Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: New South Wales, Australia
It is not fair that you are feeding her horse without anything in return. I used to have an arrangement where one owner would feed my horse in the morning a few days a week and on the other days I would feed theirs.
Facebook thingy - its a "public" place so either she wanted you to find out about what she said or she isn't very intelligent. If she wanted you to find out its probably because she's a mean person, and thinks she can treat you however she likes. If you go with the not very intelligent, then maybe her comments were genuine complaints on her behalf. I'm not saying that she was right, or that she should have posted, but its my opinion everything has a basis in truth. So think about what she said and why.
If I were you I would go onto the post (if its public) on facebook and say "As this is your opinion of me obviously you no longer want me to feed your horse, so as of tomorrow please start feeding your own". Perhaps I would txt her to confirm. Then have nothing to do with her. If she moves your stuff, you move hers, put yours back and leave a post it requesting her not to touch your things. People shouldn't touch your things anyway.
Otherwise call her and say you no longer want to feed her horse in the mornings (don't say you can't).
You may not agree with me hear but its my belief that people treat you how you let them treat you. I live with flatmates and they sometimes call me "scary". I haven't ever done anything to any of them, and I don't yell. The thing is though, I won't let people take advantage of me. One of my flatmates borrows the car of my other flatmate and he runs down the petrol, takes it for hours longer than he says, carts people around in the car. This happens daily - this flatmate has asked me a grand total of once to borrow my car, and he returned it exactly on the dot and put petrol in it.
When I am home, unless he lets us know about a party, he keeps his friends quiet and lets us know if over four or five of them are coming over. The moment I leave on a trip or something he has 20 + people over without asking my other flatmate, is loud, messy etc.
My point is that some people are a little too "soft", and I don't mean to insult you but if you are, people will use you for the rest of your life. I'm a nice person, I help people out, volunteer, but I don't let people use me. Feeding a horse for a friend once a week, or for a few days is fine, but doing something consistently for someone, without them doing anything in return ever, is being used.
Just evaluate your relationships with other people. I hope my advice helped. There are some really mean people out there.