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post #1 of 3 Old 08-30-2013, 06:45 PM Thread Starter
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Starting To Feel Stressed And Frustrated

So, I work with my coach teaching little kids in riding lessons. She does most of the teaching, though, because quite frankly, she's more knowledgeable than I am. I'm there to help kids groom, tack up, set up courses in the ring, and be an anchor for some horses who have a lot of go. But first of all, this whole talking to people I don't know, stressing me right out. I'm not a big talker. However, after being there for sometime, I feel like I've opened up a little and am finding it easier to actually open my mouth. But one of the girl's mom that is always there is really starting to grate on my nerves. I know first impressions are everything, and she really comes off as "I used to own horses, so I know everything there is to know" to me. Some of the kids and I have yet to warm up to each other, simply because I don't talk as much as a normal person should, so her daughter always asks her for help, and before I can even do anything, she's right in there like a dirty shirt doing my job, and my coach has told that the parents shouldn't be doing the work for me. And I think she's noticed that that this parent gets in there before I do, so she said in front of everyone. It was embarrassing, but effective, because she backed off, which was great. But now she's started to just tell the kids what to do, because apparently I'm smart enough for my job. I don't know if I should say something to her, or to my coach, but I'm extremely frustrated.

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post #2 of 3 Old 08-30-2013, 08:45 PM
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I'd start by talking to your coach about it. Helping the kids tack up/etc is part of your job. If there is a client who is refusing this service or doesn't want your help, it needs to be discussed with your coach so it doesn't reflect badly on you.

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post #3 of 3 Old 08-30-2013, 08:59 PM
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I would say something. If you're not comfortable talking to the mom maybe ask the coach if she could say a few words to her in private. This is how I see it, you can't be in two places at once but you do know your job and will get to the next person as soon as you can. There is no need for an untrained spectator to jump in and 'help'. Her and her daughter must simply learn the virtue of patience.
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