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post #1 of 33 Old 09-03-2009, 09:43 AM Thread Starter
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Nelson's Story...

And it is sad indeed

I have a horse that has a hard time bonding with people, because humans have hurt him time and time again. Right now, I am trying very hard to prove to him that I'm the real thing, but he wont allow himself to let his heart go. He wants to, but I have to work for it.

Lets start from the beginning. This happened about a year ago, maybe a bit longer.

I had an animal communicator talk to him, and this lady knew nothing about me, nor him. Just showed up and was accurate beyond accurate.

She kept talking about "The Girl" whom Nelson calls her. Nelson said that "The Girl" brushed him everyday, kissed him everyday, rode him everday, and would even sit in his stall for hours reading books to him and carrying on conversations with him. They competed together and did everything every young girl and horse do.

He came to love "The Girl" very much, and she woud show up at the barn every single day for "many summers" just to be with him. Then one day, while he waited for her - she never showed up. And again the next day, and again the next day.

"The Girl" just dissapeared and it broke his heart. No explanation at all, nothing.

Then he was around a new owner, and another new owner and another unti we met.

He grew dull inside. He says that all Humans want are his abillities and don't care about him, as a horse, as a living creature. Humans use him for 1 thing and then when they are finished with it, they dump him.


So I got home and started to do some research.

I know he was bought off the track at the age of 2 or 3. I know the person who bought him, so I contacted them. Asked allot of questions, but very little was given back.

All that I was told was that he, along with 10 others were bought and brought to the farm and then sold right away. I asked who bought him, and it was the name of a very reputable Hunter/Jumper in the area. So I called him.

He owned him for a few years, went A Circuit Hunter/Jumpers - but the only reason why he was bought was to make something out of him to make a profit in sale.

Who was he sold to? "The Girl". I searched for her last name and knew her location of residence since it was given to me by the Hunter/Jumper - so I found her number and called.

She wasn't living in Michigan anymore, but I got a hold of her parents and talked to them. They were very surprised to hear Nelson's name and asked me a ton of questions, while I tried to ask them a bunch of questoins.

Turns out, that "The Girl" did love him and used him for a few years. Boarded him at the barn he was first brought to when he came off the track. Her Parents said that "The Girl" would be out there everyday to be with Nelson, after school, weekends, holidays. She loved him and that is why it broke her heart when she had to go to college.

She never said goodbye to him, she just got on the plane and dissapeared from his life. The barn he was at, knew she wasn't around anymore - but her Parents were making payments on a monthly basis for his care, which turns out they didn't put that money into Nelson.

He ended up loosing allot of weight because he wasn't being fed, and he was not being ridden - so "The Girls" Parents decided to sell him.

He went to a very reputable Dressage Barn. Was there for a few years, and at this point he was very depressed. He was taken 3rd level and then sold for a profit....

And then he was bought by his previous owner *Before me* and used for 3 years with her...and then me.


So back to the start - he last lost faith in people. He is at a new barn now because the previous wasn't working out for either of us - and he has bonded with this mini pony named Angel. He loves her dearly, and she has bonded with him.

A friend showed me this video, that I wanted to share with you - my heart is broken to know what Nelson has had to go through, and I am trying very hard to prove to Nelson that he is my star, my one and only.

I told him that, but his response was "That's what "The Girl" said and look what happened"

So I am in between a rock and a hard place - stumped as to what to do to prove to Nelson. We've been together for 2 years already, and he said "You'll find a younger and prettier horse and dump me" which is what his Previous owner did to him. That is how he entered into my life because his previous owner bought a young horse off the track and put Nelson on the back burner...

Anyways - here's the vid. It really opened my eyes:

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post #2 of 33 Old 09-03-2009, 01:44 PM
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That video is amazing. It really opened my eyes as well.

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Your story and the video just about broke my heart! I don't even compete but I know I don't spend as much time with my ponies as I could or should. I want to run home and give them both a great big hug!
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I literally read this thread, shut off the computer, and went out to give my horse a hug/spa hour.

