Moral Dilemma - The Horse Forum
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #1 of 12 Old 10-10-2013, 11:28 AM Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2013
Location: Grand Valley ON, Canada
Posts: 186
• Horses: 3
Moral Dilemma

Hi All,

So a new girl at my barn just bought her first horse. The horse is super sweet and so is the girl. They are family friends of the B/O.

The girl is VERY inexperienced and knows very little about horse care. (She took lessons for 3yrs about 6 yrs ago and decided a couple of weeks ago she was ready to buy a horse). She is a little nervous around her horse and will not work with him without our B/O present, luckily this horse so far is very good and although only 4 and only knows basic commands, has been pretty easy going about the whole thing.

So here is my dilemma, as I have experience with lameness in horses (work as a vet tech for a race horse vet who deals strictly in lameness) and this horse is LAME. He is horribly conformed, has a club foot on RF with an inward rotation at the ankle (which is the foot he is lame on) and has an older obviously deep laceration on the front of RH P1 with extensive calcification of the RH P1 (you can feel it on palpation). I met the guy she bought the horse from as I purchased a used saddle from him before and I am fairly certain they purchase and resell horses for profit. Obviously this doesn't make him a bad person but I also think he purposely purchases horses with medical problems and markets them without disclosing this information. Now I could be completely off, but as the horse community in my area is pretty small, word travels.

My dilemma is if I should tell her this or not. She obviously didn't notice/know when purchasing the horse. I highly doubt the person she bought him from would take the horse back, and because I really don't know her at all, I don't want this to be taken in the wrong way.

I have had lame horses before and I know how frustrating it can be. Since this is her first horse, and he is only 4, she could end up with 25+ years of caring for a horse she ultimately can't do anything with.

She has had the horse for 2 days, and only worked him for the first time yesterday evening.
Cappaloosa is offline  
post #2 of 12 Old 10-10-2013, 11:34 AM
Green Broke
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 3,882
• Horses: 3
No dilemma at all. You should tell her. If it was you and your horse in this situation wouldn't you want to know? Because you don't know the girl very well you'll need to be tactful in how you tell her.
morganarab94 likes this.

"And somewhere in the northwoods darkness a creature walks upright. And the best advice you may ever get is: Don't go out at night..."
tempest is offline  
post #3 of 12 Old 10-10-2013, 11:36 AM
Join Date: Sep 2013
Posts: 142
• Horses: 0
I would say something but i would do it gently if it were me. And if i were her i would want to know
Posted via Mobile Device
Winterose is offline  
post #4 of 12 Old 10-10-2013, 11:42 AM Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2013
Location: Grand Valley ON, Canada
Posts: 186
• Horses: 3
That's what I was thinking, I just am having a hard time because it's not like she can return the horse.

I think I am going to bring it up to my B/O and because she is friends with them she may be able to approach it a little better without them thinking I just want to rain on their parade.
Dustbunny likes this.
Cappaloosa is offline  
post #5 of 12 Old 10-10-2013, 11:42 AM
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Just south of sanity
Posts: 16,508
• Horses: 3
I would want to know if it were my horse. I'm sure the girl wouldn't knowingly buy and try to ride a lame horse.

You want the truth? You can't HANDLE the truth!
Speed Racer is offline  
post #6 of 12 Old 10-10-2013, 12:03 PM
Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Colorado
Posts: 1,737
• Horses: 2
You might also want to put a positive spin on it by recommending a good local Vet and farrier, sounds like she's going to need to put together a good support team!
Boo Walker is offline  
post #7 of 12 Old 10-10-2013, 12:10 PM
Green Broke
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: NW Oregon
Posts: 3,218
• Horses: 0
Since the barn owner is a friend of the new owner, I'd make sure she is involved. That will give the owner a little support too, and not just make her feel overwhelmed and alone if there really is a problem. I whole heartedly agree with the advice to get a vet to examine the horse.
mls likes this.

If you ever find yourself in a fair fight, it's because your tactics suck. ~ Marine 1SGT J. Reifinger
Dustbunny is offline  
post #8 of 12 Old 10-10-2013, 12:35 PM
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 5,402
• Horses: 1
She can't return the horse but she certainly can make sure that his care and work takes those things into account. You should tell her.

Red flag is that the horse is lame and the BO hasn't seemingly said anything.
Posted via Mobile Device
AQHSam likes this.
DancingArabian is offline  
post #9 of 12 Old 10-10-2013, 01:16 PM
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: North, way up North.
Posts: 551
• Horses: 0
Tell her. As disappointing as it may be for her at first, she is very fortunate to have someone around who has noticed the lameness so early on.

JaphyJaphy is offline  
post #10 of 12 Old 10-10-2013, 01:41 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2013
Location: Grand Valley ON, Canada
Posts: 186
• Horses: 3
Thanks everyone, I'm going to put on my big girl panties and talk to her tonight. Any suggestions on how I could bring it up would be VERY appreciated!!!
Cappaloosa is offline  

Quick Reply

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.

User Name:
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:


Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Moral Dilemma with a BYB Cruiser Other Pets 18 03-19-2013 10:52 AM
A Moral Dilemma - Horse Dumped Broski1984 Horse Talk 63 12-09-2012 08:03 AM
Need some Moral Support..... Horse racer Horse Talk 38 08-17-2012 02:41 PM
Moral Dilemma- Some outside perspectives would be helpful! stephshark General Off Topic Discussion 18 07-07-2012 10:02 PM
I need help with a moral decision. Tymer General Off Topic Discussion 18 07-08-2011 08:16 AM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome