Normally I would never say this and I'm sorry.
If you came to me for help I would say:
I know this is the last thing you want to hear. I think you are in way over your head, and because of that both you and your horse are suffering. I think that unless you, not your horse, take classes to learn how to do basic things and how to work with your horse, things are just going to get worse.
I can clearly see someone who is afraid of her horse, which is probably the root of all your problems. Even if someone beat Gunther with a thorn bush and a club he wouldn't react like Chinga did. I'm guessing that this isn't the first time he has done this.
I really, really, hate to see a person and a horse like this. It makes it not fun for the rider or the horse. Maybe you should sell him? :/ I KNOWKNOW this isn't what you want to hear. I love
hearing about your progress and your love of him to death, however I think it would be best if you found another horse. It isn't a crime, it's the right thing to do. You remind me of me when I was younger, right down to your words of choice.
If I could I would fly down and help you! But I can't
I think Chinga would be a challenge for even the most experienced horse person, no doubt. Let alone for one who is still learning? He is a very hot headed horse who is willing to take full advantage of you. Just from his attitude in that 3min? vid I would not want him. I would say get rid of him asap.
I HATE seeing you post things like this, it breaks my heart. Even though I don't post much I do read alot of your threads and to me you're like a little sister. And coming from big sister I don't want you to go through this.
I just feel like you have used all of your resources and it's time. Get a horse that is worth the money you're putting into Chinga, one that is trustworthy and you can build a great relationship with.