The Rudest of People...
There is always that one person who you just can't stand, that person who you just want to, well, punch in the face, despite that whole 'being violent is not the way' thing. But I've noticed lately that people are always going to be rude and obnixous, but HORSE people in particular tend to be the worst.
It's odd, because you'd think horses would teach us patience. Yet every barn, every show, every fourm I've been on involving horses I come across people who I just can't stand more commonly with horses involved. Don't get me wrong, I understand perfectly that we all have our opinions and we all see things done differently.
But here, on this fourm, espcially. I could seriously list off several names of people on here who just....need to go away and take their opinion and shove it. But actually listing them would be pointless. It's occured to me they aren't going to change. They think they are right right right right and know EVERYTHING and more importantly the CORRECT way to ride, train, and do anything with horses. Their opinions of others who do it differently and see things differently tend to come out in their posts with an attitude of 'I'm SO much bettter than you because I right the correct way and what you are doing is wrong and bad'.
And if you think I'm just being overly annoying/sensitive, take this as an example. How many times have you yourself clicked into a post, regardless of if it was a riding issue, a training issue, a photo, anything at all, and read somewhere in that post, "If you are going to reply, please be nice." or "Don't critique please" or "Don't be to harsh on me" or SOMETHING along those lines? It is because the OP of those posts knows how brutal people on here can be. How cruel their attitudes and replies are. If someone says in their post "I'm looking for ___________ kind of help, please don't judge what my horse did prior or what I chose to do" and yet often times that request goes ignored and a replier will just judge the rider for the choices s/he made and then go on to explain just WHY they are wrong in what they did. Does it matter if they admitted to making a mistake and learned from it? No. They are still getting judged. They are still getting told off by a complete stranger.
Not everyone on here is rude. Not everyone on here is unhelpful, either. In fact, due to this site I've made some pretty awesome friends, to the point I text with them away from the internet. I'm sure I'm not the only one. BUT not everyone on here is actually HELPFUL either. If it was a rare thing, I could overlook it. If it was just a few particular people, like say 3-4, I could ignore it. But it is my opinion that this attitude of I'm better than you and more experienced and know more is becoming more common than not. It is due to this that I'm writing this post.
Yes, if it isn't already obvious, I'm quitting. I'm not a huge avid poster on here, but I'm sure a few of you reading this will recognize my name from a post you've either created or also replied on. I do my best to be as polite as possible while still being helpful. It is this unnecessary judging that I get/see that's gotten me to the point I end up clicking off this site mad and frustrated more often than not. Do I know everything? No. Does my opinion count? Sure. Is it always right? Who can really say. I think we all can agree (or most of us, anyway) that with horses you never truly stop learning. Some ways that will work for one horse will not work for another. So many times I've been told and see told to others that a horse "has my number" because things went sour. Do horses misbehave? Yes. Do people spoil them and make them rotten and let them get away with bad things? Of course. But one bad ride does not mean a horse "has your number". It means there is a training issue of some sort to address.
And with all of that, I'm quitting this site. Maybe I'll be back someday, but it will not be in the near future. The behavior of to many has made this place no longer fun and frankly no longer helpful. I wish you all the very best, and I really hope you will THINK before posting something rude and know-it-all-y. this place was designed to get help and opinions and ideas from others, not to constantly be PUT DOWN. So to all you who post in, as the site puts it, "a helpful and friendly manner" good for you, you are doing it right. To everyone else... just be nice!
BECAUSE NICE REALLY DOES MATTER!
I bid you all adieu.
~He knows when you're happy
~He knows when you're comfortable
~And he always knows when you have carrots.