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post #1 of 13 Old 09-09-2013, 08:18 AM Thread Starter
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RANT: Loaning frustrations.

Many of you know that I have had to part with my lovely Dubai.

After having horses for the past eight years, it was a big shock to go from having two, to none in a matter of days. Dubai has a permanent home with my previous trainer, and my dad's mare is retired to a field in Holland.

We have now moved, and I instantly got the itch to ride.

I have ALWAYS had pride in the way I care for my horses, and the fact they get the best of everything. But there is nothing more upsetting to be 'taught' by someone the same age as you how to suck eggs.

Everyone has their own way of doing things, but honestly.. how many different ways can you groom a tail, or poo pick.

Well, I have been spoilt. I started with an 11yo mare. Unfortunately, she has a previous injury thing. Her hind left is always a bit puffy, but it doesn't effect her- or so I was told. There are two younger (mid teens) girls riding this mare, one was stopping and I was supposed to fit in. Now other girl is keeping up, so I am fighting a losing battle trying to get this mare out of bad habits. I have been told by numerous people on the yard that the mare is allowed to do as she pleases. This is, of course, when the horse is allowed to be ridden for longer than 15 minutes after initial warm up. I think I have only been able to 'ride' for longer than 20 minutes on two out of a dozen occassions. Do I pay to plod around?

I have a work friend, his wife is partially disabled, and they have a western pony that they do 'reining' on. I am not a western rider, and have offered to find a trainer. Nope, they said they will film me and send it to their old trainers (they moved from the same place) and let them view it and critique. The yard is too far for me to bike, and they are currently taking me down. They, however, wish for it to be a case of I muck out/sort hay and feed etc and ride on my own so they get time off- I completely understand this. But my father is not willing to get me to the yard, wait for 2hours whilst I sort things out etc- and I can understand that too! And the wife has some.. unusual ideas.

I am just frustrated. Maybe I should go and get my own pony again :(

Sorry for the rant, but right now I am ready to pack it in with both of them and put away the riding boots. Neither fit what I need, and I am finding it hard to adjust to the needs of the horse/owner.
I hope I was never this much of a PITA when I loaned!

Cookies and brownies to whoever read all of that
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post #2 of 13 Old 09-09-2013, 09:09 AM
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I know what it is like for a horse owner to suddenly be horseless. Fitting in to how others do things IS Very Difficult. After 11 months w/out horses~I will have a horse & a donkey in 8 more days! I do have to drive for 6 hours or so to get them, then the trip home, but I know it will be worth it. I only had 2 short rides on neighbor's horses during those 11 months.
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The first four weeks I was searching every horse sale site.

But my price range (I would look for my father and I) means that the suitable horses are all ill, or have issues. And that is up to 4500€. Now I have realised it is not the time for me to have horses. I have little time to dedicate, and no money to really finance it.

Just frustrating. Would love to find a loan for a couple of times a week, but right now it seems pretty impossible!
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I feel for you. But I understand both sides. I've loaned only once and quickly bought the horse. There the owner wasn't the problem, the other loaner was( who in his sane mind would cut the horse's mane from the saddle, and only part of it....).
Keep looking, there is something out there for sure. A-Z, if it is still around, or sth similar, Pferdemarkt magazine and I'm sure there are countless others. Put up fliers in the feedstore and tack shop, that you're searching. Some stables loan out school horses, too.
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post #5 of 13 Old 09-09-2013, 11:59 AM
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just an aside here, but when you use the word "loan" are you the one who is paying, and the owner is " ing" the horse to you, right? what word do you use for this transaction from the owner's perspective?

Imean, in regular English we say "borrow" and "loan" the borrower uses the thing (pays) from the owner (who loans).

is there a word for this in horse Loaning, for the owner's perspective?
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post #6 of 13 Old 09-09-2013, 12:16 PM
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Tiny, I word it as follows: As the owner, I have "loaned out" my TBx mare. The recipient has her "on loan" and pays for all her expenses.
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post #7 of 13 Old 09-09-2013, 12:17 PM Thread Starter
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You just confused the bejeebus outta me haha! We call it a Reitbeteiligung. For the dressage mare I would have been paying a small sum to ride. For the western pony they wanted no money as they receive money for the wife's disability.

I pulled out of both this afternoon. I am looking for something else now. Square one!
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Desert, not looking to buy at all. Not time or place, but going to check out ebaykleinanzeige and some local yards this evening. There was a problem 3yo on the far away stable I would have loved to work with for a few months.. But too far away :(
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I'm sorry to hear about your frustrations! ): I have been in a similar position, and I'll be rooting for you! Keep us updated.
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post #10 of 13 Old 09-09-2013, 12:34 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks! It is frustrating. I am not that picky, anything that can w/t/c and is comfortable and won't buck and rear is fine! Problem horses, older horses, younger horses, un fit horses.. Send them my way!

Just no real close stables to me. Was hoping to start my driving at the end of the month, but just had to fork out a small fortune for glasses!
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