Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: southern Arizona
I'm sure people get tired of reading my posts about Mia, but she's the horse I've ridden about 80% of the time. Mia is a sweet girl, mostly. She is honest, and usually gives you her best, up to the limits of her training or her fear.
But once in a while, she obviously thinks, "Who in the hell are you to be giving me orders?" And those are not fun days. Sometimes it only lasts for 10-15 minutes. I don't think she is actually testing me. Not in the logical sense of "I'm going to see if he can make me obey" - because logically, I can never make her obey. Her 900 lbs of muscle can pretty well clobber my 180 lbs any time she gets serious about it.
But she won't be in the mood, and puts up a fuss. Those are days where we spin around in tight circles, or go from a fast trot to an almost violent stop, all accompanied by head tossing, prancing, and attitude. I'd swear Mia can sweat vinegar, so to speak!
Those episodes are completely different from when she is afraid, or when her training has a hole. And yes, it is incredibly frustrating. More than once, I've returned from the desert hoping to see a truck parked next to my house with "I haul obnoxious horses to Mexico" written on the side! That is part of why I don't plan on ever riding her without tack.
I can't pretend I don't get mad - ask my daughter if I've ever shouted, "I KNOW Trooper is fine, but the **** &%$#@ I'm on isn't!" I try to focus on outlasting her, rather than forcing her to do something. The lady I took lessons from a couple of years ago said you couldn't force a horse to do anything. You could only limit some of its options and wait. That seems to be true of Mia, although I've yanked hard on her mouth more than once just trying to keep her out of the cactus! If I try to dominate her, her resentment or ****y attitude can turn into fear, and she's a pretty scary horse when she is scared. We've done 2 hours of repeated bolts in our arena, squirting diarrhea out the back like a green water hose...NOT fun. I don't ever want to do THAT again!
If I can stay patient but persistent with her (if not my daughter on Trooper!), then she will always settle down after a bit and end the ride with her acting affectionate and obedient.
That may be very different than the OP's horse. I don't know. Just offer it FWIW, if anything.
Oh - and the only time Mia has ever bucked was when my youngest daughter tried riding her. The ride didn't last 60 seconds. My daughter forgives me for losing my temper while on Mia...says she understands.
Riders ask "How?" Horsemen ask "Why?"
Last edited by bsms; 03-31-2013 at 05:57 PM.