Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Breinigsville, PA
• Horses: 0
Newbie Friend with Rescued TB - VENTING
I need to vent...
So, I met at girl when I first got back into horses at a horrible barn with a crazy BO/trainer. The BO talked her into adopting her OTTB mare around the end of August. She took lessons for about six months when she was about 12 years old and has trail ridden at public places now and then over the years (she's now 22). So, the old BO/trainer convinces her to adopt this 14 yr old TB mare that is blind in her left eye from cataracts, is showing signs of cataracts in her right eye, has navicular in her right front leg, and has major pin firing marks on both front shins.
The first time the girl rode her horse, she fell off and broke her collar bone. Nobody is really sure what happened since she wanted to get the feel for her without anyone watching. That was the beginning of Sept. She recently moved to the barn where I am currently riding at, and was cleared by her dr to return to riding. I am now realizing how little this girl actually knows. She doesn't know how to handle any horse on the ground, doesn't know how to tack up, doesn't know to clean up after herself, etc. The BO is nervous about her riding alone, so she has spent numerous nights teaching this girl how to pick out her horses' feet, lead her around, tack up, and stays with her in the ring for fear that she could get hurt again. The BO cut her a break on boarding b/c she told the BO that she was an intermediate level rider, how great her horse is, and that the BO could use her horse in lessons. The horse has been lame since she arrived (apparently, the owner decided to pull her shoes off, not understanding her navicular). So, the BO has no horse to use in lessons, is basically giving her free private lessons every time she's there, and the rest of us have to help her with EVERYTHING she tries to do.
I'm just getting really annoyed. I've sent this girl lists of books, websites, and magazine articles to give her more info about her horse's medical conditions, basic riding, basic horse care, etc. She doesn't bother to look at any of it. She doesn't pay attention to the way anyone does anything around the barn and it's up to us to do everything for her. Stupid stuff, like whenever her horse is on the cross-ties she poops and one of us has to pick it up because she just stands there and looks at it. Even my fiance has picked up her horse's poop twice! Last night, we all stood around waiting for her to get done on the cross-ties for a half hour while she figured out how to put the saddle and bridle on. She doesn't ask for help and just stands there staring at her horse. She's scared to death of doing anything on the ground or in the saddle.
Several of us have tried to steer her in the right direction without being rude. We all end up spending an extra hour or two at the barn every night trying to help her. My poor BO didn't start feeding the horses until 9:00 last night b/c she was trying to help her and watch her to make sure she didn't get hurt. It's just frustrating and nobody knows what to do or say! Several of us have encouraged her to consider sending the horse back to the rescue. She can't afford to keep shoes on her or have the vet out and doesn't want to understand anything about her navicular or cataracts. I've recommended she take lessons for now, or even lease a horse at the barn (lessons are included in the leases). She doesn't want to take lessons, she just wants to trail ride. If she can't care for or handle her horse, I sort of feel like she has no business having one! It's not our problem to waste all this time helping her!
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