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post #51 of 56 Old 04-04-2013, 02:49 AM
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The only thing I have to contribute is a quick word of caution: you may have been riding for longer than she has, but keep in mind that you don't know everything.
It's tempting to want to swoop in and be the 'super helpful knowledgeable horse owner', but you're still very young. I think your best bet would be to direct them to a trainer and not try to take on any of their 'issues' yourself. By all means help with the smaller stuff, and give suggestions, but there is going to be A LOT that you will be wrong about.
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post #52 of 56 Old 04-04-2013, 08:40 AM
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Originally Posted by HorseMom1025 View Post
One good strategy that I have used with my neighbor is directing them toward resources that can help. (Books, videos, websites, etc.). That way, I'm not giving them an answer, I'm teaching them how to find the answer themselves. :)

It goes back to the old proverb: If you give a man a fish, he will eat for a day. If you teach a man to fish he will never go hungry.
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post #53 of 56 Old 04-04-2013, 11:31 AM
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Originally Posted by Dreamcatcher5 View Post
One thing, the horse wont be kept at a "barn". All the lady has is a few paddocks and a little shed for tack. That's another reason why I'm concerned. It's none of my business, but I'm a big softie when it comes to a horse's care That's one of the things annoying about myself.
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I don't find this the least bit annoying.
There is a way of teaching them without teaching.....for this kind of people....." you don't have a run-on in shed for your horse? But all the good stables have that"..... for example.
Sound really important. Convincing. Uppety. It might just make the girl think and tell mom.
I don't think they mean bad, they just don't know. But if a big name place has it, they'll try to imitate. Same with whatever else you see them do wrong.
I never said that... in case somebody asks......
Oh that's wonderful..... lets harass and demean them for things horses don't NEED.

News flash!! A horse doesn't NEED a barn or a shed or a formal arena or whatever else you are seeing at fancy stables.

My neighbors horses have a water trough, a hay feeder and a fence. That's it! All 8 are happy, healthy horses. Weather ranges from 100+ to -20+ and they all do fine.

I board the occasional horse at my place. Boarding consists of pasture, auto-waterer and a 12x12 run-in. You don't even get a shed for your tack, nobody has ever complained and all horses stayed sleek, shiny and at a great weight.

I board my horse elsewhere because *I* like the amenities of a fenced arena, an enclosed barn, discounts on Vet/Farrier call fees and so on. My horse however doesn't NEED any of it and has lived at my place in the past with no issues.

This poor girl is not your concern and the only one in the wrong would be someone harassing her because she doesn't care for her horse the way THEY might CHOOSE to care for theirs. Get over the fact that she is getting something you aren't and stay out of her business.
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post #54 of 56 Old 04-04-2013, 11:59 AM
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As some of the others have stated and then you stated in your last post, I wouldn't concern myself with how she cares for the horse until it becomes a health issue in your presence then you make a reference to it. If they respond with out care then call those who handle that type of situation.

I understand the girl's parents are thinking they can make it YOUR BUSINESS, as others are focusing their comments on, but you got good advice as to directing them towards places to get those answers themselves in order to keep your liability minimal for bad advice.

I hope for the best in the situation. I have seen, all to often, where some people get into "fads" until the thrill and glamour is covered up by the amount of work and effort it takes to get the short amount of pleasure. Then they move on to the next great adventure that lures their attention.

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post #55 of 56 Old 04-04-2013, 12:02 PM
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Delfina, I have to wonder why you are taking this so personally? The OP is young (under 18), she needed to vent (as many of us do), and yet she has shown a willingness to listen to advice and has stated her intention to not interfere.

We all get frustrated with other horse owners at times. It's the nature of the hobby. So many opinions, so many different ways to do things. I read the OPs vent and just saw a frustrated youth who could use some guidance to direct her energy and cope with a frustrating situation.

No one here is encouraging her to harass or demean the "poor girl". The majority have advised her to stay out of it and offered her suggestions for interacting with the girl if that girl starts expecting the OP to become her go to horse advisor.
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post #56 of 56 Old 04-04-2013, 12:25 PM
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I totally get the need to rant.
After reading all this, I'm just glad, for once, that I'm getting older.

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