My dad doesn't want a horse!????? - Page 2 - The Horse Forum
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #11 of 24 Old 11-03-2010, 09:56 PM
Green Broke
 
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: Maine
Posts: 4,071
• Horses: 2
Yes, please give your Dad my thanks also.

Now, I don't want to be a downer, but, when I was a teenager (with a job too) I put together a very detailed plan on how I could buy and take care of a horse. My father looked it over very carefully and gave me praise on all the points I made and the careful consideration I put into it. And then he said.........no. I was crushed. But it was final, and in the long run , it was the right decision at that time.

So, all I want to tell you is to prepare for a no. It won't be the end of your life, although it will hurt. If he says yes, never make him question that yes.

Good luck to you,
Tess

Be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor each morning the devil says, "Oh crap, she's up!".
Walkamile is offline  
post #12 of 24 Old 11-04-2010, 08:30 AM
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: In a land far far away, or so I wish.
Posts: 12,825
• Horses: 0
What reason did your father give for saying no?


Owning a horse is not only a huge responsibility but also a pretty big expense. Might your father be thinking about the family budget when he is saying no?
Will you be boarding your horse? How much is the board where you ride? How much is the farrier?

How about making a spread sheet of how much your new horse will cost the family. Then have a column of how you are going to make this not be a big financial drain to them.


I think taking care of the other animals is a great way to show that you are going to be responsible. Clean the litter pans and the yard, walk the dogs, feed the cats and the dogs, brush them, etc, all with out having to be asked or bugged.
Alwaysbehind is offline  
post #13 of 24 Old 11-04-2010, 11:02 AM
Yearling
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: I cant tell, your strangers:)
Posts: 1,157
• Horses: 0
Sorry, I forgot to add something!!

Don't constantly pound him about it (especially since he just got back from afghanastain(sp)) Try to find the right times to bring it up. I have to be careful about that because my dads under some pressure.

Horses aren't just a pleasure, they are an escape from all evils of mankind.






wannahorse22 is offline  
post #14 of 24 Old 11-04-2010, 05:43 PM Thread Starter
Foal
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: North Carolina<3
Posts: 61
• Horses: 0
Quote:
Originally Posted by Alwaysbehind View Post
What reason did your father give for saying no?


Owning a horse is not only a huge responsibility but also a pretty big expense. Might your father be thinking about the family budget when he is saying no?
Will you be boarding your horse? How much is the board where you ride? How much is the farrier?

How about making a spread sheet of how much your new horse will cost the family. Then have a column of how you are going to make this not be a big financial drain to them.


I think taking care of the other animals is a great way to show that you are going to be responsible. Clean the litter pans and the yard, walk the dogs, feed the cats and the dogs, brush them, etc, all with out having to be asked or bugged.
He hasn't said no yet. he knows i want one and my mom and i have kind of been looking at a few horses and prices for vet care, farrier, ect. but we haven't actually sat down and seriously talked about it.
we will be keeping it at home so we have looked at prices for fencing and a barn but like i said it's not a definite yes or no. that's a good idea to make a spreadsheet, i'll do that.
thanks!

The essential joy of being with horses is that it brings us in contact with the rare elements of grace, beauty, spirit, and fire.
noogie the pony is offline  
post #15 of 24 Old 11-05-2010, 09:16 AM
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: In a land far far away, or so I wish.
Posts: 12,825
• Horses: 0
Do you have acreage at home? Do you know that the zoning in your area allows you to keep a horse there?
If zoning allows it then add to your package of stuff to show your father a print out of your property (aerial photo from Bing or such) with all the areas for various things (pasture, manure pile, barn, paddock/sacrifice area, etc) designated.

If you do all your research and present it well to your father (and if he can afford a horse) I am guessing he will be so impressed he will have to say, "yes".
Alwaysbehind is offline  
post #16 of 24 Old 11-06-2010, 11:05 AM Thread Starter
Foal
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: North Carolina<3
Posts: 61
• Horses: 0
Quote:
Originally Posted by Alwaysbehind View Post
Do you have acreage at home? Do you know that the zoning in your area allows you to keep a horse there?
If zoning allows it then add to your package of stuff to show your father a print out of your property (aerial photo from Bing or such) with all the areas for various things (pasture, manure pile, barn, paddock/sacrifice area, etc) designated.

If you do all your research and present it well to your father (and if he can afford a horse) I am guessing he will be so impressed he will have to say, "yes".
I just showed my dad all of my research and everything today. he was so impressed! he didn't realize how much thought i put into it!
and yes we own 5 acres plus the 25 acres where i am allowed to ride. and i asked my mom if we had zoning laws for our property, she said no because it's private. i don't know? i've got all the details planned out except the manure pile. i've read a lot about it but i really don't know about that yet?

The essential joy of being with horses is that it brings us in contact with the rare elements of grace, beauty, spirit, and fire.
noogie the pony is offline  
post #17 of 24 Old 11-06-2010, 11:13 AM
Gus
Banned
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: U.S.
Posts: 625
• Horses: 7
hahahah I like wannahorse22 idea that's a good one

but my mom like yours loves hosres, my dad has probably only been on a horse 3 mayb 4 times. My dad doesn't care for them so he just ignores them but freaks at the tiniest fall. That's what you have to be careful of since your dad doesn't want you to have a horse you gotta b extra careful cuz if he hears that you fell.....he isn't gonna be happy belive me! But honestly I have no ideas mayb tell him your very responsible and clean the dishes without being asked that sorta stuff
GOOD LUCK
Gus is offline  
post #18 of 24 Old 11-06-2010, 12:49 PM
Yearling
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: I cant tell, your strangers:)
Posts: 1,157
• Horses: 0
Quote:
Originally Posted by noogie the pony View Post
I just showed my dad all of my research and everything today. he was so impressed! he didn't realize how much thought i put into it!
and yes we own 5 acres plus the 25 acres where i am allowed to ride. and i asked my mom if we had zoning laws for our property, she said no because it's private. i don't know? i've got all the details planned out except the manure pile. i've read a lot about it but i really don't know about that yet?

That's great news! Make sure to keep us updated!

I hope somebody has answers for the manure pile question..because I have been trying to figure that out too!

Horses aren't just a pleasure, they are an escape from all evils of mankind.






wannahorse22 is offline  
post #19 of 24 Old 11-08-2010, 09:32 AM
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: In a land far far away, or so I wish.
Posts: 12,825
• Horses: 0
I am sure your mom was trying to simplify the whole zoning thing to you. Even private property has zoning rules.

Glad things are working out well.

There is a really good book called Horse Keeping on Small Acreage. I recommend you get a copy, that will answer a bunch of your questions.
Alwaysbehind is offline  
post #20 of 24 Old 11-08-2010, 04:23 PM
Yearling
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: I cant tell, your strangers:)
Posts: 1,157
• Horses: 0
Quote:
Originally Posted by Alwaysbehind View Post
I am sure your mom was trying to simplify the whole zoning thing to you. Even private property has zoning rules.

Glad things are working out well.

There is a really good book called Horse Keeping on Small Acreage. I recommend you get a copy, that will answer a bunch of your questions.
That is the best book ever! I second on getting that!

Horses aren't just a pleasure, they are an escape from all evils of mankind.






wannahorse22 is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.



User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome