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post #31 of 39 Old 03-06-2013, 04:57 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks for everyones replies- its crazy what some of you have to deal with!

I chose to not ride at an expensive barn as 1) I am a college student, therefor funds are limited. and 2) I was concerned that it would be focused on spending money as a means to show off.

Apparently, no matter where you go people are going to have different opinions on what you do. I buy quality, girly things because I like to dress as a representation of how I feel. I don't buy the most expensive things, but always keep an eye on trends and adjust to the ones I like accordingly.(expensive and fashion don't always go hand-in-hand) I love the horses I ride and the instructor I work with, and am learning tons and progressing SO much- I think I just need to grow a pair and accept the fact that people will judge me for whatever they feel like- weather I am at the rustic, new england farm or the preppy, pricey barn. Although It drives me up a wall that not everyone is open minded...lol
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post #32 of 39 Old 03-06-2013, 05:08 PM
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Originally Posted by tiffanyodonnell View Post
This my fashion statement!
Haha...good for you...

Tack and grooming have absolutely nothing to do with a horse's ability and training, nor do duds have anything to do with a rider's ability...
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post #33 of 39 Old 03-06-2013, 06:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Faceman View Post
Haha...good for you...

Tack and grooming have absolutely nothing to do with a horse's ability and training, nor do duds have anything to do with a rider's ability...
I agree! The woman that owns the place where Hunny is is a quite competitive dressage rider. Her philosophy? If the horse and rider move as one the judge should notice the movement, not the grooming or the expensive clothing. And she hates grooming (this is where I come in so I groom all of the horses now lol) But I do agree with her idea to a point. Judges and fellow competitors should look at how the horse does what it does, and if the rider and the horse communicate like the team they should be, not at how **** expensive the outfit the rider has on or how much money the rider obviously spent on having the horse groomed.
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post #34 of 39 Old 03-06-2013, 07:10 PM
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I always feel that people judge you differently once they find out more about you. Like, "Yes, I paid $500 for my hunt coat and my horse was bought for 15,000" is going to make people expect different things from you that "My friend gave my her old hunt coat and my horse was bought at an auction". The funny thing is, I've seen the "auction horse" beat the expensive horse at a show. For some reason the cost of something not only says something about your status, but what people expect from you. I think it is great that you can dress up in cute clothing (both at the barn and away from it) as well as have nice hair/make up and be ok with it. I do agree that people expect you to not wear makeup/look nice at the barn and judge you for it, but I think as long as you can ride and don't act "girly" (aka not wanting to scoop poop cuz it'll ruin your outfit or not wanting to groom cuz you don't want horse hair) then I don't see any reason for looking cute.

Plus you know you'll always look good should anyone take pictures. ;)

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post #35 of 39 Old 03-06-2013, 10:05 PM
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For a while a Calgary Stampede queen boarded her horse at a friends. Mine was two doors away. Friend and I dressed in clothes that horse dirt and manure couldn't hurt. The boarder was one of those gals who'd wear a nice shirt tucked in, belt, nice western slacks and never a hair out of place when windy, or it seemed. We felt like PigPen along side her. She just enjoyed looking good all the time.We tried to convince ourselves that we were more practical. Isn't that a line of crap?

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post #36 of 39 Old 03-06-2013, 10:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Alyssa View Post
Apparently, no matter where you go people are going to have different opinions on what you do.
Isn't this true.. not just with with barns, but work, school, hobbies, clubs, social circles.. there's always going to be some judging. And that's not always a bad thing either. It's just all about how you perceive it, let it effect you, and how you judge others.
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post #37 of 39 Old 03-07-2013, 12:13 AM
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My barn everyone shows up in whatever, I've never heard anyone comment on anyone being over dressed. About everyone wears barn clothes though, but most of the women (myself included) like to dress up away from the barn and horses.

As far as sterotypes go, I've found you can and will be judged for anything and everything in the horse world. I've been judged for having a nicer horse than others, and not having as nice a horse as others. For riding western and barrel racing. For riding english. Having nice tack. Growing up with horses. Being capable of training my own horses.

The list goes on. I've found people can be petty an jealous to often before getting to know someone. Its best to just ignore it and prove them wrong :)
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post #38 of 39 Old 03-07-2013, 12:39 AM
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@To the barn, I wear a pair of ModJods (Colorful saddleseat-style Jods) and a plain, and a nice, fitted shirt which makes it easier for my trainer and mother to see my equitation. I'm actually a western rider (mainly at the moment, I'm sort of a jack of all trades when it comes to disciplines) yet I still wear jods and paddock boots to my barn. The only comments I've ever had about looks is that I OVER groom my horse before a ride! My trainer jokes about my horse looking like he's show ready every time we walk into the arena XD I just appreciate the professional and sleek looking english style more than the jeans and t-shirt of western riders. I just find pants specifically made for riding more comfortable than jeans, especially because theydon't ride up or rub my legs raw.
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post #39 of 39 Old 03-07-2013, 01:12 AM
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From one girly girl to another- be who you are, but be good to people. Once they realize who you are, it's their problem if they don't like! I'm a lover of all things fashion, and it carries right on over to my riding clothes. And I could give a rats bum if someone at my barn doesn't like it. They either like me for me and we have a great friendship or they miss out on the fun!

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