The Rudest of People... - Page 4 - The Horse Forum
 299Likes
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #31 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 08:58 AM
Started
 
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 1,871
• Horses: 0
This forum is a great place to get the help and advice someone may need. Yes, sometimes it's blunt. But isn't that why we come here? To get honest advice? It keeps all of us grounded. If it wasn't, then everyone would be living in "la-la land" I've never felt attacked or insulted by another member. But I know when I need solid, honest advice I can rely on everyone here.

This is what happens when you have democrats in office
wetrain17 is offline  
post #32 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 09:11 AM
Banned
 
Join Date: Sep 2012
Posts: 3,880
• Horses: 0
Quote:
Originally Posted by wetrain17 View Post
This forum is a great place to get the help and advice someone may need. Yes, sometimes it's blunt. But isn't that why we come here? To get honest advice? It keeps all of us grounded. If it wasn't, then everyone would be living in "la-la land" I've never felt attacked or insulted by another member. But I know when I need solid, honest advice I can rely on everyone here.
Yup! It's better than asking friends who are too froo-froo to be honest! (Or too scared of me)
franknbeans, nvr2many and boots like this.
Muppetgirl is offline  
post #33 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 09:30 AM
Super Moderator
 
Join Date: May 2012
Posts: 8,733
• Horses: 12
It seems the targeted topic doesn't matter - horses, dogs, cats, people. On each site you have those that have good solid experience in their subject of choice, those that know something about everything and those that know much about nothing, all have the right as a member to offer their opinion and much to the frustration of others often do. Keeping things all rainbows and puppies doesn't serve to get the point across in a manner that says not only are you familiar with your topic but that you are comfortable with the advice you are giving. It is a limitation of the location we have chosen to participate in. Are there people here that are often over the top in their surety and arrogant as well as condescending in their manner of addressing others - yes. Are they always correct - no. Are there those that can get their point across, be firm and consistent in their reliability of response and tone and not be quite so offensive - yes. As a pp mentioned we all have different backgrounds, levels of experience, differing interests and belong to many diverse and different cultures. As someone that has seen a site crash and burn when there was a clash between the rudest of the rude individuals and moderators/admins and is still years later trying to recover my hat is off to the mods and administration here. Do I always like what I read - no, do I always agree - no, do I think some are allowed to get away with excessive rudeness and others are banned/moderated or reprimanded for much less - I am sure it happens but it is part of the history and friendships formed as well as perhaps the level of expertise they demonstrate that means a higher level of tolerance is demonstrated. As a result I often don't ask the questions I'd like to ask and often abandon reading some posts of interest due to the tone the thread has taken. I've seen some ask questions or share and they or their animals get totally ignored, harshly critiqued, lambasted or get bashed when others asking or sharing the same or similar are patted on the head and told how wonderful they/their animals are when there are obvious issues that could be addressed. I am very leery of sharing because of the discrepancy in tone and response. I come here to research topics of interest, occasionally offer an opinion and no longer ask questions. Sad reality for many of us I suspect. Just a part of life though as the same scenes are played out over and over throughout life with any situation we interject ourselves whether it be social situations (playground, barn, party anyone?) or work environment. The only difference is the degree and type of response possible based on what/when and where and mix of individuals involved along with those that moderate or oversee each.
QtrBel is offline  
post #34 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 09:38 AM
Yearling
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Michigan
Posts: 1,122
• Horses: 1
The easiest way to think about any web forum is that it is like a buffet. Take from it what you want and ignore the Brussel sprouts ;)
franknbeans, Cat, maura and 8 others like this.

We grow too soon old, and too late smart.
DimSum is offline  
post #35 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 09:54 AM
Weanling
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Posts: 580
• Horses: 1
if it doesnt apply, let it fly
boots likes this.
TBforever is offline  
post #36 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 10:05 AM
Yearling
 
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 1,475
• Horses: 2
The thing is, when you get to a certain point here you have seen the same question over and over again by different people and the response will be the same every time, you get impatient with the understanding and cut right to the chase. As though every one should know the answer already because you've repeated yourself a thousand other times in different posts.

But they don't. The first person who asked got compassion. The 57th person who asked got told the answer with a touch of sarcasm and impatience.

