Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: East Central Illinois
If you just let a horse wander when you are on their back you are a poor trainer. You MUST ride always with a purpose, even if the purpose is a boring repetition designed to create bone density by pounding. I Never let my horses decide when and what we are doing. If I don't feel like putting in the effort of training I won't ride that day.
You should spend some time online watching super well trained horses demonstrate what anybody can train their horses to do.
Lynn Palm, who has trained some of the calmest and most disciplined horses I've ever seen (including "Rugged Lark" and his get) teaches her horses to "come here."
Monty Roberts teaches rogue and frightened horses the "join up." Clinton Anderson, Dennis Reis and others teach horses to come forward, yield, and back up with very small cues. Your horse would really benefit from some serious ground training.
I've seen horses (online) that will lift up a hoof and wait for you. I've known a horseman who had a horse that would bow for him to mount.
The same is true with dogs and most people put up with a lot of crap from their dogs and their horses than they need to.
You are getting back from your horse exactly what you have put into him.