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post #11 of 23 Old 09-17-2010, 09:36 PM
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Originally Posted by PaintsPwn View Post

It's so much work to be ever so lacking in rewards.

I went to my first APHA show and rode the CRAP out of Cowboy the first day to try and get him from being a jerk.

I thought this horse and I had a bond, but I guess that's just roses, glitter and fairy tales.
These are very telling statements.

What rewards? Ribbons and money?

Your horse was a jerk. How much of that was you and not the horse?

Do you ever have fights disagreements with family or friends? Does that make your bond any less glittery?

If it's about ribbons, then maybe it's not really about the horse. It's more about prestige.

Horses act out for a variety of reasons. They aren't meant for the discipline you are trying to do with them, they are burnt out (which your horse could be very well saying WTH like you are), he's hurting, he's having a bad day. They aren't perfect. Even the very best trained ones have crappy days.

My horse has days where he's just in a flat out craptacular mood and wants nothing to do with me. It doesn't mean our bond is any less strong. I would never expect him to be all sunshine and butterflies every time I see him.

You can do one of two things. You can suck it up and realize that horses are a lot of work, but the rewards are far greater than body clipping and scooping poop. You can get yourself some help including have your mom step up to the plate and either sell the mini's or turn their care completely over to her.

Or, you can walk away.

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post #12 of 23 Old 09-17-2010, 11:07 PM
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I think you need a horse that you can rely on.
From what I'm reading it sounds like your horse IS alot of work, maybe sell him and get a horse that you can leave in the paddock for a week then get on and ride with no fights, stop showing just have fun.
or go to local shows, fun shows that doesn't matter if you don't place.
I think your putting to much stress on your self, I ride now to de stress my self from school, friends, the normal life.
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post #13 of 23 Old 09-17-2010, 11:26 PM
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If you are soo peeved about having to put work into making a horse "show ready", then there is no point for you to be in horses. All horse will act up at one point or another. Some will do it more frequently than others, but if you only keep your horse around just to see his "white lard butt" in the pasture...sell him and get another horse. One that is more show minded.

You do have a point with your mom's horses, but if you are under 18, you are obligated to do what she says. If you have issues with the work distribution, talk to your mom about it; don't just go in there and throw a tantrum because you feel you are doing all the work.

The general attitude of the posts is what I am using to base my opinion on. If you really hate it this much, start putting up for sale ads.
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post #14 of 23 Old 09-18-2010, 12:43 AM
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Well this sounds like you had a rough day and are tired of having to work your horse to the ground before a show. I think you can get out of horses or you can get one that is less challenging for you. Either way, something should change because you are not happy right now and life is too short to be unhappy.

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post #15 of 23 Old 09-18-2010, 07:58 AM
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How long have you had cowboy?
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post #16 of 23 Old 09-18-2010, 08:35 AM
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I really think your burnt out. God i think we all get that way!!! and Showing is such a demanding sport and it takes it out of you. I know someone said this. I think you need to sit down with yourself and just figure out what "you" want. What will make "you" happy. There is nothing wrong in sometimes just wanting easy. I know the feeling of no rewards aswell. I had a hack that i put "everything" in to. and he was a dream and then when i took him out i would have to ride for hours before we got into the ring just from him to crack it. So i ended up just having to cut my loses. And i loved him so much and he was very expensive but in the end i did what made me happy. I bought a new horse that does make me happy. There is nothing saying you cant get out of it for a few years and come back in (just dont sell everything). I think a lot of people posting are being very critical and negative. I mean just because you are tired doesnt mean you shouldnt be in horses because i dont think there is one horse person who hasnt felt this way or will feel this way...Even the most dedicated, and talented riders have asked themselves is it really worth it and do i really want it? Theres only two answers to that question and that will probably be the final answer. So just be happy :) do want you want.

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post #17 of 23 Old 09-18-2010, 08:48 AM
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[QUOTE=PaintsPwn;752238]1.) I don't expect my horse to be 'perfect'. But to be perfect and for him to show his *** one minute later isn't going to fly - so yes, he is going to get disciplined for that. It'd be all fine and dandy if it was the first time he did it, and I'd think "Hey something might be wrong" but like my trainer said - He's JUST like his daddy. You have to work him into the ground to get him to work for you.

That doesn't sound very fun! For you and your horse! Maybe there is a reason he continues to do it. Just like you don't like doing all the work for the show maybe he doesn't like doing all the work at the show and it just isn't for him. I wouldn't punish him for not enjoying his job! Thats hypocritical. I think you either need a more laid back horse like some of the other post said or do something else thats more for fun! maybe gymkhana, Trail riding or barrels or something? Because then you have the competetive aspect without the extensive prep. I don't blame you for not wanting to shave ponies all the time! I agree that you should talk calmly with your mom about it and maybe work something out with her. Don't quit! You'll miss it!

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post #18 of 23 Old 09-18-2010, 09:51 AM
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It sucks to not enjoy your horse time. Maybe you need a break, maybe you need out and maybe you need a more willing partner. Good luck to you....
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post #19 of 23 Old 09-18-2010, 10:19 AM
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I don't think 'working him into the ground' is the answer tbh. Lottie is always a stroppy mare but I accept her for that and stop her misbehaving by firmly counteracting her, e.g. making her halt for 10 seconds when she wants to speed off. If I just rode her round and round and round to try and get her tired enough to comply, I'd never get her respect and we'd never be a partnership. For me, that 10 minutes at the end of a session when she is complying is most definitely worth the 30 minutes I've just spent being patient with her. There are ups and downs but at the end of the day you should feel you're getting some sort of reward.

I'd say either get a new horse that you can ride for pleasure and pleasure only or I'd leave it. You shouldn't be doing it if it's not rewarding for you.

Good luck with whatever you decide, sorry if that all sounded really harsh!
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post #20 of 23 Old 09-18-2010, 08:47 PM
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I agree with the others, I think you're burnt out.
Do you have to show? I know showing can be very draining, and maybe you just need to take some time off and chill. Spend time with your horse that doesn't involve competition. Brush him, take him for a long walk, or go on a trail ride. Just relax.

I've felt like that before, too. It felt like I was working my tail off for nothing, especially when my horse acts like a total jerk (which is somewhat frequently), and I started to wonder if it was even worth it. But then my horse nuzzles me and rests his chin on my shoulder, and I mentally slap myself for ever having such a ridiculous thought. I couldn't imagine myself without my horses.

What would you do if you got out of horses? Do you have another interest? I think you need to take a break, take a chill pill, and then think things through when you've cleared your head. I hope things work out for the best, whichever direction you choose.

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