Needing Some Suggestions On New Horse - The Horse Forum
  • 1 Post By TrailRiderr
  • 1 Post By Thunderspark
  • 1 Post By existentialpony
  • 1 Post By HorseLove42
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #1 of 8 Old 02-21-2013, 07:44 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Wisconsin,USA
Posts: 27
• Horses: 0
Needing Some Suggestions On New Horse

In December I got my first horse. Have wanted one my whole life and finally was able to make it happen. I fear that I rushed in way too soon though. I found a great horse( 4 year old) and fell in love with her right away. Without looking at any other horses.... And here is where it all started. I bought her even though I am a beginner rider. I had been told she was going to be great with a beginner rider and I do have a trainer working with me and her. Well, we just dont seem to click. I was told she wasnt spooky at all, but in the indoor arena thats all she does. We do good with each other on the ground, but im soo nervous in the saddle now with her. I am not sure what to do. Im absolutely certain this horse would be amazing if I were more experienced but I have lost confidence in the saddle now. Has this happened to any of you? That maybe you rushed in too soon and ended up with a horse not suited for you at all? I really do love this horse and I really dont want to sell her as I only had her for a little while. not sure what I should do!! Please if you have any suggestions let me know!! I am new to horses and am trying to learn :) I just think I made the mistake of buying pretty and young :/
Posted via Mobile Device
HorseLove42 is offline  
post #2 of 8 Old 02-21-2013, 09:04 PM
Join Date: Jul 2012
Posts: 181
• Horses: 2
Hi there. I kind of know what you are going through. I had a young, pretty horse just as you have described. He was very spooky and over reactive. He made me feel the way you did. I lost all my confidence from him. I loved how sweet he was and I had owned him since he was a weanling so I was very attached. I bounced back and forth about selling him and when he turned 5, it was a hard decision, but I ended up selling him to my trainer who really liked him. That was two years ago and I am just now confident enough to take on another horse similar to him only he is not quite as spooky. I do not regret selling him, I am much happier now that I had a chance to get my confidence back up. He just was not the right horse for me. Only you know the right decision for you, but the longer you wait, unfortunately the harder it gets. Good luck!!
HorseLove42 likes this.
TrailRiderr is offline  
post #3 of 8 Old 02-21-2013, 11:12 PM
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Brandon, Manitoba Canada
Posts: 1,052
• Horses: 4
sorry you are feeling that way........I also did the same thing 8yrs. ago......I bought a 3yr. mare with 30 days of riding on her and I hadn't ridden in over 30yrs.!!! She was spooky, scared of everything!
I still have her now, she will be 11yrs. old this spring and she's the best trail horse anyone could want!
The first few months I did alot of ground work with her, spending time just grooming her letting her get to know me and trust me........I rode her for the firt 3yrs. with a bareback pad and just her halter out trail riding with others, yes we did some 360's but she always stopped when I talked to her and calmed down.......I think it really helped her and I bond with the time I did spend with her.......good luck on your decision, do what's right for you........
HorseLove42 likes this.

My horses are the joy in my life.....
Thunderspark is offline  
post #4 of 8 Old 02-21-2013, 11:34 PM
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Tucson, AZ
Posts: 740
• Horses: 1
To be honest, the age of this horse does make me think that it might be a good idea to sell. But I also wanted to ask... has this horse forcefully bucked or reared, or caused you to fall off? Has his behavior been unsafe? If yes, I would absolutely sell. If he hasn't seriously tried to hurt you, I would have a long talk with your trainer because the question is then: do I have the time to put into this horse, or do I want something a bit more finished?

Here's what I think the problem is: this horse has your number. There isn't trust or respect, which makes it easy for him to spook and misbehave with little regard for what you think or tell him. It also makes it hard for you to have confidence! And that becomes a vicious cycle.

It takes a lot of work to earn the trust of a horse so that they look to you when they spook, instead of spinning and bolting away. When I bought my gelding (also in Decmeber!), he seemed rather "bombproof." Needless to say... no horse is. ;) But after putting in time and effort on the ground and in the saddle, he will spook in place at most and wait for me to let him know if it's okay to move forward. Sometimes he'll refuse, and I'll whap him on the butt and he'll give a threatening crowhop-- but as long as I don't lose my confidence, he'll back down and we will move on happy and safe.

With the help of your trainer, you might need to spend some time on groundwork and share a few "arguments" in the saddle to prove to your horse that you are a good leader (even if you have to fake the confidence at first)! The question is whether you want to go down this path or start new with another, more seasoned horse.
HorseLove42 likes this.
existentialpony is offline  
post #5 of 8 Old 02-21-2013, 11:48 PM
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posts: 760
• Horses: 1
Posted via Mobile Device
hemms is offline  
post #6 of 8 Old 02-21-2013, 11:54 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Wisconsin,USA
Posts: 27
• Horses: 0
Thank you all for the replies. Usually when she spooks she will just kind of bolt and im just not expecting it of course. She hasnt bucked or anything like that. Havent fallen off of her. Has bit me before while working on the ground. Definately dont think she has a lot of respect for me. Pretty torn with what to do. I do board her and there is a lady who also boards there who is willing to buy her. I just dont like the fact of giving up....I do think a horse with more training would make me feel more confident though.
HorseLove42 is offline  
post #7 of 8 Old 03-13-2013, 03:51 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Wisconsin,USA
Posts: 27
• Horses: 0
UPDATE::::: My keep her! In just a short amount of time we have really started to figure each other out. I Have been working on lungeing and had a few great rides where the spooking was extremely minimal in the saddle! Only happened once on our last ride and it was just a spook in place and she didnt go anywhere. Also found out that she had never been ridden in an indoor arena before. And lets just say she is a completely different horse out on the trail. We went on our first trail ride after my last post and apart from her wanting to "go" and actually getting into a full gallop at one point, we had a great time and I did gain more confidence with her. My biggest fear has always been a horse taking off with me on their back and now that it happened, I actually feel better about it because I got her to listen to me when I wanted just a walk. We still need more work for sure but I think things are going to be alright! No spook on the trail on that ride, but we will see when we go again. There was a guy riding his horse at a gallop all around the field we were in and he was always way up ahead and I think thats the reason she "took off". I appreciated everyones comments and am very happy with how this is turning out!! :)
Thunderspark likes this.
HorseLove42 is offline  
post #8 of 8 Old 03-13-2013, 03:57 PM
Green Broke
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Northwest Florida
Posts: 4,370
• Horses: 4
Congratulations.. and look forward to many more postive posts in regards to your new found stability.
Roadyy is offline  

Quick Reply

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.

User Name:
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:


Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Little boy needing a Horse or Pony. Horseygirlsmith Horses for Sale 1 04-28-2012 07:20 PM
New to the horse world and needing suggestions on training young horses Eos Horse Training 4 10-09-2011 10:46 PM
horse has pus coming out of wound needing help! alichawhittaker Horse Health 6 12-01-2010 12:06 AM
Needing saddle suggestions!!! BeckyAnn Horse Tack and Equipment 3 12-13-2009 09:49 PM
needing some advice on horse euthanasia mulletmaster Horse Health 8 05-05-2008 03:29 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome