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post #41 of 58 Old 05-17-2013, 12:15 AM
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Originally Posted by dbarabians View Post
Skyseternalangel, your last post was very hounorable and mature.
I have no problems with you.
Thanks for clarifying your post. My best wishes to you. Shalom Donald
I'm in agreement with this.

OP, I hope we didn't scare you off. Please let us know what you ultimately decide to do
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post #42 of 58 Old 05-17-2013, 12:34 AM
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I think that if you, OP, have been having these feelings for a long time, and maybe kind of stuffing them down because you feel you should NOT have them, then they are probably correct. Meaning, your soul is trying to tell you that it needs more than riding. It is out of balance, and even at the young age of 13, and you strike me as a mature 13 year old, your soul knows when there is not enough balance in your life.

I am not sure if you need to fully sever yourself from horses in order to feel free enough to take up another sport/hobby. Some may say, just cut downthe amount of time you spend on horses, and that may be possible, but it might require that you DO completely cease horses for awhile. If you own a horse (did you say you did?), then that is not possible.
But riding because you HAVE to, or becuase you are so good at it that it would be a waste not to ride, doesn't sound like it's fulfilling at this time.

You are so young that you could take 10 years off , come back to riding, and still become a champion rider is you so desired.

In my fantasy, I think I would have loved a childhood like yours, but , hearing you talk about it makes me think again. maybe not.
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post #43 of 58 Old 05-17-2013, 05:35 AM
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the biggest problem everyone suffers from is WE ALL WANT WHAT WE DONT HAVE

of course people want what valute has, because you dont have it

if she needs to vent then let her..there is nothing wrong with her needing to have a break..doing the same ole same ole day after day after day does get borring as u can do it when u want.

i have always been jelouse of people keeping horses at a barn..u get ur horse poo picked up, u get ur horses fed for you, and the one thing i wanted was people to ride with...atleast at a barn ur with people to ride with

having horses on ur own property doesnt work that way, ur in charge of everything picking up poo, riding alone,sacrafising stuff because u have no one else to feed ur horse.

there is pro's and con's to everything

i found horse riding boring when plodding around a paddock by urself on a horse, it does get borring.

, valuta, you dont sound ungrateful i know where ur comming from.

its like when i see people complain about there parents its normal thing to see.
but for much i wish i had parents.

in this world no one is happy with what they have

i think people should be grateful they have enough money to be able to afford a horse, or keep a horse at a barn
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post #44 of 58 Old 05-17-2013, 06:57 AM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone for being so helpful:) I read all the responses and I think I got ska better look I to my own situation. I. Any case I appreciate all the support here and to that girl whom I said was condescending, I'm sure you're very bright and didnt intend on me I interpreting it that way. :) I don't tho k I want to quit, I think I want to find a riding team. Riding is in my blood, losing it would kind of be like losing a part of myself. I'll keep reading new posts I they come in.
Thank you all very much again:) and sorry for typos this is coming from my phone. I have to go to school now
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post #45 of 58 Old 05-17-2013, 11:15 AM
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You're just in a rut. It happens to everyone. Change it up some and see how you feel after. If you're still bored and riding is a chore, take a break.
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post #46 of 58 Old 05-17-2013, 12:05 PM
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Life is about change and the secret to a successful life is how you adapt to change.
Live a life of adventure and diversity.
Embrace the change and the paths that your life ventures down. Shalom
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post #47 of 58 Old 05-17-2013, 03:02 PM
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Originally Posted by Valuta8 View Post
I'm a seventh grader and have been riding my whole life. Everyone says I'm extremely talented, I've won multiple championships and I've always loved it but I'm just kind of...I don't know, I feel like I'm losing my desire and passion.
So... I think there's one big question that most of the other posters have missed. Are you losing interest in horses, or in competing? If the latter, there's a pretty simple solution: stop competing, and training for competition. Go for a few trail rides (or a lot of them), and just enjoy being out on a horse without any pressure to win.

Very few things in life have to be competitions. You can enjoy running without ever entering a race, biking without wanting to win the Tour de France, etc.
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post #48 of 58 Old 05-17-2013, 03:19 PM
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Are you sure it's not the pressure of competition that's burning you out?

Winning multiple championships by the time you're in 7th grade seems pretty intense. That would definitely wear me out.

Why not just take a break and chill for a while? Spend some down time at the barn without worrying about competing. Go out on a trail ride. Take your horse for a walk or give him a bath. Just fun, carefree stuff. There's no reason you can't get involved in other activities, too.

And hey, if you're really not into horses at all anymore, that's okay! If you don't like it, you don't like it. You don't have to force yourself to do it.

"A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is ultimately to be at peace with himself.
What a man can be, he must be.
" Abraham Maslow, 1968
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post #49 of 58 Old 05-17-2013, 05:17 PM
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OP I'd like to appologize for calling you a 'brat'. It was wrong if me to judge you by your post. I'm sorry.
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post #50 of 58 Old 05-17-2013, 10:08 PM Thread Starter
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@aggs it's no problem you just misinterpreted my post :)
@jamesqf - that's just the thing, I haven't been competing. I loved competing but it was a lot of pressure and I never had time for my friends and I kept missing the school dances, that was las year and now I've just been traing. I'd like to be friends with the girls at my barn but they're a group of working students (lazyyy ones) and they just don't let outsiders in. I don't care, they can even put a hairnet in right :p But anyways, I'd love a team sport where I could just have more fun and more friends, my debate is if I'm throwing talent and oppurtunity away. Like what if this is my life calling or something and I doth it because I can't make it through middle school
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