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post #1 of 12 Old 11-11-2010, 06:15 PM Thread Starter
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Should I sell?

I'm trying to decide if I should sell my horse or not. She's a 5-year old OTTB. I love her more than anything, honestly, and selling her would rip me to pieces but I'm starting to think that it may be the best thing for her. She has so much potential as a hunter/jumper/eq horse and I really don't have the experiences, resources, or potential in myself to get her to where she deserves to be. I've had her for 7 months now and we've been scraping by when it comes to her training. She can jump up to 2'9", but I'm unable to keep her consistent. I'm not a beginner rider, but I'm definitely not an experienced rider capable of training her to her full potential, in my opinion. I don't want to sell her because she means so much to me, but I want her to be happy and well-trained. We were doing great and improving a lot, but then she hurt her leg (it's completely healed now) and was off for 2 months. Now she's a lot for me to handle. I'm trying my hardest to work with her but sometimes I'm lost as to what to do. I just need some advice :'( I've been crying for days at the thought of selling her because she is my first horse after 13 years of wishing for one, but I just want her to be happy.
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post #2 of 12 Old 11-11-2010, 06:37 PM
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Horses are happy just being safe and grazing in a pasture...sounds like you're not sure if this horse will make you happy.

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post #3 of 12 Old 11-11-2010, 06:57 PM
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Originally Posted by PaintHorseMares View Post
Horses are happy just being safe and grazing in a pasture...sounds like you're not sure if this horse will make you happy.
Agreed. Your horse wont care if she makes it big as a jumper. She'd probably be quite content never being ridden again but we cant have that! It's up to you whether you think you can handle her or if you'd want a more consistent horse for the time being.
I know what it's like to have an inexplicable urge to sell a horse even if you think they're awesome, but the truth it that maybe what you really want deep down is somthing that can help you progress & get better before taking on a horse that has to learn as well, especially if you're having troubles with her now.
You can either keep her, spend more on training & give her a really good try. Or sell her to someone who will be able to work with her & enjoy her & find yourself a horse that you truly "click" with.
Best of luck! And DO NOT feel bad for wanting to sell/selling her. There are millions of horses out there & you'll find the one just for you believe me! It took me 4 years of buying, selling & trading to find my mare.

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post #4 of 12 Old 11-11-2010, 08:22 PM
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It doesn't sound like you really want to sell her. Is working with a trainer to help you progress with her a possibility?

If I were in your shoes, I'd try to keep working with her until I was positive I wanted sell her. You can always choose to sell her down the road, but you really can't un-sell her.
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post #5 of 12 Old 11-11-2010, 08:59 PM Thread Starter
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I wish I could have a trainer work with us, but 1) I live in a tiny town where I'm pretty sure that I am the only one who rides english and does jumping :P The good stables are about 1.5 hours away. 2) I don't have a trailer so bringing her anywhere isn't an option. 3) I don't have much money. I'm barely scraping by as it is.
Y'all are probably right, she'd be perfectly fine being a pasture horse, it's me that wants something better for the both of us. I'm definitely not giving myself a time limit on making a decision of whether to sell or not. I'm going to work with her and get her back into shape (she lost weight/muscle during her time off) and if I'm doing better with her by then, I won't sell. If it's still the same thing, we're not getting along, we're not clicking, then I'll sell her to someone who will enjoy and love her. I want a horse that I can have fun with, that I can work with without worrying about doing the wrong thing and messing them up. I love her, but I haven't been enjoying riding and training. I know it's not always happy-go-lucky, but every day is a fight.

Best of luck! And DO NOT feel bad for wanting to sell/selling her. There are millions of horses out there & you'll find the one just for you believe me! It took me 4 years of buying, selling & trading to find my mare.
Thank you for this. I have been feeling selfish for wanting to "give up" on my horse. Now I know that it's not giving up, it's trying to find something better for both of us.
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post #6 of 12 Old 11-12-2010, 05:29 AM
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I think its good be honest with yourself about what you want, what your horse wants is just an excuse. For us to truly give them what they want we'd put them in a huge paddock with a few friends and grass up to their knees, brush them every couple of days and feed them heaps of carrots.

If you can't handle her and you are not enjoying it consider getting something more trained.

Perhaps you can save up and once every three months or something truck to a clinic somewhere. That way you are traveling less but still have instruction.
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post #7 of 12 Old 11-12-2010, 08:29 AM
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I honestly feel like I should sell my horse sometimes, like he could do so much better, be soo good at everything...
but then I think, Buzz probably doesn't really care that he isn't a top horse, hes probably over the moon that he gets fed everyday, gets loved on everyday and just loves to go out exploring.
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post #8 of 12 Old 11-12-2010, 10:08 AM
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To be honest with you, I have own, bred, trained and sold a lot of horses, and as much as I adore horses and always will, selling them getting out of them, was the best thing I could have done. Financially I can now say I am doing VERY well as I don't spend every penny I make into horses again AND it gives me a lot of free time to focus on family and other things that are important in my life.

HOWEVER you have to be honest with yourself. Are you selling her because of financial and time management reasons, or are you honestly thinking you are holding her back, and will be looking at a different horse?

If it's a financial and time reasons, it's perfectly fine to think along that line. Things in your life must have changed since you've bought her for you to re-think your current life-on the other hand if its a training "issue" I would definitely think about it some more. Horses don't think like us. They dont sit in the field thinking "oh I wish she would allow me to jump 4 foot fences, or I wish I could be doing 2nd level dressage". Horses are happy in a healthy, fulfilling environment with their owner. As long as her basic life needs are being given and provided, she will be very happy continuing at your current level of riding. Especially if staying in horses is what you want, if she is as talented as you say she is, I would definitely hold onto her. There are no problems with the 2 of you continuing to grow together as you become more experienced as a rider-a big mistake a lot of people make(one I have done myself).

Make yourself a list of the pros and cons-dont share it with anyone. Do YOURSELF that list and then decide what you want to do.
Good luck selling your first horse is never easy.
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post #9 of 12 Old 11-12-2010, 04:07 PM
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Your horse doesn't care one way or another when it comes to competition. I don't think she'll be angry with you for not getting her to the Olympics. If you're just worried about holding her back or whatnot, don't be. It doesn't make any difference to her.

Now, if she's becoming too much for you to handle, that's a whole different story. If she's too much horse for you, that can be very dangerous, and I would encourage you to consider finding her another home with a more experienced rider. If that isn't the case, and as long as you're happy with her, I don't see any reason to sell her. It's totally up to you.

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post #10 of 12 Old 11-12-2010, 06:03 PM Thread Starter
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Y'all are right, me selling her because "she could be great" is just my way to make myself feel better about giving up on her.
I will def do the pros/cons list, I think that would be good. As of now, walking is the only thing we can do without me getting nervous that she's going to take off. The most enclosed area I have to ride her in is her pasture and that's still big. She's super fast and I can't seem to get her to slow down no matter what I do. I sit deep, I sqeeze on the reins (not pull) and still, I can't ride her without getting nervous, which in turn makes her nervous.
If I sell her, yes, I will be looking for a new horse. I used to want a horse that I could eventually show and be a tough competitor with. Now, I just want a horse to enjoy. If I end up being able to do some schooling shows with them, great! If not, that's okay. Dasha is not the type of "let's go take a trail ride and relax" horse. I always have to be on my guard with her. I can't work on myself because I'm always working on her.
I just don't know anymore! First I was positive I wanted to keep her. Second, I was positive I wanted to sell her. Now I have no earthly idea...
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