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post #1 of 16 Old 05-28-2010, 11:09 PM Thread Starter
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Need help please

I am getting back into riding after 13 years. We couldn't afford them when I was younger which is why we got out of them. The opportunity arose for me to get back into them so I took the opportunity.

After looking at a few horses I settled on Storm. I wasn't able to ride him when I looked at him as it was raining. I felt a good connection with him so I put some money down on him.

As the week went on, I was a bit nervous as it has been 13 years and he is considerably larger than any horse I had ridden consistently as he is 15.2 hands.

I went to ride him today and it was a disaster. I didn't "feel" the connection with him this time. He was very flighty and spooked at EVERYTHING and he was being insanely headstrong. If I went to stop, he would instead flatten his ears and start backing up rapidly and do mini baby bucks. This only made me even more nervous. He ignored most of my cues and was just flat out stubborn. I ended up getting led around by the owner like a kid at the zoo. When I got off, I went in the barn and cried. I want to ride so bad but I am feeling he is more suited for someone beyond a beginning rider.

I am also aware that his jitters were a direct result of mine. I'm not totally ignorant when it comes to horses. I'm just feeling he needs a rider that is more experienced with a headstrong Thoroughbred. What do you think I should do? Should I wait and get a horse that is more aloof and a better fit for me or should I finalize my purchase of him and just take my time and work with getting him to trust me and vice versa?

Please don't flame me... I am simply looking for honest suggestions.

Thank you!
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post #2 of 16 Old 05-28-2010, 11:47 PM
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Buying a horse that you feel is beyond your ability will only hold the both of you back--he will become nervous, spooky, and just bad mannered permanently, and your confidence will take a nosedive.

I'd get you money back, and wait on the right horse to come along.
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post #3 of 16 Old 05-28-2010, 11:54 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks... Sadly that is what I was thinking too. He really is a great horse, I just feel he's too MUCH horse for me and my daughter both. They are really nice people so I don't see it being a problem but still. It was hard for me. Personally I feel I am ready to ride. Tonight made me question everything. I was so embarrassed and cried so hard. I also don't think they had standard cues for him as everything I cued him to do, he did something else. It was a bit backwards.

Thank you for responding. I am just trying to make sure its not my nerves getting the better of me
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post #4 of 16 Old 05-29-2010, 12:06 AM
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I'd keep looking. If you have your heart set on Storm arrange to ride him one more time and see if the last time was just you and him having a bad day.

But really, he doesn't sound like a good match. Next time you should make sure to ride the horse before you have money exchange hands.

Good luck in your search. Horse shopping can be so frustrating.

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post #5 of 16 Old 05-29-2010, 12:19 AM Thread Starter
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I know right? :) I am sitting here about to cry again because I just have this huge sense of failure ya know? I am going to try him one more time but I really truly feel he needs someone with more experience than I have.

Sorry... mini rant here... tears have started LOL... I am just frustrated. VERY frustrated. I KNOW I am ready to ride. I KNOW I AM. I just can't help feeling like I failed him somehow. I know I failed myself, there's no question about that! I guess I feel guilty because deep down I know he deserves more of a rider than what I am. URG. Why does this have to be so hard?
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You didn't fail, and neither did the horse! Think of it as dating...The money down was agreeing to date. Your first date went pretty awful. Not his fault, not yours. You just aren't suited for eachother. The good news in horses and in dating...there are plenty of fish in the sea!
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post #7 of 16 Old 05-29-2010, 12:36 AM Thread Starter
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LOL I like your analogy :) Thank you for making me smile!
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post #8 of 16 Old 05-29-2010, 12:42 AM
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Your welcome! Have faith, if this opportunity presented itself, im sure others will to. Maybe start out with a lesson or two, just to get your confidence all the way back. It never hurts to have more education. I've been riding consistantly for 20 years and I still take lessons a few times a year...just to keep myself in check.
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post #9 of 16 Old 05-29-2010, 12:44 AM
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I wouldn't try Stormy again. You already know he is not the horse for you. Stormy sounds like a handful, so why would you want to completely throw all your confidence out the door before you even get started. There are to many quiet beginners horses for you to even think of doing that. Find a horse that you can love and enjoy now and you will gain your confidence back and be so much happier. BTW, this isn't your failure...I even consider it successful, you came to realize that Stormy is not the horse for you and that you are not the person for him BEFORE you wound up bound to him. Keep looking and you will find the right horse for you.
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post #10 of 16 Old 05-29-2010, 12:58 AM Thread Starter
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Great perspective Sandy! I just have so much running thru my head! I would like to try him again but right now I am so fearful. I thought for sure I was going down at some point whether it be with or without him. I think getting back on him with the fear I have isn't going to make a second ride any better. I don't doubt that he is a great horse, I just don't think he's a great horse for me. I take the full blame. I really feel like I jumped in without testing the water first ya know?

Thank you all so much for the replies and understanding! Making me feel quite at home!
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