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post #41 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 11:49 AM
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As a mod, I am pleased to hear that so many folks feel this forum is a good one, in part due to the moderation. Can I say that? I mean, can I?
I know some folks feel it's too moderated, and we certainly aren't always 100% conisistent. We KNOW that. It's human beings doing this, and humans aren't perfect. Right, Mandy?

What I was going to say, (beyond mentioning that I do, indeed, like Brussel Sprouts), is that members can have a great deal of influence on the tone and direction a thread takes. Even a thread that is taking on a snarky feel to it can be bent into a new direction by a member who is willing to put ego aside and set out some clear advice, in a compassionate but no-nonsense manner. Sometimes that is enough to make others see that though they've been giving the same advice, they've forgotten the compassion and put too much ego on top. MOst folks here are actually really nice people, and just need an occasional reminder of how nice they really are.
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post #43 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 11:59 AM
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I might take the Brussels sprouts, but I won't touch the lima beans!

Seriously, I have noticed the mob mentality on a few threads. And the advice you get is only as good as the information you provide. Sometimes that's a hard one. Sometimes, and especially with newer horsemen, knowing what information is relevant can be difficult. That's why you'll see me asking for more information in quite a few threads without actually offering any advice. Sometimes, I wouldn't know what advice to offer, but I do know what information would be helpful to those who could offer it.

What drives me nuts is the thread started by someone honestly seeking advice getting hijacked by people arguing over whether or not the OP should even have horses. People come here to learn and interact, not to be told "You don't deserve to own a horse." I think if they're here trying to learn, that says a lot for their wanting to be better. And personally, I am always looking for ways to be a better horseman. And mom. And housekeeper. And gardener... Is anyone sensing a theme here?
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that's when you can change things by jumping in with the vary words you just posted, Aforred.
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I'll keep that in mind, tiny. I tend to be nonconfrontational, but I'm developing the ability to just say, "Hey, that's enough." In real life, I'm still working on that without getting emotional. After 30+ years, it's hard trying to change!

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What I was going to say, (beyond mentioning that I do, indeed, like Brussel Sprouts), is that members can have a great deal of influence on the tone and direction a thread takes. Even a thread that is taking on a snarky feel to it can be bent into a new direction by a member who is willing to put ego aside and set out some clear advice, in a compassionate but no-nonsense manner. Sometimes that is enough to make others see that though they've been giving the same advice, they've forgotten the compassion and put too much ego on top. MOst folks here are actually really nice people, and just need an occasional reminder of how nice they really are.
Just thought this was worth repeating...

There is generally a nice way to say just about anything ...
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As a mod, I am pleased to hear that so many folks feel this forum is a good one, in part due to the moderation. Can I say that? I mean, can I?
I know some folks feel it's too moderated, and we certainly aren't always 100% conisistent. We KNOW that. It's human beings doing this, and humans aren't perfect. Right, Mandy?
Yes, yes and yes again!

It pleases me as well. Most folks already know but worth mentioning, the mod team here is volunteers and we started out as and still are members, first and foremost. We do it for the love of the horses and this forum community.

Like Caroline said, we are human and not perfect. If that were the case, we'd have answers to every question and a solution to every problem...but that would not be applicable if all were perfect because there would be no questions to answer or problems to try to solve.

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What I was going to say, (beyond mentioning that I do, indeed, like Brussel Sprouts), is that members can have a great deal of influence on the tone and direction a thread takes. Even a thread that is taking on a snarky feel to it can be bent into a new direction by a member who is willing to put ego aside and set out some clear advice, in a compassionate but no-nonsense manner. Sometimes that is enough to make others see that though they've been giving the same advice, they've forgotten the compassion and put too much ego on top. MOst folks here are actually really nice people, and just need an occasional reminder of how nice they really are.
Absolutely! This is our forum, every single member and mod. You make this place what is is and can take an active role in how this forum functions. If members can try to be receptive to advice, even though hard to hear sometimes and those giving advice can step back and remember that they were beginners and less experienced once upon a time, it works.

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I might take the Brussels sprouts, but I won't touch the lima beans!
I don't like either. Can't a hoosier girl get some corn on the cob around here?
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post #48 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 02:12 PM
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Can't a hoosier girl get some corn on the cob around here?
Random but... I've seen the word "hoosier" used... and I have absolutely NO idea what's meant by it! American slang, I get that much, but being an Aussie I'm pretty clueless what a lot of American slang actually means.
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Random but... I've seen the word "hoosier" used... and I have absolutely NO idea what's meant by it! American slang, I get that much, but being an Aussie I'm pretty clueless what a lot of American slang actually means.
It's a nickname for the people who live in the state of Indiana. There's still a lot of speculation about how the nickname got started, but it's one of the most recognizable nicknames in the US.
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post #50 of 68 Old 06-03-2013, 02:42 PM
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Like SR said, there are many theories. No clue what the real answer is.

Here's a page from the state website. I like the "Whose ear" theory most
IHB: What is a Hoosier?

Oh, and, BEP, we often wonder what the heck you aussies are talking about too! Maybe someone should start a slang thread, then when someone runs across one they don't know, we can find out!
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