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post #11 of 17 Old 03-10-2013, 03:40 PM
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Awe Iam so sorry for your loss

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post #12 of 17 Old 03-10-2013, 03:54 PM
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Hollylolly...Time. For both of you. Horses are a herd animal and I'm sure she will bond with her new companion, who is a stranger right now.
For us, tragic events are never forgotten. But over time it becomes easier to put them in a proper place in our memory and move on. I'm sure it is made more difficult for you because she is having a tough time. It's good that you are seeking someone to come help her. It will help both of you.
Please keep us posted as to how both of you (and the new companion) are doing.

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post #13 of 17 Old 03-10-2013, 04:41 PM
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holly- I know your EXACT pain..I lost my horse in a car accident. It was absolutely terrible. I think because she was taken so quickly from me. By the time I got out to the accident she was breathing, and I was kneeling next to her and about one minute from that I felt a jolt from her body and I new she was gone..My friend had a horse that was boarded with her (this was a small place, family friend owned..only 3 horses at the time) and when we arrived at the accident she was standing right next to my mare who had been hit. She never left her side until we brought her back to the barn. I had to have my mare dragged back to our barn. I was terrified to go in to the barn after that because that is where we had to keep her body until we could bury it (2 days later). May I add I have NEVER seen two mares get along like our two had. In fact I remember when my friend got her horse. The day my friend brought her mare home there was no fighting AT ALL. They instantly clicked. And were at each others side at allll times. After the accident my friends horse became a little different. The first few days she was almost grieving, wouldn't eat all of her food ect. After about 3 weeks she started picking on the one other horse out there (who was owned by my same friend) may I mind you he was under weight and we found out that he was 30 years old. She would beat him up, chase him off ect and that was NOT like her to do. Almost like the horse was bored. My friend became scared of her own mare. I think she was shaken up by what happened to my horse and was to scared to do anything with her own horse. It took months for her to gain the confidence and realize that her horse hadn't done anything wrong. I rode her horse quiet a few time by myself after the accident, but it took me weeks to convince my friend to even pick her feet out. After I got my new horse, things started to settle back down. My friend and I went for a ride and she couldn't believe she had waited t long to do so. It went just fine!

The moral of the story is, I felt like crap for months about my mare, I couldn't even stand to hear her name with out bawling. Give it time and I promise that it will get better. I think you just needed to vent to people that actually understand. Do not give up on your horse, it my friend took months for her to ride her horse but to this day still has that same mare! And I myself have found a new horse that I have almost owned for 3 years now. Don't give up on this horse, it may be tough now but in the end it will be worth it

Sorry for the novel and I didn't mean in anyway to take over this thread. I just wanted to know that it will take time and I understand

P.s the bay on the left in my avatar is my friends horse (the one who got along with my mare so well) and the chestnut on the right is my new horse

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post #14 of 17 Old 03-10-2013, 05:14 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone for your support, I really appreciate it! Casey, thank you for sharing your story, it is similar to my situation, and it's nice to know that things settled back down. I'm so sorry you lost your horse, it's so awful; I'm glad you found another horse (they never replace). I always think that they'd want you to keep going, it just throws you for ages, and I just needed to talk to people who would understand and be as sensitive as you guys. Thank you everyone
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post #15 of 17 Old 03-10-2013, 05:20 PM
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Its hard now but it wont be for long I promise! Though I can never replace my mare and man did I love her, I am sure happy with the horse I have now. I wish you the best of luck!
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post #16 of 17 Old 03-15-2013, 05:00 PM Thread Starter
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Just an update, Velvet is a LOT calmer now. She doesn't particularly like the companion pony, but she does like having him around. I think she loves him really, despite the ears back when he comes to her hehe

Thank you for your support guys, you helped me so much!
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post #17 of 17 Old 03-19-2013, 01:17 AM
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Don't forget you're probably giving off some vibes too. Take your time don't focus on schooling just 'play' with her be it jumping, a trail painting her braiding, try vaulting.

Basically don't set any goals
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