Is she riding your horse or her own? If shes riding your horse I would tell her to say 'bye-bye' because if I were to go on a 4-5 hour trail ride, my horse would have as much water as she wants, especially when you're doing about 45 mins total of trotting/cantering. Even if this is your cousin's horse I would tell her what shes really doing.
As for the incident with the highway. Well first, what kind of highway are you talking about? A really big, busy, highway where people are going 70mph? If so it may be safer for you and the cars if you wouldn't take the highway. But if not I would still not take it. If it really bothers you, and puts you in danger, don't ride with her or get very firm with her.
She's riding her horse. I did tell her that she was possibly putting her horse at risk by not letting him drink, but I only mentioned it towards the end of the ride, because if I had said it any earlier, I know I would have said something I'd regret later.
The highway, well, it's really considered a highway, but it doesn't get a whole lot of traffic on it, and everyone slows down and gets on the other side of the road when they see horseback-rider's. What really bugged me was the fact that she kept riding in the middle of the road, even when I told her repeatedly not to. She's ridden on the highway with me several times before and this was the first time she'd ever ridden down the middle of it.
Simple fix. SAY something! All this being aloud to be an idiot is like rewarding a horse for biting. Grow a pair for BOTH of your safety.
Fwiw to other posters seeing my above comment, I know Britt and her cousin personally. I'm aloud to be blunt. Lolz
Yes, you're allowed to be blunt, lol. :) I did mention her lack of watering her horse near the end of the ride, too... predictably, she got upset and didn't speak much to me the rest of the day.
You are ALLOWED to be as blunt as you want with then when you see them ? Of course , here , folks are allowed to be direct , even a bit blunt , as long as its not rude or just plain mean.
Why can you and she not get off the horses, lead them o the water and let them drink? 5 hours riding and you never get off to give them a break?
My own butt old need a break and my horses back would appreciate a break, too. No matter how good your saddle fits, giving your horse a short rest unmountrd will help the blood supply to the muscles underplaying the saddle tree.
I can and do get off and give my mare breaks. Five hours is a lot, even for me nowadays. She has trouble getting on and off her horse due to lack of upper body strength. I'm not making excuses for her, because I know she could easily do exercises and stuff to help learn how to mount and dismount, but she won't. The only way she'll get off her horse is if there's a truck or something nearby that she can use to get on the horse.
It sounds like she's scared of the horse. She gets defensive about not letting him drink because she probably feels bad and is afraid but won't admit it. If the horse she's riding is so kid broke, she should not have trouble getting back on him after dismounting.
I actually think she is scared of her horse a bit. Her horse isn't the reason she has trouble mounting/dismounting, though, as I've already explained.
I knew I spelled that wrong. :p lol.
I was kidding with that, didnt think I wad being rude. And I am the same with them in person. But I don't usually ride with the cousin for this reason. It's quite annoying to have to babysit this girl and cater to her needs. Britt has more patience than I do.
But I agree with getting off. The problem is really that this girl is....... There's no good way for me to put it, but she has a mental disability... sort of... It's hard to get her to understand basic common sense things without her getting upset and running to her parents and "tattling".
Trust me. It's happened before with me.
No problem. I don't mind your bluntness. I agree, too, it can get annoying 'babysitting', but most of the time, I don't mind it.
And everyone who is getting defensive about TheNinja mentioning my cousin's 'disability', I will second it. She does have some sort of disability, and it does affect her common sense a bit, but for the most part, she's fine, if a little slow on the uptake on some things and she doesn't really have the sense to know that there are some things you do not talk about in public, etc... but otherwise, she's friendly, funny, and fairly 'normal'. The best way to explain it is that she acts like she's eleven or twelve years old at times, but also, at times, she can act her age perfectly.
And she's riding alongside a HIGHWAY ? Egads!
Yeah, her parents trust me, and before you ask, yes, they know exactly where we ride and she is allowed to ride anywhere I go... on the highway, in the mountains, etc... Also, when we do get on the highway, it is usually only for about ten minutes, just long enough to get from one back-road to another back-road.
As for the other thing, tell her it bothers you when she leaves you! And if she won't change, then don't trail ride with her. Trail rides are supposed to be fun.. not frustrating.
I plan on letting her know that it bothers me, though she only ever goes off and leaves when I'm riding my mare. If I had been on my gelding, or if our other cousins had been with us, she wouldn't have left at all. i think she thinks it's ok when it's just us and I'm on my mare, because she knows my mare won't freak out.
She is terrified of this horse for no reason. Either that, or she has some type of complex. The horse is supposedly "wild" and "crazy", but was a kids horse (taught Britt and I to ride when we first started back in 02), and is NOT wild at all.
She doesn't really know what she's doing, but you can't tell her anything or she gets definsive. Like Britt said about the "I wanna go home" stuff is what happens if you correct, or even try to suggest anythng to her. You can all think I'm mean or talking badly of her, but I'm not.
For example, she once threatened, and started to, kick a foal (under 3 months old) she had in the stomach for not standing still when it was tied. When I not so nicely told her if she did that, there would be problems, she stormed home and told her dad, who then came up and cussed me and threatened to "whip me" for bullying his daughter.
She was 20 then, Britt and I were 18/19.
That's the kind of personality she hass.
Exactly. Her horse is in his mid-twenties, a perfect gentleman, never bucked, bolted, etc... He's the horse that taught both myself and TheNinja how to ride and put up with all our crap from when we were young and dumb. He is kid-broke, deadhead, etc...
I also agree that she doesn't really even know that she's doing these things. The example with the foal, I think she really didn't know how to handle the situation, therefore went to kick it because she'd seen me kick at my gelding as a weanling (for being food aggressive, I was running my gelding away from his feed, not actively trying to hurt him) and she didn't understand what I was doing of something, and took my actions from back then and tried to replace them into her actions for teaching her foal to stand still... I dunno if that made sense...
But yeah, she went home and told her dad that TheNinja had had some words with her, and he did come up and threaten to whip her for bullying.