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post #1 of 14 Old 09-07-2013, 09:25 AM Thread Starter
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For People Who Complain About the Cost of Horses...

I. love. this. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

"Very often we hear parents at the riding school complain about the cost of horses. While we know they eat a hole in the pocket, a father recently shared why he forks out for the animals. We’ve copied this from Facebook and definitely think you’ll enjoy the read:

My daughter turned sixteen years old today; which is a milestone for most people. Besides looking at baby photos and childhood trinkets with her, I took …time to reflect on the young woman my daughter had become and the choices she would face in the future.

As I looked at her I could see the athlete she was, and determined woman she would soon be. I started thinking about some of the girls we knew in our town who were already pregnant, pierced in several places, hair every color under the sun, drop outs, drug addicts and on the fast track to no-where, seeking surface identities because they had no inner self esteem. The parents of these same girls have asked me why I “waste” the money on horses so my daughter can ride. I’m told she will grow out of it, lose interest, discover boys and all kinds of things that try to pin the current generation’ s “slacker” label on my child. I don’t think it will happen, I think she will love and have horses all her life.

Because my daughter grew up with horses she has compassion. She knows that we must take special care of the very young and the very old. We must make sure those without voices to speak of their pain are still cared for.
Because my daughter grew up with horses she learned responsibility for others than herself. She learned that regardless of the weather you must still care for those you have the stewardship of. There are no “days off” just because you don’t feel like being a horse owner that day. She learned that for every hour of fun you have there are days of hard slogging work you must do first.

Because my daughter grew up with horses she learned not to be afraid of getting dirty and that appearances don’t matter to most of the breathing things in the world we live in. Horses do not care about designer clothes, jewelry, pretty hairdos or anything else we put on our bodies to try to impress others. What a horse cares about are your abilities to work within his natural world, he doesn’t care if you’re wearing $80.00 jeans while you do it. -

Because my daughter grew up with horses she understands the value of money. Every dollar can be translated into bales of hay, bags of feed or farrier visits. Purchasing non-necessities during lean times can mean the difference between feed and good care, or neglect and starvation. She has learned to judge the level of her care against the care she sees provided by others and to make sure her standards never lower, and only increase as her knowledge grows.

Because my daughter grew up with horses she has learned to learn on her own. She has had teachers that cannot speak, nor write, nor communicate beyond body language and reactions. She has had to learn to “read” her surroundings for both safe and unsafe objects, to look for hazards where others might only see a pretty meadow. She has learned to judge people as she judges horses. She looks beyond appearances and trappings to see what is within.

Because my daughter grew up with horses she has learned sportsmanship to a high degree. Everyone that competes fairly is a winner. Trophies and ribbons may prove someone a winner, but they do not prove someone is a horseman. She has also learned that some people will do anything to win, regard-less of who it hurts. She knows that those who will cheat in the show ring will also cheat in every other aspect of their life and are not to be trusted.

Because my daughter grew up with horses she has self-esteem and an engaging personality. She can talk to anyone she meets with confidence, because she has to express herself to her horse with more than words. She knows the satisfaction of controlling and teaching a 1000 pound animal that will yield willingly to her gentle touch and ignore the more forceful and inept handling of those stronger than she is. She holds herself with poise and professionalism in the company of those far older than herself.

Because my daughter grew up with horses she has learned to plan ahead. She knows that choices made today can effect what happens five years down the road. She knows that you cannot care for and protect your investments without savings to fall back on. She knows the value of land and buildings. And that caring for your vehicle can mean the difference between easy travel or being stranded on the side of the road with a four horse trailer on a hot day.

When I look at what she has learned and what it will help her become, I can honestly say that I haven’t “wasted” a penny on providing her with horses. I only wish that all children had the same opportunities to learn these lessons from horses before setting out on the road to adulthood."

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post #2 of 14 Old 09-07-2013, 10:09 AM
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I love this!
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post #3 of 14 Old 09-07-2013, 11:46 AM
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being twenty two and looking back on my teen years, i can confidently say that this dad has it down pat. every word of that is true and im grateful every day (as are my horses!) that i had the opportunities i did as a child.

Kudos Dad.
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post #4 of 14 Old 09-07-2013, 11:50 AM
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I love this! It applies to many folks that I know, and many aspects of my own life.

Unfortunately, it makes me sad to think of some of the "horse people" that I have known. Those who don't appreciate what they have with their horses. Those who DO grow up, lose interest in horses, ignore them, and allow daddy's money to continue paying for the bare necessities, but still love to say that they have a horse. Ugh, I could go on... but the positive message in the post is so much more important! For every poor horseperson and "horse dropout" that I know, so many more have been positively changed by the experience of owning and being around horses.
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post #5 of 14 Old 09-07-2013, 03:06 PM
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I had always loved horses through my entire childhood, but wasn't able to be around them till 15 I began volunteering at a horse ranch so I could ride. I learned to ride, train, and take care of horses. It was a remedy for all my boy problems. I then fell in love with a foster horse from the humane society I was training. Then I used my own money not my parents money and adopted her and now she's my forever friend we've grown together , and not only have I trained her but she's trained me. I completely agree with this post, I wish I would have had the oopportunity to grow up with horses, but I'm so grateful I have my best friend now.
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My horse kept me out of a lot of trouble when I was in college.
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post #7 of 14 Old 09-07-2013, 08:59 PM
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My friend posted this on my FB wall the other day. My daughter and I both teared up when we read it. Soo many parents must have nearly identical motivations for why they spend so much on horses for their families.
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post #8 of 14 Old 09-07-2013, 09:12 PM
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I am a teen and I agree with this. My older sister used to do horses - she was lucky enough to learn all of this before she decided that horses just weren't for her anymore.

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My parents used to say that the reason they spent so much money and time on our horses was because they trusted them to keep me safer then any person ever would. My mom used to say almost the exact same things that the OP said about what it taught me, and she always used to say that horses made better people. My dad (who was not a horse person by any means although he rode lol) used to say that if you knew horses you could judge a person 100% correctly by how he rode and cared for his mounts.

As I've grown up I realized that truer words were never said by both the OP and my parents. After I read this I talked to my parents and said, "Thank you so much for spending all that money on the horses". Thank god for people who spent the money to get us horse people hooked! :)
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post #10 of 14 Old 09-07-2013, 11:10 PM
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My daughter has grown up with horses and still has a horse and shes 16 years old now. I know her horse keeps her coming home every day after school instead of going off with freinds.

Has taught her to be kind and caring to the animals and also to people. She doesnt tease kids in school that are diffrent instead she befreinds them,when other kids tease and make fun of them.

My husband and i both are willing to spend however much it cost to keep horses in my daughters life. Of course i also have my own two horses and have had ,horses in my life since i was 11 years old. I know my horses kept me out of trouble when i was in high school.

Yep the horses are worth every penny spent thats for sure id be lost with out my horses in my life.
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