Give Nelson a hug for me. It's going to take some time, but I'm sure he'll get there.
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Thanks everyone! This has been a long process for Nelson and I, and I have been thinking that I need to have the Communicator come back out to do a "release" session with him.

I spend so much time with him, but he continues to compare me with "The Girl". I talk to him all the time, I groom him, and I do all I can do as a companion, owner, friend - but he just wont let me break through.

I can't blame him though, can you? I mean - he's been bought, sold, bought, sold countless times and gone through many riders/owners who told him the same thing.

Any ideas?

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post #6 of 33 Old 09-03-2009, 09:59 PM
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I must admit I am not a fan of this communicator stuff. But, in respect to your opinions, if this really is it, can "the girl" come out to see him and tell him she loves him and wants him to have a happy life with you?
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She's gone. Vaminose. I soke with her parents and she is long gone to college and university. She was invited to visit Nelson over last winter's holiday season, but she never showed up.

I send pictures of him and us to her parents on a regular basis so that they can see him, and I've invited them - but he doesn't know them at all. All he knew was "the girl" and how much he loved her and gave of himself to.


On another note, with the Animal Communicator - I ask, Why not? Yes, I firmly believe that people are given gifts, and communicating with Animals is one of them. Yes I also believe that 3 out of 10 are true and honest with this abillity.

I think outside of the box that society wants us to follow. There is more to this world than black and white. I believe we all have this power, as of now we only use 10% of our brains, think of the power we would have if we were able to use more.

Just because Animals do not speak verbally like we do, that does not make them any lesser of beings than we. Just because they do not speak words like we do, does not make them any less intelligent, less emotional than we.

Just open up your mind, think outside of the box and you will be surprised with what you find that exists out there - stop living and thinking inside the box.

I have 3 very close personal friends who are animal communicators. One can only hear horses, the other 2 can hear all animals - and the stuff animals tell them, will break your heart.

It makes me sick to know what Human Kind does to animals on a daily basis.

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I'd actually love to have an animal communicator work with Diesel...I'm just very nervous about how to know what is the real deal and what is not.
There was a girl on here awhile ago that claimed to speak with animals. She claimed to be able to speak with them over long distances and was going to do a reading with Diesel...unfortunatly, she seemed to have dissapeared.

Whatever helps you and your horse, I support.
I don't think you're going to be abandoning Nelson any time so with time, I think Nelson can start to understand that too.
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MIEeventer, Nelson will come around, it took a long time for him to get where he was when you got him and it will take a long time for him to get back to where he wants to be. I am a bit shocked that "the girl" won't come see him!! Wow what I wouldn't give to see my old show pony again. She is the only horse I ever let go and it was not my decision. (I was 15 and my parents got divorced, I would never have wanted to sell her) I am sure she is long gone, but if someone called me today and said I could see her again I would drop everything and go there no matter what. I miss her so much. Darnit now I am crying!!!
I am a forever horse person as is my barn owner and most of the boarders at our barn.
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post #10 of 33 Old 09-04-2009, 05:27 PM
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Amazing that the girl supposedly loved him sooo much, was broken-hearted to leave him behind and now won't come to see him? I guess the truth of the relationship is out now. I'm sure she cared then, but probably it was the stereo-typical little-girl-loves-horses-grows-out-of-it thing. And that's not meant to demean her. It's very common, very normal and to be expected.

At any rate, allow yourself more time with him. Some animals take longer to come around than others.

~~Thinking outside the box? Oh yeah. I do actually. I have some wicked "supernatural" stories that I would swear by and creep out most people. Just this communicating with animals thing is too far out of my comfort zone I guess. Especially the ones that claim they can do it "long-distance".

Good luck with Nelson. I know you've been patient, but continue to be. You know he is in a good home and loved and for now that is your reward.
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