Long story short I am new to horse and am very green. Rode a couple of times on and off for about 4 years at the walk. I ride at a friends place she has about 20 horses and her daughter teaches lessons. Most of the horses there are over fed and underworked if that makes sense.
I rode a "beginner" horse they had for a while, he's good at building confidence on the ground and I trust him( thanks to her dad), he's just completely lazy and unmotivated. I've been riding him for about a year with no progress past a trot and this is barely staying on. Not to mention I'm still nervous about horses other than him.
I've taken a few lessons with the daughter but I don't feel like she's engaged enough. Unless she lunges me she's messing around on the phone texting or talking with other borders. The talking with borders doesn't bother me it helps relax me but the phone thing does. Also she has a very bad habit of talking down to me. Like I said I am new to horses so when a horse "acts" out I don't know what to do, (but I don't panic), however I don't like to hear "move out of the way" or "what are you doing give me that."
She's not really a big fan of ground work, and believes most of the time should be spent in a saddle, though there are no wet blankets. Needless to say there are horses that run me over when I lead them or lagging so far behind I feel like I'm pulling them. So I get yelled at by her because I am not correcting them, well if I knew what to do I wouldn't have this problem and yelling certianly doesn't help. Usually the correction ends up in some form of aggression, I understand that it is necessary when the time comes for it, but not all the time.
I like to spend time with horses and enjoy them, not rush to ride. I would love to own one but don't have the money to care for one. I like the place going out there because I learn a lot from my friend and her husband, but her daugther I just can't get over.
An event that happened yesterday was the last straw I've had with the daughter. It just made me feel like crap and made me question about riding anymore. I love horses and have a burning passion to become a better rider and work my up to cantering for the first time in life. However I don't trust the horses well enough to do anything.
There's one horse that I like in particular that is green broke. I just feel in my heart and in my mind that if I just worked with that horse the way I want to, I would be able to build a trusting relationship and that my confidence would improve. I want to ask but I am scared to. I know my friend will say yes since the horses belong to her but then I would have to deal with issues with her daughter and her single-minded "training"
Do you think this is a good idea? I have been looking at some of CA stuff for about a little more over a year and feel confident enough to at least attempt it with this particular horse.
First off, you need to find an actual trainer. Obviously working with your daughter is not only not turning into a good training experience, but working with family-in your situation does not work well. You need to find an actual trainer and work with him/her with both basic handling and riding.
As for horse ownership-it's of the most expensive hobbies you could ever get into. It will require a lot of time and will financially be very demanding. You will need to plan for basic health care needs, you will need to have money set aside for emergencies, you will nee to have money each month for board and you will definitely need lessons.
From the sounds of it, you are fairly new to horses and definitely need to learn basic horse handling before you could even be let alone with even a veteran. I definitely don't recommend a green horse for a confidence booster-VERY BAD IDEA.
My advise to you, is go find a trainer who will teach all about horses the proper way, and when you have more experience in a couple years, then look into getting your first horse. Until then I definitely would not be looking into owning one.