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post #1 of 6 Old 07-26-2013, 08:56 PM Thread Starter
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Should I Move Out? Part 2

So if you read this forum https://www.horseforum.com/horse-talk...-228953/page2/

I talked about moving out my house with my family and moving into my trainers guest house and working on his farm part time and get free rent.

Anyway, so I am back looking for more advice. So my grandfather has gotten a lot worse. My grandmother had fallen a few weeks back and broke her hip, she is back now. But I am doing way more work then I am getting paid for. I kind off feel like a slave and it's driving me nuts. I dont want to leave my mother on her own with my two grandparents. But she thinks I should go. Due to the amount of harassment that I am getting from him. I still dont have a job and I have been looking but not much in any way shape or form in that department. My trainers son had some friends that are looking for a place and they stopped by the other day, but of course they have not moved out yet so he told them no they cant look. But that means that there could be other people wanting to move into the place. I just not sure what to do. I stuck, catch 22 thing. Do i go and try to pay for everything on my own. With what I little I make in artwork and other things, or do I stick through it and suffer through the not so nice way of not getting paid and being treated like dirt.

I a am also a bit worried about living on my own. How was it for you guys to move out and live on your own at 22. I know a lot of people are gone out there parents houses by 18 but with my house hold it was so much different. I do have my kitty cat, I just dont know what it likes to live so ALONE. So please, tell me. Everything. Thanks.
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I am not going to give advice one way or another about the moving out and family part, but I will say I have spent MANY years of my life living alone, and at times I really miss it!! It is really very easy as there is nobody to look after except yourself, and that in itself can be very freeing. You also don't have to answer to anyone or listen to their bitching and complaining, you can watch what YOU want on TV, eat what and when you want, go out and come home when you want, read books, study, learn new things and meet new people. And you can hog the bathroom all day if you want to! Don't be afraid of living alone. Celebrate it!
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I moved out of my family's house when I was 19, I'm 22 now. Being on your own so young has its major advantages (independence! Privacy!) and disadvantages (in my case, the great bills vs school battle) and it really depends on the kind of person you are. My roommate is 24 and is still struggling paying the bills because she's used to her parents taking care of her. I was forced to grow up quickly, moving out at 19 was not an easy choice but I did it because it was what was best for my family. I don't regret it. I love being independent, I don't love working hard to see my most of my money go towards putting a roof over my head and food in my stomach. You gotta think about what's best for you!
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post #4 of 6 Old 07-27-2013, 12:09 AM
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I think you should stay home and help your parents with your grandparents
especially now that they are unwell
you have all the time to live on your own
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post #5 of 6 Old 07-27-2013, 12:56 AM
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Family often doesn't treat you well, and in a way you do *owe* them care. If they're letting you live in their house rent free... well that's pretty awesome too. The tricky thing is to find a happy medium. Which might be talking to your mother about the essential tasks and sharing them, not what your grandparents want you to do - but what they need you to do. So don't be at their beck and call, work out what needs to be done and do it. If they berate you while doing it then do what needs to be done when they're not around.

If you want to move out I don't think you should feel guilty or anything, but I wouldn't recommend committing to another place without a stable income. The most affordable option is often share accommodation, which means you won't be living alone either! There's no reason to be afraid, it's great living out on your own.
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post #6 of 6 Old 07-27-2013, 05:52 AM
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Really, I think that your mother is not well herself. I am not sure she is capable of doing this alone. I think you should stay. If something changes, your mother gets a kidney and gets better, then revisit the decision. Right now, I just think your mom needs you.

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