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post #1 of 3 Old 07-26-2013, 11:06 PM Thread Starter
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Should I find a new instructor?

Hey everyone! I'm just wanting a few opinions on my situation.

I'll start from the beginning--Last summer, my boyfriend's (Ex now) dad offered to pay for me and his daughter to take barrel racing lessons from a friend of his. His daughter and I got along fine. Now the instructor, let's call her Mary, is a good barrel racer with good horses.

Lessons were good at first, but after three months I felt like I wasn't learning anything anymore. It was the same thing every lesson. (3 lessons a week) I always felt like I was on the back burner, but I assumed it was because his daughter was less experienced. She had only rode a few horses at a walk. And I was more experienced so I thought she didn't feel like she had to babysit me.

We only trotted poles, and barely did any barrel work. Which is what the lessons were suppose to be. Of course I understand I need to know everything else, but I was loping and everything just fine, I didn't feel like I was being challenged or learning anymore.

Well one day I was sick and didn't go. His daughter came home and told me she got to lope barrels now. So I thought we were finally starting on barrels! I go back with his daughter and 5 lessons later we aren't doing anything different..

School starts and I can't come to lesdons anymore, I'm too busy. And his daughter told me that they hauled to an exhibition and she ran there (I've only been gone for about 2 lessons)

I don't know if she treated me like this because the daughter's dad was paying for me or what. I'm not trying to toot my own horn, but both his daughter and I were both on the same level. If anything I had a better seat, I breezed through poles and she struggled a bit (which is okay, she's a beginner, I'm not hating here lol)

Fast forward a year, and about two weeks ago I went back to another lesson. (I paid myself, and went alone) after spending two weeks trying to get ahold of her and finding a good time to ride, paying $30, and driving 15 miles to ride I end up with a rushed 30 minute lesson including tacking up. I wanted to do the lesson at 9am but she was busy, so she scheduled it for that evening. I know she was rushing for dinner because she told me her hubby was cooking. (her arena is at her house) I wasn't very happy when my lessons are supposed to be an hour and $30 was a lot for me.

She's also very hard to get in contact with, never answers her phone. I love the horse I ride there, and she is a good teacher when she pays attention to me.

I'm just looking for options on if I should look for another instructor, or if I'm overacting.

Thanks everyone for any input!
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post #2 of 3 Old 07-26-2013, 11:24 PM
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If you're even asking the question it is time to find someone else. I had a similar experience - started lessons with a new-to-horses friend of mine. I'd ridden on and off over the years but had had a really bad experience with a horse (he broke my jaw!), so I was needing lots of help in the confidence department. The trainer I found us focused almost exclusively on my friend during our lessons, even though we were both paying her the same amount. I quit and found a trainer that was much more in tune to what my needs were.
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post #3 of 3 Old 07-27-2013, 02:42 AM
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You have to talk to her, leaving or not.
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