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post #11 of 28 Old 10-03-2013, 12:23 AM
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I can see it from both sides. I can clearly remember those couple generous souls who saw a kid/preteen girl that loved horses and offered to let me ride. I was so thankful and now I try to give back to kids whenever possible because I remember that feeling of pure JOY of just being on the horse. It was awesome.

Now that doesn't mean that every horse is a good match for a kid. One of the ones I was on wasn't. So you have to exercise your best judgement when it comes to the safety of the horse and the kid. I do think the "not allowed to touch" comment was over the top and rude. And tbh, it probably would have broken my 12 year old heart to know that I wasn't allowed to pet a horse. I hope you didn't make that comment directly to the kid.
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post #12 of 28 Old 10-03-2013, 01:16 AM
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I'm assuming, OP, that the horses are kept at your place - presumably your parents? If so, it may be worthwhile to have the conversation with them that you did not give permission for her to ride and that at the very least, because of liability issues, they reinforce the rule.
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post #13 of 28 Old 10-03-2013, 10:05 AM
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Too many people suing these days, sad......I would not have a problem saying no.
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post #14 of 28 Old 10-03-2013, 10:29 AM
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If she's so horse crazy she can get her fix at a lesson barn. Love it (not) when people think horses should be free for the taking just because they 'lurve' them. However, if you asked them for the use of something they've paid a lot of money for and love, they'd be all indignant and 'how dare you!!!'.

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post #15 of 28 Old 10-03-2013, 10:39 AM
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I wish I had the firmness you do, but literally anyone that asks me to ride, gets to. Ugh. All the neighbor kids? Yep. (Fortunately they are all on the leadline).
Friends? Mostly. Which I'm fine with as long as they listen to my constant, "move your hands with him, move your body, relax, sit up straight, relax, relax, RELAX!"
Boyfriends? I've tried, but it won't ever work. They don't listen to my constant nit picking, so they have lost their oppurtunity. Heck, one wouldn't listen to me, and ended up having my horse bolt (that never bolts) and take off with him around the arena..multiple a gallop...

I decide now by if they are willing to listen and learn, I will allow them to ride. Now if they act like they know everything, and think all you have to do is pull to steer, pull to stop and kick to go, nope. One case I had my cousins friend come over who bothered me for 2 hours to ride, and eventually I caved in. He said he had ridden before, bragging how good he was... I got sick of listening to it and told him to get on.. No less than 2 minutes later, my horse was trotting with his nose in the air, taking advantage of him. Hmm, I thought you knew how to ride? Huh.

I personally would say no to her too.
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post #16 of 28 Old 10-03-2013, 10:44 AM
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I know some are saying that telling the kid not to even touch the horse was a bit over the top, but look at it this way. The young girl is brushing the horse. Said horse is not happy about a particular spot that is being groomed and the horse either spins and kicks her or turns and bites her because she can not move out of the way fast enough. Now her parents want to sue because she was hurt.
I'm a plus sized rider and there are days that I am a bit slower than I would like to be, but I am also an adult who has been around horses for 38 years so I am pretty good at reading them and can avoid an issue. She would not be able to do that.

Or everything goes well with the grooming and said girl starts to feel that the horse is hers and she can go over to see the horse when ever she wants.

I don't think you were wrong and your sister will just have to suck it up and deal with it. The horse isn't hers to offer rides on.
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post #17 of 28 Old 10-03-2013, 10:50 AM
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I don't think there is anything wrong with you saying no. First and foremost, he is YOUR horse. Not hers. Not your sister's. You should have a say over who is and is not allowed to handle him.

Then, there is the issue of weight. The cut off for most lesson barns/trail riding places are 250 lbs. That's a huge amount of weight for most horses to carry, and is basically the topmost tier. There's no way 300 lbs of someone who doesn't know how to carry themselves would be good for your horse.
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post #18 of 28 Old 10-03-2013, 03:25 PM
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Really, no offense in any way to the girl.... But how under earth is a 12 year old girl 300lbs?
Btw: I would say no as well.
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post #19 of 28 Old 10-03-2013, 03:38 PM
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Your horse, your rules! Saying the girl is not allowed to touch the horse seems a little over the top, but if you feel that's what it takes to get the point across to your sister, then so be it.

I agree though, make this point very clear to your parents. I wouldn't put it past some little sisters that I know to go and do it anyway, and you're not there to enforce it. Assuming the horse is in your name (not theirs) you have final say over the horse and they (as property owners) have final say over what goes on on their property.
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post #20 of 28 Old 10-03-2013, 03:59 PM
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I also agree with saying no.

As for the touching, if you said she was allowed to do that and she enjoyed it what's to stop her from going further if you're not around?

It might be a little harsh but better safe than sorry.
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