As far as Nelson goes...I think he's beginning to get the idea. But speaking as someone who has trust issues and understands them, it's going to take a couple years to really work them out. And he's probably always going to have a fear that you're going to leave him, and no matter how hard you work, it's always going to be buried somewhere in his mind. But you're building up his trust. The big problem for him is, you're telling him he can trust you - if you do anything to break that trust, he's going to be worse than ever. If, for some reason, you ever have to sell him, let him know exactly why, and that you don't want to. Then, if possible, let several people who are interested come see him, and let him pick who he likes.
It's funny FoxTrttrGrl - we are now back at the barn where he was "abandoned" *I hate to use that word because he really wasn't, it's just in his mind he was* and he is very happy. The moment he got off the trailer, he knew exactly where he was. He even tried to go back into his old stall.
Everyday, when I head out to the barn *I don't get out there until after 5:00 during the week because I work 10:00 - 5:00 Monday to Friday* and the moment I get into the barn, he puts his head out of his stall and looks at me.
It's like, how does he know I'm there? But, never fails, he's there looking out his stall door for me.
I love him so much, and I could never let him go - but that "what if" is always in the back of my head, due to this horrid economy. And that terrifies me, it absolutely scares me. I could never do that to him.
And it's funny too - because he was given to me by his previous owner. She talks to horses, and when she handed me the reins, she said "He chose you". So here we are.
I bought Scout after class let out for the summer, and we bonded all summer. He's my baby, and I tell him that I love him and I will see him again in a couple of weeks whenever I leave for school after a weekend home or a vacation. My younger sister cares for him and her own gelding while I'm gone, but he greets me with an enthusiastic whinny when I walk into the barn after a week away.
I think that's wonderful! He obviously loves you and I love that you're honest with him!
And you have me crying! That's so sad about your Johnny. But you know what I was told by my "Horse Talking friends" - is that they can hear you, even when you are miles away. You just call their name, see them in your head - and they are connected with you.
He knew how you felt and he knew why you couldn't be there, and he heard you - I promise you that. You didn't abandom him, and he knew that. **HUGS**.
I had a "connection" with a horse clear over in British Columbia, Canada *I'm in Michigan*. A friend showed me a picture of a horse that she owned at the time, older mare.
I looked at her picture, and I started to bawl my eyes out. The tears came out uncontrollably and I had no reason to be crying. I felt this heavy sadness when I looked at her and it emoted out of me.
I asked my friend, what was her story - and it truely was sad. She was left behind by her owner. Her owner had her since she was a Yearling and they were together for years - until the day her owner moved to England and left her behind. She was another Nelson - but never let it go.
She blammed herself till the day she passed away, as to why her owner left her. And she never was able to let it go. She was a very sad horse - and that was the only time I ever "Connected" with a horse - that I know of.
I believe we all have the gift to do this, but due to society thinking inside the box, we lose that gift when we grow up and believe it is hogwash and not acceptable. So that part of our minds are closed and locked.
I think we all can open up that part of our minds if we truely accept it and believe in it - it is about stepping outside of that oppresive box that we are put into at birth, and start seeing that we are more powerful mentally, than we're taught to believe.
I am with you on that as well. I do believe that there are people out there who are there to take advantage of us "believers" and are duds and fakes. But I also believe that there are people out there with this gift that was given to them.
But it is our job to find them. I think out of 10 people who claim they have this gift, only 3 truely do.
I have 2. So I'm blessed on that part.
And I think it is great that you were able to experience it first hand. Again, we need to beable to step outside of that oppressive box that we are raised in, and open our minds to what could and what really is out there. We only use a small percentage of our brains capeabillities, and I do believe that there are certain people out there, who've been given the gift with that certain part of their brains activiated, to beable to talk to animals.
I wholeheartedly do believe that. I think that there are too many out there who discredit the intelligance of animals. Just because they do not speak to us in our language, does not mean they are less intelligant than we are - and those who have that gift, are truely blessed. I'd give anything to beable to open up that part of my mind.
If anyone is interested, I have both of my friends on my FaceBook page that you can get in touch with who I can 100% attest, that they have this gift.