Originally Posted by trailhorserider View Post
He wasn't a bad horse by any means, but I just didn't have the confidence to ride him. I wanted a horse I could relax and have fun
Yep, there are absolutely horse human pairs that don't 'click' because of skill level or personality or some such.
I ended up with a brumby gelding last year that a client gave to me because she knew I'd give him a good home. He was a 'difficult' horse & she just couldn't get on with him, had spent a small fortune on getting professional help & was still losing confidence. I knew that he was a timid thing, didn't float, didn't tie, spooked at his own shadow... even one of the (many) pro trainers she'd sent him to had told me he was very nervous & reactive, wouldn't ever be good for my kids.
He was quite nervous & aloof when he first arrived, is still aloof with most people. My now 16yo was nervous when they started riding him, what with all the warnings we were given, but they put in lots of time & effort to prove they're worthy of listening to & can be trusted to look out for him.
Well I've hardly got a look in on him since we have had him, my kids can do anything with him & he is largely unflappable. While he doesn't mind me, he is just as happy if I don't go near him, feels a little 'shut down' when I do stuff with him or ride him. But I really haven't spent much time or effort with him. Whereas he dotes on Darcy & whenever they're outside will leave the herd & follow like a shadow! But Darcy put a lot of effort into making him think of them like that - it was by no means automatic.
On a side note, I'm not sure why mares get such a bad wrap.
Yeah me too. I've owned & also trained & cared for many mares over the decades. One I owned was really touchy about the flanks & crabby at certain times & vet reckoned she had ovarian cysts or such. She was fine most of the time tho. Aside from that, perhaps mares might have a little more... spark than many geldings but overall, can't see a difference really.