horsepeople, and immodestly believe others might want to read mine. All of the manufactured drama gets in the way of that, IMO.

Thanks to the OP for posting this.
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post #23 of 33 Old 01-02-2010, 11:23 AM
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Too funny.. Yes you are right its not what you say, its how you say it. I do like to hear both sides of the issues because that is how you make an informed decision on what to do. As stated you will never please everyone all the time, we have to learn to take it with a grain of salt and remember that WRITTEN comments may come across more harshly due to the fact that we cannot hear the tone in which the comments are being made : my point is made by the joking post that was misinterpited by the creater of this thread.... MOST OF US caught on that it was a joke from the beginning, but XO misread it, and felt it was an attack. That happens alot on the forums (all forums not just this one) I think that we need to read posts a FEW times to be sure we understand the intent in which they were made, and if in questions, perhaps we should try and ask the creator of such post to elaborate on what exactly they mean before we take offense. :) just a thought.. HAVE A GREAT DAY EVERYONE!!
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post #24 of 33 Old 01-02-2010, 11:59 AM Thread Starter
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haha im guessing im XO! hahaha:)

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post #25 of 33 Old 01-02-2010, 06:20 PM
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This thread was started in a joking manner? I guess I just don't see how the op could have meant it jokingly...

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post #26 of 33 Old 01-02-2010, 07:52 PM
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No, it wasn't- (xosonnylove1234 is sitting right next to me, dictating this) supposed to be a joke. I just think this is what is happening in the forum and it needed to be discussed.
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post #27 of 33 Old 01-02-2010, 07:58 PM
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I agree, I understand that people have differing opinions but we are all so set in our ways, we all hate to admit that the other person is right. Most of the time when we "debate" all we're doing is calling people named or being aggressive.
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post #28 of 33 Old 01-02-2010, 08:00 PM
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I think some people just need to grow a thicker skin.

From what I've observed, MOST posters are pretty polite. In fact, what some may percieve as a rude response, or harsh, quite often isn't. It's hard to read tone on the internet.

the only thing that EVERYONE can do to remedy this problem is to TAKE YOUR TIME. Both posting AND reading. If someone writes something that you first percieve to be rude, stop, read it again. Consider it from another perspective. THEN respond.

I enjoy a good debate. It widens my horizons, and I learn about things I might not learn about by being friendly.

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post #29 of 33 Old 01-02-2010, 08:07 PM
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The thing is with the "heat"; in real life people aren't as rude as on the internet.
Most of it is just ignorance, but I will agree with you that people do need to grow thicker skin, it just depends on what the skin is for..
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post #30 of 33 Old 01-02-2010, 08:13 PM
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That's true Equestriun. People certainly like to hide behind their keyboards.

And I definitely have seen posts that are simply, rude, uncalled for and not constructive. But sometimes when a debate is polite and mature and nothing rude is being said, some people still take offense to some things. And then I've seen the debates where both people are on the same page, but for some reason are having some sort of misunderstading, miscommunication, and the argument goes 'round and 'round. That's why I think we need to take more consideration both with our reading and writing of our posts.
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