And yes, you can't read emotion in a typed paragraph. But yes, you can. You can tell when someone is being ride, text or no text. The excuse "it's hard to hear sarcasm in text" is old. I can hear it plain as day, and I'm not the most sensitive type.

I've stopped posting on threads where I've lost my patience with the question. In turn, I've stopped posting things I just don't want an opinion on...good or bad. That leaves little for me to post but I pick my battles and I really don't have time in my day to post on page 5 and then try and press my point until page 14. There are people who have plenty of time to do that though.

I've abandoned threads after I posted an opinion because even though I don't agree, I don't have time to argue and it's really not worth it anyways.

You just have to pick your battles. Pick what you want an opinion on and pick how far you want to take an argument. It takes the stress right out of it.

Eta, please excuse the autocorrect. Doing this from my phone and of course, I don't have the time to go ba k through everything an fix it. You get the point though
franknbeans, maura, AlexS and 6 others like this.

Last edited by Copperhead; 06-03-2013 at 10:07 AM.
Copperhead is offline  
post #37 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 10:08 AM
Banned
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Posts: 5,300
• Horses: 0
Word, Copperhead.
maura is offline  
post #38 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 10:10 AM
Showing
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Saskatchewan
Posts: 15,433
• Horses: 2
Quote:
Originally Posted by DimSum View Post
The easiest way to think about any web forum is that it is like a buffet. Take from it what you want and ignore the Brussel sprouts ;)
What did the sprouts ever do to you?
Posted via Mobile Device
egrogan and DimSum like this.
Golden Horse is offline  
post #39 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 10:12 AM
Yearling
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Michigan
Posts: 1,122
• Horses: 1
Quote:
Originally Posted by Golden Horse View Post
What did the sprouts ever do to you?
Posted via Mobile Device
They made me make an unattractive "ugggh" face

We grow too soon old, and too late smart.
DimSum is offline  
post #40 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 10:38 AM
Trained
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Australia
Posts: 6,984
• Horses: 4
...wow.

This forum is by far the best moderated, most reasonable horse forum out. I don't go anywhere else.

I used to be very active on an Australian-based site which I am now watching slowly die because the mods are not part of the community, nor is the admin really. They set themselves apart from the rest of us, and don't participate in threads at all unless they're getting all disciplinary. Not only that, but the mods and admin don't enforce the code of conduct at all on some people... but will rip others' heads off for tiny breaches. It's been going downhill for a long time but it's really been this year that I've watched member after member just stop posting to the point where you're lucky to see one new post a day outside of two specific sections. It has over eight thousand members, but less than thirty actually post. The last post in one section was a month and a half ago! It's really sad. It used to be a great forum despite the staff's flaws.

As a former admin of a forum myself [though nothing on this scale!] I've learned that it's the regulation that makes the community. A code of conduct is all well and good, but you have to actually enforce it, and not just with closing threads when they get nasty... you look at it and look for the repeat offenders, and deal with them. Which is what HF does. The other thing that's great about here is that the mods are active in the community, sharing, posting questions, giving advice. We sort of know who's wearing the mod cap, and that's great, because we know which mods we can stir up a bit and which mods might get a bit offended.

Coming from an Aussie right here - the more we insult you, the more we like you, so if you're feeling insulted, you can always look on the bright side. That means you're loved!

Edit; also, people are sheep. The first person to set a nasty tone then tends to set the tone for a whole heap of other people, simply because we, unconsciously, want to blend in with the crowd. I've been known to take an uncharacteristically snarky tone when I enter a thread where someone has started it off. I don't tend to snark for the sake of snarking - I prefer to believe that people just don't know any better - but if I'm coming in after some random has jumped all over the OP I'm that much more likely to do it myself. It's human nature.

MAKORA THOROUGHBRED SPORTHORSES

Last edited by blue eyed pony; 06-03-2013 at 10:41 AM.
blue eyed pony is offline  
Closed Thread

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.



User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
I hate people that don't do their research before "educating" people. ShannonSevenfold Horse Talk 11 08-10-2012 07:59 PM
How can people be so cruel to do this to other people? Katesrider011 General Off Topic Discussion 5 09-30-2011 06:40 AM
Rescue people // transport people?? Johnswife Other Pets 4 12-31-2008 09:09 AM
Parelli people, or people interested in it..... Spirithorse Horse Training 6 01-08-2008 08:23 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome