This isn't directed at the OP as it is at Beau Baby. It really irks me when people assume that just because someone has money they are either trying to compensate for their riding skills or are abusive to their horses. Bragging about how you don't need expensive equipment to ride as well as you do does not make you a better rider. All it you are trying to do is put yourself above them on the totem pole so to speak. "Oh such and such has brand X expensive saddle, but I'm still better! Look at me managing without fancy stuff!" If you want to be judged, go show, you can get the ego boost if you win.
Again- it is not a crime to want nice gear. Everyone has something they want, and they usually make it a goal to save for it. If someone worked hard or got lucky and has money to spend, good for them. Being rich and able to afford nice things is not a crime.
Abuse is in the eye of the beholder. People scream abuse far too often when it is not. In this age when parents go to jail for disciplining their children, people think that any discipline to a horse is abuse.
Back to the OP: Since you want to be friends with her, I'd say it's slightly trickier, but I believe my advice stays the same. Don't talk to her unless she wants to be nice. Tell your coach you asked her, but she didn't give you a clear answer, and that coach needs to follow up with her if she wants her. If Anna contacts you about riding, tell her to contact coach. Tell her you don't want to be involved in whatever they decide. If Anna contacts you about being friends again, great, but don't get involved with her riding. If she doesn't, then she's the one acting immature.
Also: it would only be awkward if you allow it to be. If she ends up there and you guys haven't made up, just be polite. Treat her how you would treat any random person that just happens to ride at the same barn, friendly enough to make pleasantries, but not discussing heated topics. If she tries to be rude to you, just smile and walk away.
Last edited by ptvintage; 03-17-2010 at 11:35 AM.