No more dwelling on the stuff I can't have but to move on with what I do have - The Horse Forum
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post #1 of 8 Old 10-06-2011, 08:07 PM Thread Starter
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No more dwelling on the stuff I can't have but to move on with what I do have

So after my last post which I don't care to dwell on but decided to take alot of the advice and hopefully be able to work toward what I want to do instead of sitting and wishing I could do it. I have decided that 1) when I am able to ride or work my horse that I am going to keep a journal of what we worked on or what we need to work on. 2) Keep track of my goals with my horse and any and all information I can get to help along the way. 3) get familiar with eventing or any other discipline that I am possibly into, and since I am unable to take lessons at the time but I am still looking into finding a instructor that I can maybe watch them teach lessons and see if it would be someone who I would like to work with when I am able to afford lessons.
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post #2 of 8 Old 10-07-2011, 02:19 AM
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That's wonderful! It takes quite a lot to publically admit that you want to make a change and even more to think through the steps that you need to take to do that. Good for you!

You could also see if there is a trainer who would be willing to let you work off lessons, or get a reduced rate in exchange for mucking out or doing barn chores.
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post #3 of 8 Old 10-07-2011, 09:06 AM
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Now that's an attitude that will take you places!

There are a lot of instructors who will do a work for lesson trade. You may have to save up for a couple lessons to get your foot in the door & prove your work ethic.

I have a student who I do that for. She's worked her tail off trying to make herself invaluable and spends much more time than I require of her in my barn, a lot of it observing. She initially just wanted to better herself for her own horse but has now caught the training bug and plans to attend Blackhawk or Findlay in a few years and pursue it as a career path. I plan to tell her when she goes off to school, she has a barn to work out of when she graduates.

If you work hard and don't give up, you just never know what will happen!

Life is like a camera. Focus on what's important, Capture the good times, Develop from the negatives and if things don't work out, Take another shot.
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post #4 of 8 Old 10-07-2011, 09:55 AM
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I don't know about instructors in your area but I allow people to stand at my side when I teach, if they want to learn. They better be fit, though, as I walk at least a couple of miles in every lesson!! I will also find things for them to do to work off lessons. Heck, one girl was so broke, and I didn't really need any help at the time, I had her doing stuff for the BO to work off lessons. I wouldn't give her the lesson for free, as people often don't appreciate what they get for free.

Good for you for working on the positive attitude!! That goes a LONG way toward gaining success!
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post #5 of 8 Old 10-07-2011, 09:57 AM
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Great for you! Keep that attitude and you will take yourself to places you never thought possible, iwth your horse and in life. When things get rough, I only allow myself 5-10 minutes to have my pity party....then it's over and back to the grind and pushing thru it!
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post #6 of 8 Old 10-07-2011, 11:44 AM
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ladybug, you can always try to volunteer to help in stable with lessons as your pay. I know number of trainers in my area doing it this way and it seems to work very nicely. In any case your plan looks very good and I wish you best luck with it!

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass: it's about learning to dance in the rain..."

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post #7 of 8 Old 10-15-2011, 02:09 PM Thread Starter
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So on my birthday I got invited on a trail ride and Bob was sooo hyped up and very happy to be out. He no longer has seperation anxiety and went away from the herd. Then I rode 10/13/2011 and worked in the arena and cantered for the first time since I got him ( I cantered him the second month I had him and that was it and it was horrible) but on thursday he was soo relaxed and went right into the correct leads and he was so happy and his ears were perked. *Goal- better steering* Rode 10/14/2011 worked in arena for a bit on walk and trot and he had a hard time focusing. Went out on the trail where he was relaxed but still alittle hyper... He is really enjoying life and I love him soo much. He is getting better and better every ride and getting fit at the same time...
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post #8 of 8 Old 10-15-2011, 05:35 PM
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Good to hear your positive attitude. Don't quite understand (other) people's problem w/free stuff-I've gotten free horses, tack, etc, & I REALLY appreciate it! But, I've never had a lot of money, so I do take good care of my stuff. While packing some stuff up last night, I found a favorite (but misplaced) shirt & wore it on my trail ride this morning-I've had it since the 80's! & no, it's not threadbare-I'm just very gentle w/my clothes. I'll bet you could work out a trade of labor for lessons-never hurts to ask!
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