Excuse my not allowed to have coffee so my brain doesn't function properly at this time of day thoughts, should they be a bit scattered.
As Tinyliny mentioned, it's like a community here. After being here for some time, I view it much like an extended family and many folks here I'd call friends, some that I'd more than welcome to come visit me in real life and some that I text, talk to on the phone and have met in real life. Every family has many personalities, for example, the 'drunk uncle', the crabby great aunt, a drama llama cousin, a petulant niece or nephew, a tough love parent, on and on. We are all people, all different, have our quirks and to me, that's a good thing. Life would be boring if all in one shade.
When I first joined, I jumped in head first and got some good debate on the topic at hand. Some who agreed with my position, others who thought I was a horse eating meanie. I don't eat horses for breakfast but I do have very high behavioral expectations and deal with them swiftly.
Doesn't make any of us right or wrong necessarily, just different. Long before internet forums, my grandpa told me "Put 3 horse people in a room, ask the same question and you'll get 6 different opinions." Rang true then, rings true now. With the technology, it simply allows a larger cross section of us 'horse crazies' to congregate in the same spot and in turn, that many more opinions.
I know for myself that I try (and admittedly have to try pretty hard sometimes) to make my points honestly and possibly a bit blunt but I tone it down a fair amount from what I might possibly say to a student or client in my day to day real life. Things in text leave much up to interpretation by reader. What one may think is great shooting straight advice might be taken as harsh or offensive by another, particularly when it involves their personal situations, when it wasn't intended to be nor was it. One thing that the forum has given me insight into is how much we truly do rely on body language in face to face interactions. There are things I say to students that are pretty darn sarcastic that I'd never say here because here one can't see me making faces or acting a fool while I say it. At least once a week I tell a student "Suck it up buttercup" but here, not likely. All because of the way text may or may not be interpreted.
We try to be a fair, middle of the road forum. We don't want to stifle opinions by being too strict nor do we want to have a completely unfiltered place that allows personal insults and venomous attacks. Anytime a member feels they have a problem, we have a report feature, please use it. The mod team discusses each report as a group and makes a decision based on how it fits or does not fit within our rules and structure.
This topic is something I've thought about quite a bit and did in fact write a thread on. https://www.horseforum.com/horse-talk...ur-way-145781/
May be worth a read and may also be time to write a sister thread on how to give constructive criticism and advice.