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post #1 of 7 Old 08-19-2013, 08:44 AM Thread Starter
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Rumors and Lies

I am beyond frustrated to say the least, after finding out what people I thought I could trust were saying about me. And telling complete strangers that I can't be trusted, that I make my horse sick, scared to ride/ of horses, can't even tack up a horse, terrible rider, a liar.

People insisting they can tack up for me, saying it was my fault she had lung worms (came from previous owners donkey), that she was lame, and that I was making up the pain in her legs, and all the accidents I was in were because I am a bad rider. It isn't my fault your horse bucks, bolts, is head shy etc, and I am not paying $25 to ride your poorly trained horse, and teach it not to buck, bolt, or whatever. I've never had a serious accident while not on a lesson horse.

They even said I made up her being sick so I wouldn't have to ride her, because, yes I love paying $500 for a middle of the night, weekend, emergency vet call.

The problem is if I say anything back, the whole horse community in my area will think I am crazy! I honestly can't wait to move out next spring and move 5 hours away in a whole new area that no one knows me.
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post #2 of 7 Old 08-19-2013, 10:56 AM
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Don't let it bother ya too much. I'd put those people on the ignore list, and do my own thing.
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post #3 of 7 Old 08-19-2013, 01:16 PM
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Next time you hear someone talk crap about you I would shoot them back. I honestly cannot stand people like that. I would also move in the spring, like you said. Not worth being around people who make you feel mad/angry/upset/etc.

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post #4 of 7 Old 08-19-2013, 02:42 PM Thread Starter
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I was working with a pony someone bought as kid friendly (it was not) and she rather shyly asked why someone told her I was scared of horses, because the pony was doing great and she didn't understand why they would say that. She was nice about it, the pony had to be sold in the end (not a good match for the owner), and was sold a gaming pony.

Brushed it off, than suddenly I am hearing a lot more people making comments about little things, even had, two times in a few weeks, people rush up offering to tack up for me. People that known me for many years, and know I ride/own a horse. Some have been extremely rude.

Just found out this weekend that these lies are coming from a instructor I rode with for 10 years! I stopped 4 years ago, due to injuries. I don't slander her name when people ask why I don't, I just say I choose not too.

Most of the time I don't know what to say.
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post #5 of 7 Old 08-19-2013, 08:33 PM
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I really feel for you, because I've been in that position so many times myself, which is why I am now a VERY private person. If this person is bad mouthing you in that way, chances are she's doing it to others. My suggestion for when you move, is to try to keep as low a profile as possibly, when you first get there, I'm not suggesting you be snobby, just cordial, but distant, til you get to know everyone. Unless you already have, I wouldn't tell anyone where you're going, in case "someone"decides to call and "warn" the new place about you, with their lies, and as far fetched as this may seem, yes, it could happen. This sounds like a possibly very disturbed person to me, who has low self esteem, and gets their pleasure from hurting others. The reason I know all of this, is because I knew someone for 30 years, who was my supposedly "best friend", and I began very slowly figuring out the lies she was telling about me, and others. After a lot of research, I discovered this person was a true psychopath in every sense of the word. I couldn't begin to tell you the lies this woman told, the marriages she destroyed, and she always appeared to be the last person anyone would suspect of these things. It's quite possible, she's making up lies about others as well. It would most likely do no good to confront her or say anything. She would just deny it. All I can suggest is to just try to stay away from her as much as you can, til you can leave. Is there no other person there you trust and can confide in? I would love to know, if this creature, is a psychopath or not, it's very easy to find out, you just google the symptoms or ask me. It won't change anything, but will give you some insight into how manipulative they are, so you can avoid them in the future. My heart goes out to you, because I too have shared your pain. Good luck and God Bless.
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post #6 of 7 Old 08-19-2013, 09:22 PM
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Welcome to the horse world. ;)
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post #7 of 7 Old 08-19-2013, 09:26 PM
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Oh gosh I hate people like that. Just ignore them and show them up! Prove them wrong and they will shut up, and if they Jeep saying you abuse their horse tell them that at least you dont talk smack and are more interested in ruining peoples good names than actually being with your horse.
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