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post #1 of 7 Old 06-10-2012, 07:01 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy To sell or not to sell?

I have a 6yo appendix QH, whom I bought back in November. When I bought him, I originally thought he had more training than he actually had. I knew he was still real green, just not this green. I bought him because I had outgrown my arab mare and she had a stifle injury that's made her lame. Ned(the appendix) is a real sweetie, but extremely ignorant. I know, I know, patience with young horses, with any horse really, but Ned is the kind of horse you can do something with a million times and he still won't get it. I have been telling myself that we'll get through this, he's just not the smartest horse in the barn, but my patience is running thin. I was told once don't keep a horse that doesn't make you want to go out and ride, and Ned doesn't make me want to ride! I've been thinking about selling him, but I do love him and I'm attached to him. I know this thread makes me seem like someone who is a horrible horseperson because I can't work through a babies problems, and that I shouldn't own a horse if I don't have patience, but I just can't keep going like this. So I guess what I'm asking is what would you guys do, stick with him, or find a better match for me? Thanks

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post #2 of 7 Old 06-10-2012, 07:18 PM
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I think you already know that you and Ned are not a good fit, and it is not a bad thing to let him go so you can get the horse that complements you... If you show a horse something "a million times and he still wont get it" you are either not giving him a message correctly or you need to go back to the basics and review the foundations - all of which takes a lot of time. If you don't have the desire to take that time with that horse, move him on and give both of you a chance to move forward.

Best of luck to both you and Ned :)
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post #3 of 7 Old 06-10-2012, 08:08 PM
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Is there a possibility that you could have riding lessons with him? I was having a really hard time with my horse, and I wasn't seeing any improvements. I was getting to the point where it wasn't much fun to ride him and I didn't really enjoy my barn time. I started lessons again last month (I didn't have any lessons over the winter) and he is getting SO much better already! I just needed someone to show me what I was doing wrong and how to improve myself.
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post #4 of 7 Old 06-10-2012, 08:21 PM
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I second the lessons, even ground work lessons (LOVE those!) will help you with your horse. You don't know how many times I wanted to get rid of Sky but instead I took lots and lots of lessons, and pretty soon he was beginning to change for the better and began to progress.

You might just need a few nudges in the right direction; someone to help you improve how you communicate with your horse (who certainly isn't a baby :P)

Best of luck!
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post #5 of 7 Old 06-11-2012, 12:08 AM
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There are some horses for each person that are worth working through the times when you just don't want to deal with that issue. Then there are others that you'll never really 'click' with and work well with even if their problems are delt with.

You also need to think about why you ride. Riding is an expensive hobby, so you should want to do it! If you want to learn more about training horses and working with the different personalities that's great and I would agree with taking lessons with your horse. But if you want to just be able to go to the barn and ride a horse that you naturally work well with and knows what you need it to already, then that's fine too. It's your time and your money... where do you really want to spend it?

It's different if you go through times of difficulty with a certain horse, but if you are constantly looking at riding that horse as a chore? You aren't married to the horse... it's totally okay to move on!
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post #6 of 7 Old 06-11-2012, 01:25 AM
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I may be a cold heartless B but there are a million horses in the world. Selling him to a good home that would have that connection with him, is not a bad thing. Finding a new horse who you have that connection with is not a bad thing.

It's unreasonable to think we connect with every horse, we don't with every human.
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post #7 of 7 Old 06-11-2012, 09:22 AM
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Not everyone can start colts, and it sounds like that is what your doing. So sell him and get a horse that works for you.
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